One of the reasons I have to stay on here
By Nancy Zink
@ramapo17 (30441)
Melbourne, Florida
June 5, 2017 10:56pm CST
I always liked being in touch with people and need to do so for my own sanity. My mom had Alzheimer's as she got older and between that and having a massive stroke, she spent over 6 years in a bed and wheel chair. She couldn't feed herself nor take care of herself.
She was never a social person and didn't have many friends. There was no reason for that as she was fun when we were together but I never realized how she must have been so lonely.
I tried to teach her how to use a computer and to play some games on it but all she did before she got sick was sit in front of a tv. She use to be a great cook and would make anything for anyone that mentioned something they liked.
I am determined not to get like that and make my children or grandchildren take care of me.
Soooo, it looks like you folks are stuck with me.
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24 responses
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 17
It is always wiser to remain active in one or the other kind of activity. Keeping ourselves busy and involved helps us maintain our health.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 17
@ramapo17 You are very wise and practical. 
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
6 Jun 17
@dpk262006 It is really a sad thing to see a loved one dealing with some issues that could have been avoided or helped. I know not all issues can be resolved but they are worth a try.
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@marguicha (223896)
• Chile
6 Jun 17
It is little known what causes Alzheimers, but I have heard that it helps to use your brain. But even if it has nothing to do with any outcome, mylot is a site where we have fun and learn a lot. So, here we are!
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@allknowing (138047)
• India
6 Jun 17
I think one's lifestyle does play a role in the infliction of Alzheimer's. You are doing the right thing by spending time with others even though it could be virtual.
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@allknowing (138047)
• India
7 Jun 17
@ramapo17 Good exercise for the fingers. Yours is touch typing then.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
6 Jun 17
You are right @allknowing. Besides good for the mind it is good for my hands that have arthritis. Typing is good exercise for them.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
7 Jun 17
@allknowing Yes it is. I need all the help I can get and typing keeps the fingers limber. I have arthritis and some bent fingers.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
6 Jun 17
Welcome. I and I am sure many others are happy "to be stuck with you".
I too have found that I feel good coming to mylot and "talking with " all of you. So hope you visit mylot as often as you can.
I too have found that I feel good coming to mylot and "talking with " all of you. So hope you visit mylot as often as you can.3 people like this
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
6 Jun 17
Us myLotters are stuck with each other!
Not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing!
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
6 Jun 17
@ramapo17 talking about a special place in heaven isn't really in my immediate plans right now. I do know we all have a special place in the interwebs!
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
6 Jun 17
And glad to have you.
I am so sorry to hear of your Mom.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
6 Jun 17
@ramapo17 I get it..I only have one grown son who is not well and no other family..long story.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
7 Jun 17
@TiarasOceanView Does your son live with you?
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
6 Jun 17
The only one who will take care of me is my husband since we have no family around here.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
7 Jun 17
@ramapo17 18 years... Second marriage for both.i don't have kids...He does.. Family I'd in NJ
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
7 Jun 17
@AbbyGreenhill I remember you saying about New Jersey because I told you I was from New Jersey also.
@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
6 Jun 17
@AbbyGreenhill At least you have him. How long have you been married? Where do your children and relatives live?
@GreatMartin (23671)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
6 Jun 17
I can't/won't picture a life ending as your mother's did which is why I feel Living Will is so important--at any age!
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
6 Jun 17
She did have a living will @GreatMartin but when the time came and the family was all together my dad said not to follow it and even though some of us did not agree with him, they doctors listened to him and that prolonged her life for near 5 years of care that she never even knew about. My dad just didn't want to let her go. It was so wrong for mom and all of us that had to take part in her dealing with the agony. We will never know if she knew what was going on.
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@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
6 Jun 17
Alzheimer's has been a burden to a family who had such condition.
Precautions is good to do.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
6 Jun 17
@shantalclay I try my best and I know there is more I can do but one step at a time.
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@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
6 Jun 17
@ramapo17 That's a good motivation for you to maintain your good health.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
7 Jun 17
@dodo19 I have learned more from being on here than I ever did in school. I have learned about many cultures and places I never knew existed. To bad I wasn't on here when I was in school I probably would have had much better grades.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
10 Jun 17
Oh, I am not a sociable person too. I do wonder what cause Alzheimer. I hope you stay more here.
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
7 Jun 17
That's what's nice about a site like this one @ramapo17 . It may be a virtual site but everything and anything can be discussed.
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