Bullying is destroying him

@Nawsheen (28643)
Mauritius
April 13, 2017 2:37pm CST
This is about my nephew. He refused to go to school few weeks back and  was also very moody. His parents knew that something was wrong and took him to a child psychologist. Finally he confessed that he was being bullied at school. He is a chubby kid and he said that he was being called names and made fun of. He is on holidays now and is regularly meeting the psychologist. I can say that he is much better now. The parents went to meet the headmaster and teacher to try solve this issue. They are still considering whether to change his school. Wonder what will happen when the school holidays are over.
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@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
13 Apr 17
I had a bully when I was about 10 or 11. Another girl at school would come in every morning and punch me in the stomach. No one else was ever around to witness it, so the teacher couldn't do anything to help me. One weekend while I was out walking with a friend, I saw my bully walking with her friend. I made the decision to confront her once and for all. I screamed at her and said I was ready to give her what was coming to her, and I was prepared for a physical fight. And you know what? She backed down, walked away and never bothered me again. Most bullies are like that. I really hope your nephew learned to stand up for himself one day. It will go a long way to getting him through life.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
14 Apr 17
Even we want him to be strong and to be able to defend himself. This psychologist has been a great help. My nephew is much happier now. I just hope that when school resumes there won't be any such episodes again.
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@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
14 Apr 17
@Nawsheen I hope that will be the case for him. He deserves some peace in his life
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21 Apr 17
good job!! I punched my male bully too in highschool! I grabbed his collar ,shook him hard and push him until he was lying on the floor. All my classmates witnessed it and surprisingly our teacher did not stop me from doing it. @CRK109
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
13 Apr 17
changing school is not the answer.sort of coward.Work it out and find out what is going on before you make a big change
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
14 Apr 17
In fact they met up with the teachers and they said they will look into the matter and ensure that no such things happen again. I hope his parents just make the right decision
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
14 Apr 17
@Nawsheen yes,these things take time slowly.But will win out.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Apr 17
Good thing the parents have noticed his refusing to go to school. Nowadays, parents should really be on the watch out for attitude change because it could really be because of bullying at school.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
18 Apr 17
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
18 Apr 17
@Lupita234 absolutely
@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
14 Apr 17
that is sad to hear
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
14 Apr 17
Oh yes. Ever since we took him to the psychologist he seems to be doing better
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
15 Apr 17
@Nawsheen thats good
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
17 Apr 17
Kids can be very cruel but the teacher and headmaster should be making sure he isn't bullied.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
They promised that they will look into it and ensure that no such things happen again. Hope that they stick to their words
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
18 Apr 17
@Lupita234 oh yes hope they assume their responsibility
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@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
13 Apr 17
I hated reading this, because i feel for your nephew. And no child should be made fun of or have to change schools cause of jerk kids.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
14 Apr 17
Exactly. The parents met with the headmaster and teacher and they said they will look into the matter and ensure that no such things happen again. They also said that they will talk to the bullies
@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
@Courtlynn i hope that they stick to their words. Maybe if disciplinary actions are taken against the bullies they will learn their lesson
@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
14 Apr 17
@Nawsheen but will they actually do it and will it make it stop or make them bully more because he told... thats the tough part
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@youless (112507)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Apr 17
I think there are bullies everywhere. Even if when we grow up, sometimes we are still being bullied by others. I think it is better to know how to handle it. In fact my son is often bullied by other children, especially when he was in primary school. But he seems to be a positive and generous person and he didn't mind it very much. When he wrote down something funny happened in his school, he wrote that he was fooled in the April Fool's Day. When I read that, I had to laugh.
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@youless (112507)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Apr 17
@Nawsheen In fact when my son goes home, I often ask him what's the happy thing happened in school. I hope he will feel studying in school is happy. Although the study pressure is high here...
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
@youless even here the pressure is high. Competition is very tough
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
14 Apr 17
I hope that my nephew was just like your son. In fact he is a bit shy too. I guess with the help of the psychologist he will overcome this
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 Apr 17
It's sad that so many kids are being bullied. I hope that the school addresses the issue and things get better for your nephew.
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
17 Apr 17
@Nawsheen Let's hope it doesn't happen again.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
@dodo19 oh yes. Hope so
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
Yes the headmaster and teachers said that disciplinary action will be taken against the bullies. And they will try their best to ensure no such things happen to any kids
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@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
18 Apr 17
Changing school is a good move, but will not solve his problem. he has to learn to face up to the bullying. I think when he learns to accept the "names", and join in the fun, he will be acceptable by the classmates. The more he resent, the more they will want to tease him.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
18 Apr 17
I guess you are right. In fact the visits to the psychologist gave proved to be fruitful. He is more confident now.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
21 Apr 17
@scheng1 we want him to be able to defend himself. He needs to be strong
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@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
19 Apr 17
@Nawsheen There are only 3 ways to deal with it. One is to fight back, but it takes a lot of courage. Another is to join in. When someone calls him Fatty or whatever, he just adopts the insulting name. At least the others know that he can take a joke against himself, and like him for it. The worst way is to avoid it.
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@Deepizzaguy (102970)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
18 Apr 17
Hopefully your nephew will deal with this bully by learning not to allow insults to get under his skin. I know it is easier said than done. Being the victim of a bully is not fun but learning how to deal with negative words by thinking to yourself "I am above that" will be useful.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
18 Apr 17
The visits to the psychologists have helped my nephew regained his confidence. He has to become stronger
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
21 Apr 17
@Deepizzaguy maybe i should look for this cartoon. I so want my nephew to be able not to bother about those insults and also to teach the bullies a lesson
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@Deepizzaguy (102970)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
18 Apr 17
@Nawsheen There is a cartoon movie on PBS Kids called "The Rise Of Miss Power" which stars their hero Wordgirl as she tackles the problem of bullies from her new teacher Miss Power. It is very useful for your nephew to handle horrible insults.
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@Mike197602 (15505)
• United Kingdom
13 Apr 17
why is he with a psychologist? If he's fat he needs to be with a nutritionist and so do his parents. The bullying needs to be addressed with the school. My way of dealing with bullies is not so PC so I'll not share it...but it will work
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
14 Apr 17
Oh yes the parents did meet with the headmaster and teachers and they said they will look into the matter. The headmaster said they will take disciplinary actions. I would like to know some of your ways though
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@Kandae11 (55040)
13 Apr 17
Changing schools might not solve the problem - there are bullies everywhere. But this shouldn't be allowed to continue - something has to be done.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
14 Apr 17
That is why the parents decided to meet the headmaster and teacher. To find a solution to this problem. They said that they will ensure that no such things happen again and will talk to those kids.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
17 Apr 17
Oh no. That's so sad. So tough for kids to deal with. I wish he gets fine soon n I think changing the kid's section who's bullying him to other section is better
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
The headmaster and teacher promised that disciplinary actions will be taken and they will make sure that no such things happen again
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
@ShifaLk yes you are right. 11 years
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
17 Apr 17
@Nawsheen yes that's better Punishment should be given to the one who's bullying and not the one who is being bullied. What's his age,?
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@Mass_Sonu (1021)
• India
17 Apr 17
@Nawsheen This is so sad & depressing. I'm a bit chubby myself, and during school days, few comments were always made about that, but I was never bullied this severely. Hope the issue will be resolved & the parents rightly took this to school authorities after counselling.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
18 Apr 17
The headmaster and teachers promised they will look into the matter and take disciplinary actions if needed. Hope they stick to their words
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
18 Apr 17
@Mass_Sonu they need to else the authorities would be after them
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@Mass_Sonu (1021)
• India
18 Apr 17
@Nawsheen I'm sure they would, because as respected members of teaching profession, they need to take care of this.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
15 Apr 17
Some children can be so cruel .. I was bullied really bad when when I was in primary school .. not only by some of the students but also by some of the teachers .. I think we need to educated the children about bullying on how not to do it and how to cope with it ..
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
Oh that's bad. I am so sorry for you. Can't believe that the teachers were doing it too. I think to educate them about bullying can be helpful
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
21 Apr 17
@Nawsheen Thanks.. but yeah, that was the way back then ..
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
14 Apr 17
Maybe the kid should lose some weight @Nawsheen . Not just to help stop the bullying but for his own self-esteem.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
I strongly agree about losing weight. Even the psychologist requested it. I hope that the parents help him to lose weight
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
16 Apr 17
I'm so sorry to hear this awful news. Bullying is NOT tolerated here. Hopefully, those bullies will be found out and punished!
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
I hope that the headmaster takes disciplinary action against them.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
17 Apr 17
@Nawsheen They need counseling, too.
@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Apr 17
That's terrible. I hope the psychologist is helping him. I don't think changing schools would be the answer. He would have the same problems in the new school.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
18 Apr 17
The psychologist is definitely helping him. He is more confident now. The teachers and headmaster have also said that they will ensure that no such incidents take place again and will take disciplinary measures
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Apr 17
@Nawsheen That's great!
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@JudyEv (340254)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Apr 17
This is very sad. I guess there is no guarantee that he won't be bullied at any other school. I hope they are able to fix the problem.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
14 Apr 17
That's true. The teachers have said that they will look into the matter and ensure that this doesn't happen again. Hope that they stick.to their words
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@JudyEv (340254)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Apr 17
@Nawsheen It seems to be hard to stamp out bullying.
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@tarah9 (562)
16 Apr 17
yea psychologist help, maybe this episode will make him even stronger
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 Apr 17
Yes he is doing much better now. And the teachers and headmaster said that they will look into the matter and make sure no such things happens again