Not A Pleasant Weekend

@LadyDuck is her brother still in the hospital?

You are so right Barry. I have not seen her very well, she does not speak and she does not open her eyes. She is not young, the very strange coincidence is that his younger brother has been hospitalized for the same problem last week.

@hereandthere Yes, his brother is still in the hospital, he is already 94.

@LadyDuck Let us know when you can.

Thank you Judy, I wanted to stay there, but it seems I am more a problem than a help. I hope to have news in the next few hours.

@GardenGerty I am right back from Italy. I have spent many hours with her in the hospital, but she never opened her eyes and she seems not to hear voices. She does not look well at all.

Thank you, I hoe she can recover, but I do not wish her to continue to live if life should become vegetating in a bed. I am waiting for a call from my niece, my brother had to turn off the phone.

My niece keeps me updated every hour. My brother had to turn off the smartphone in the hospital.

@LadyDuck i'm glad she's there as your go-between. by the way, are you ahead, behind or in the same time zone as your mother?

@hereandthere We are in the same time zone.

@LadyDuck Yes, understood Anna, tho miracles do indeed happen.

@TiarasOceanView She is still in red code, but the Italian hospital has no free beds, so she is "parked" in the ER. My brother said not to go there now, not until she has a bedroom.

Thank you very much. My brother is not optimist, mainly due to her age.

Thank you, I cannot say that I am optimistic, I had a very bad feeling a few days ago.

@LadyDuck I understand. It will be fine.

@LadyDuck I hope you will be able to see her too.

Thank you very much, tomorrow I go to the hospital, I hope they will let me see her by tomorrow.

@much2say I have seen her, but she is not conscious. She keeps her eyes closed all the time and has no reactions to the voices and even to the touch. My brother now goes there.

@LadyDuck

We can never know, it's not yet the time to be pessimistic, we can always hope for a miracle.

That is understandable @LadyDuck I did not want that for my mom either.

@rebelann I have been to Italy yesterday to visit her in the hospital. She is in a comatose state, I hope that they will not insist to keep them alive attached to the machines, there is no reason to do this.

She has lived a long life, I do not ask to see her live longer if she had to stay immobilized in a bed.

@LadyDuck I know how you feel. Been through with those moments with my Dad and Mom too.

@marlina No matter how old they are, you cannot accept that it's the end.

I keep my hopes, but she is no more young, it's a depressing moment.

He always go to see her on Saturday and brings her to his apartment to have lunch together. I am glad he had the key of the house. He does not know when it happened exactly. I had talked to her Friday around 1 pm, he found her Saturday 10 am. He says she did not sleep in her bed, we suspect it happened Friday in the afternoon.

@jaboUK For what my brother says, she was not conscious. I hope he is right, poor Mom waiting all the night to be helped.

@LadyDuck So she could have been like that for quite a while. I hope she didn't know much about it. It's a worrying time for you.

I am waiting from news from my niece. I will go to Italy today to see her, as you say, she had a long and beautiful life, I do not want to see her in a bed like a vegetable.

@ridingbet She must stay in the hospital now, she cannot be moved. No, she cannot come here, because I live in another country and she has not the authorization to live in Switzerland. Not to mention that she has the medical assistance in Italy. At most she could be moved in my brother's apartment, but not now, she is in coma.

@LadyDuck won't she be staying in your house if ever she is stuporous?

Thank you, I know how much you love your Mom, so you can undersand.

@LadyDuck yes i do, shes my bestfriend. Wven when we fight.

I had news a few minutes ago, she is still in the ER, but she will be moved to a single room soon. I have been unable to see her today, I go to Italy tomorrow.

@LadyDuck glad you finally received some news. Hope things are improving for her.

So true, she is in God's hands and I do not want the doctors to keep her alive artificially.

She would have turned 97 in 3 weeks. If she has to stay immobilized in a bed, I prefer to see her go, because this is what she would ask if she could speak.

@pgntwo I have seen her today in the hospital. I cannot get off my mind what I have seen. I am so depressed tonight.

@LadyDuck I have read some of the comments here, sounds like recovery may be slow. I am thinking of you and your mom.

I am glad that my brother is a doctor. He can understand how serious the problem is, he will be the one who decides what is better for her.

@poehere My husband will drive me there in a few minutes, people are allowed to enter the hospital starting 1 pm, I will stay as long as they let me there.

@LadyDuck I know this is so hard. When my dad was so sick my mom called each one of us. He was on life support and this is not what he wanted. She told us she had to take out the feeding tube because he asked. I said you know mom he has suffered for so long. Please make him happy in the end and don't force him to go on if it is his time to go. Your brother loves your mom and he doesn't want to see her suffer either. He will do all he can for her and make her so comfortable. I'm sure he'll call you to go back to the hospital if there is nothing more he can do. I just hope she will wake up and be fine. It is so hard when one of your parents is sick an you have no idea if they will be fine or not. I know you wnt the best for her and she is getting the best help from your brother right now. Maybe tomorrow you can go and spend a bit of time with her. I know she'd like that.

My mother is 96, I fear that she will never recover, your mother-in-law is younger, but after a certain age it's hard to recover from a stroke. I hope that also your MiL will get better. Thank you.

@nela13 She is stable now, today I go to Italy to see her and to check personally if I see any improvement.

@LadyDuck How is your mother? Better?

@LadyDuck i was about to ask about that because i know you call her weekly and at the same time.

@hereandthere I called her every single day, not weekly, always around noon. If she was not at home because she went to my brother's house she called me to let me know.

I knew something was wrong when I called and she did not reply to the phone. I am so stressed now.

Thank you, I knew that any day I could have received bad news, 96 is a very old age.

@dgobucks226 You are never prepared, I would say that the more they age, the more you think they are unbreakable. I have been to Italy to visit her in the hospital yesterday, she is in coma. At this point I do not believe she can recover.

@LadyDuck My Dad is 97, even knowing this I will never be fully prepared if something serious happens.