People who think they are Google
By Nawsheen
@Nawsheen (28643)
Mauritius
May 14, 2017 4:12pm CST
Have you come across those people who think they know everything. I am so sick of those people as they just don't bother about other people opinions and always think that they are right.
We are actually dealing with such a difficult person at work. She thinks that she knows everything and she is the only one who can get things done. She is always monopolizing conversations. She has such a strong opinion of herself that she refuses to collaborate for team activities and is never open to new ideas. She is always talking and never listening. Our boss talked to her but she she hasn't changed a bit.
Can you please suggest how to deal with such a person.
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42 responses
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
14 May 17
I WAS that person!! Thank God I've matured because if I was still that way at my age (63) I'd be in real trouble!
The reason I needed to be the authority on all knowledge was to feel superior to others. I actually felt so inferior and lacking in beauty and skills that I used my "knowledge" to try to bring me up to the level of whomever I was with. Everyone was prettier, smarter, better dressed, more skillful, better socially, and just better in every way than I was. I was like this well into my 50s, believe it or not.
It was only after I escaped from a toxic marriage--thank God he filed for divorce because I never would have--and began living on my own far away that I saw some very unsettling things in my life and had the opportunity to examine my feelings and why I had them.
You are dealing with someone who is acting superior because he/she feels so inferior. Say some nice things every so often, compliment her shoes, her clothing, ask her for her opinion on things. And don't just say "nice shoes, Martha", say "I really like those shoes, do you think they have them in my size? Where did you get them?" Be sincere.
She'll gain confidence if people help her and she won't have to be such a know it all.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
15 May 17
Hey thank you very much for those tips. I am so happy for you that you are no longer thst person. I am sure that you feel much better now. I never thought that my colleague might be having self confidence problems. I will try to follow the tips you mention.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
15 May 17
@Bluedoll that's bad though and we must try to help those people as @dragon54u suggested
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
14 May 17
I hate dealing with people like that. I just try not to associate myself with people like that.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
15 May 17
@infatuatedbby in fact this boss just doesn't bother about it. He really has no people management skills
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
15 May 17
@Nawsheen Darn, that is no fun. I'd think the boss would scare her a bit, but she didnt' care?
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@ptrikha_2 (46976)
• India
16 May 17
@Nawsheen
Yes the issue is very serious- that person might have to be shuffled somewhere, or may be some higher up will need to talk to that person.
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@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
14 May 17
Yes. My bf is a know it all. Everyone but him is always wrong (unless they agree with him of course). Ugh hate know it alls.
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@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
14 May 17
@nomus24g no but hes not that bad of a guy just because hes a know it all so no reason to dump him for it
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
15 May 17
Those are very difficult people to deal with. I usually minimize my contact with such individuals.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
15 May 17
@Nawsheen I understand! Looking at the situation in a positive way, remember how a pearl is made?
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
16 May 17
@1hopefulman oh yes. I can understand what you mean
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
15 May 17
Everywhere you will find such people . They are so dominating that they always ignore other's opinions. The best way to deal with such people is to avoid her. In the starting she may not realize it what's wrong but after few days she will realise that something is wrong with her that's why people are neglecting her
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@Letranknight2015 (51971)
• Philippines
16 May 17
I'm glad I'm not part of the work force anymore. Otherwise, I would have felt extremely annoyed everyday seeing this person at work.
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@TheHorse (218967)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 May 17
I have a brother who tells me about what playing music professionally is like (he doesn't play an instrument and I play professionally) and another friend who gives me advice in how to be a good child psychologist (children and animals flee from him in radial symmetry). So I guess my answer is "yes." I would just avoid such people, unless you have your "don't give a sh*t" mojo working.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
17 May 17
I feel so bad that you have to deal with those people too. Some people just don't know anything and just give ''nonsense'' advise because they want to have their say in everything. But they are only lowering themselves by trying to prove they are ''know it all''.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
14 May 17
I wish I had some advice, but I think it's well to agree - avoid conflict and realize that other people will come to know what she is like, if they haven't already. Good luck!
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
15 May 17
@Nawsheen Ah yes, unfortunately sometimes one must pick one's battles as it is...
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
16 May 17
@Letranknight2015 we are hoping that she gets a transfer soon
@Letranknight2015 (51971)
• Philippines
16 May 17
@Nawsheen Get her fired..it's gonna cost the whole department having some one like that.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
15 May 17
It will depend which position she is holding in hierarchy in your office. If she is a middle level or senior level executive, then it will not be easy to handle her. If she is neither of the two (above) then she needed to be told in clear terms that she needs to think in the larger terms so that organization could get benefit as a whole.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 May 17
@Nawsheen As one other mylotter has suggested, you should collectively speak to her about her attitude and she must be told in clear terms that she needs to mellow down and listen to others also.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
16 May 17
@dpk262006 I think that this is the best way to tackle the problem now
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@Iam_jauntyjen (5017)
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14 May 17
It is not easy to deal.with know it all.people.on the workplace.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 May 17
hmmm, that person is patronizing and condescending. i would not go near this person and not even listen to what she is blabbering about.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
15 May 17
I wish that i could really not interact with that person but unfortunately we have to work together at times and that's so tough. She is always having her ways. We have never left her felt how annoying she was. Maybe that's what we need to do now
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
15 May 17
@ridingbet in fact she is the same level as me but always likes to boss around. We preferred not to argue with her as she never understands. She is trapped in her own illusion. Maybe it is high time to show her that she is wrong now
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 May 17
@Nawsheen idoes she have a highr position than you? i also think those persons who show off, may actually be inferior, and being loud is their defense mechanism so they will not be put down by others. well, if i were you, i can just challenge this person and contradict whatever she says. i like discussions but not arguments.
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@shivamani10 (11035)
• Hyderabad, India
15 May 17
First, do things according to her and show the results for her comments.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
15 May 17
I think you are right here. She always rejects inputs from others and doesn't even consider all the facts when making decisions. When the results come out to be bad she always to find ways to prove she is not wrong. We have not really commented on her results maybe we must do it now
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
15 May 17
Look blankly at her as if you don't understand what she is saying.
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@Bodyandbrain (13797)
• Gurgaon, India
15 May 17
This kind of people are the most irritating one, they don't have any interest to listen or understand others opinions.
I think to let them be what they are but convey your opinion with confidence and grace is the way to deal with them.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
15 May 17
@Bodyandbrain yes you are right. Maybe we must act now
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@Bodyandbrain (13797)
• Gurgaon, India
15 May 17
@Nawsheen only you can understand the situation batter because you are facing it daily. Follow your instincts.
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