Do you act as if all is fine but deep inside it's not?

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By Hope
@1hopefulman (45120)
Canada
February 27, 2018 1:52pm CST
Do you think that we are all actors, pretending that all is fine when it's not? I noticed the other day that I was walking around as if all was well but deep inside my boots my socks were sliding off and it was driving me crazy but I acted like a brave soldier instead of showing my displeasure as to what was actually happening. Has something similar happened to you? Today, a little stone was inside my shoe but just kept on walking though it bothered me. Maybe it's true after all that the only way to know what's going on in someone else's life is to walk a mile in their shoes? What do you think? What drives you crazy but you keep it all inside pretending that all is well? Do you remember the song The Great Pretender by The Platters?
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@jstory07 (139579)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Feb 18
Sometimes inside you are mad at someone while you pretend to be happy on the outside.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
So true! If they opened our mouths, they would see that we are biting our tongue.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
@rakski There are such occasions.
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@rakski (122350)
• Philippines
27 Feb 18
That is true pretending that everything is good and cool but deep inside you are in your boiling point.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
27 Feb 18
I do this often as I don't want people to feel sorry for me or to pity me. I would rather pretend all is well in front of people and feel the pain of it when I am alone.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
27 Feb 18
Yes, we hate to tell people all our troubles as most people don't really want to know.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
27 Feb 18
@1hopefulman Thats true.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
@cintol Hopefully, we all have a few friends that we can really rely on in desperate times.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
27 Feb 18
I try to see the positive things- there are something good in most circumstances..It helps to feel happier and after a while I actually feel better
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
28 Feb 18
@1hopefulman I am still in a sort of place, where I get extra care, as I need help with many things- this will take a long time..the bone heals slowly
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
@buenavida At least you have people helping you!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
27 Feb 18
Great! Are you still in the hospital and how are you doing?
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
27 Feb 18
I do at times.But work it out.This is normal thing to do.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
Yes, we want to give the impression that we are not weak but that we are strong and can take care of ourselves.
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• Northampton, England
27 Feb 18
its called being a man
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
@thedevilinme Reading through the responses, it seems that many women feel the same way. Interesting!
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• Northampton, England
28 Feb 18
@MaciMaci mademoiselle Maci needs one ;-)
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@MaciMaci (300)
• France
28 Feb 18
@thedevilinme Lol you make me laugh!!!
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
27 Feb 18
Yeah each and everyone acts in their life..there are some funny incident too like you shared.i don't want others to show pity on me.i do hide things don't want to give pain to others.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
Yes! Sometimes on public transportation I am offered a seat but I tell them thanks but I'm ok. I may be elderly but I still feel young and strong most of the time.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
1 Mar 18
@1hopefulman that's nice of you friend
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@Shavkat (139828)
• Philippines
28 Feb 18
I tried to conceal ill-feelings towards others. However, if it is too personal, I need to be frank with them.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
Yes, some things need to be discussed or else they may never be resolved and the situation will only worsen.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
4 Mar 18
@Shavkat That is true!
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@Shavkat (139828)
• Philippines
4 Mar 18
@1hopefulman Indeed, my friend. Some people are so insensitive sometimes.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
27 Feb 18
A few hours ago, I told my ophthalmologist that I wish he could be in my shoes for a few days, maybe he would understand what the problem is.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
Then he wouldn't need to ask.
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@LadyDuck (471354)
• Switzerland
28 Feb 18
I always say that I am fine even if I am not. I do not believe that people appreciate those who complain all the time. I keep my problems for myself.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
I do about the same. I am more known for being available to help then to ask for help.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
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@LadyDuck (471354)
• Switzerland
1 Mar 18
@1hopefulman I am not very good in asking for help, when I have problems, I try to fix them by myself.
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@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
27 Feb 18
If I've got a stone in my shoe, I find the nearest opportunity where I can sit down and take off my shoe.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
27 Feb 18
Yes, but sometimes it's so small that I wait a while especially in the cold and wet weather that we have in winter. It might even be a grain of salt the they use on the ice and it might melt in time.
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
28 Feb 18
@1hopefulman I take the stone out right away. Can't stand stones iny shoe!!!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
@db20747 When we have things that we are carrying and there is snow and slush all around then we need to find a suitable place where we can put things down and be able to take our boots off and find the little stone that is irritating our foot.
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@innertalks (21905)
• Australia
6 Mar 18
Even in a desolate scene such as this, one can find peace, love, and truth, can't one?
"Do you act as if all is fine but deep inside it's not?" Good question, but if we go deeper than deep, all is fine really, isn't it? This is because levels of deepness cover many things over with themselves, and yet the deepest level of deepness remains unperturbable, it is our inner core of love. When we feel bad then, and want to hide, we should go deeper under this feeling, and let the underlying love break free again, past these rocks holding it down, and be love again, even as God created us to be so. Photo Credit: The photo used here has been freely sourced from the free media site pixabay.com. Even in a desolate scene such as the one depicted here in this photo, one can still find peace, love, and truth, can't one?
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Mar 18
I think most people don't have peace, love and truth no matter how deep you go. I think most people are acting when they are with other people.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Mar 18
@innertalks Yes, but we were meant to live in a paradise and now we are making the earth a garbage dump. Our situation is so different from what God designed.
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@innertalks (21905)
• Australia
6 Mar 18
@1hopefulman Well, if we believe in God, I would have to say that God's original plan was to make us that way, peaceful, loving, and truthful. Sin has covered this stuff over with itself, but underneath it all, deep enough down, must remain the blueprints still in us of God's original plans for us, I think.
@Daelii (5619)
• United States
27 Feb 18
Yes! Though its been a while since I had to!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
May it continue to go in that direction!
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@dya80dya (36619)
27 Feb 18
Anxiety drives me crazy. I keep it inside pretenting all is well. This happens to me many times. I am a good actor sometimes. I laugh even if I want to cry. I smile even if I don't feel joy.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
Interesting! Do you think that it helps you to act in a positive way?
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
@db20747 So, you also feel that it is better to act more positive then things really are?
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
28 Feb 18
That's good because it's amazing it works!! U feel a ton better!!!
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@ANDROVA (92)
• Bandung, Indonesia
27 Feb 18
Actually in this real Life, there is no happiness permanently, but Just happy moment at glance and Last soon.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
27 Feb 18
Thanks for your comment! Yes, but there are ways to increase our moments of happiness as there are ways of increasing our moments of sadness.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
@db20747 Oh, why are we so negative? Is life that bad?
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
28 Feb 18
Yes one darned drop of happiness and an ocean of misery!!!
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
27 Feb 18
I do not think that it is acting, at times there are just situations that we cannot do much except hold our heads up high so us not to affect the people around us. As with the socks and stone, I don't think it's that hopeless, I'd probably find a rubber band, and I would take revenge on the stone by throwing it on the road where a lot of cars pass or a river if I find one
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
Yes, by holding our heads up we are inspiring and encouraging others instead of bringing them down.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Feb 18
@db20747 Yes, we need to keep moving forward!
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
28 Feb 18
@1hopefulman yes,and keep movin'
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@yugocean (9963)
• India
28 Feb 18
In fact I am, it is same like a little stone was inside shoe, but we just kept on walking. There is much something inside heart.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
I guess, we all like to act as if everything is going well, even if it is not.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
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@yugocean (9963)
• India
1 Mar 18
@1hopefulman Sure this is; but then we make ourselves forget it.
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@rakski (122350)
• Philippines
27 Feb 18
I think we are all good actors. I remeber walking with a new shoes with my blistered feet but I pretend nothing is wrong until I got to a store to buy a slipper.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
It is only when we go home that we show our pain.
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@RasmaSandra (79714)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Feb 18
With me these days it is very difficult. I am all alone with my cat Sid so I do not have to deal with people. I do have to deal with my late husband's daughter who comes to see me when she can. I feel sorry for her because I cannot help it. I am a nervous person and we are having a very difficult and cold winter. I have an old house an right no only one room I can get to keep warm and that is where I work on the PC. But then in the cold, as sometimes happens an electric cork pops out. I go hysterical there will be no heat then I push it back in and all is fine again but the terror stays with me. Then she asks me how I am and we all know what happens all of my fright and frustration come pouring out and the poor young woman must feel like it was better not to talk to me at all. I am in the process of making decisions to change my life and sell this house to I will be one happy camper when I walk away from it all.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
You are in a challenging situation and have a lot to deal with. Life is not easy at this time. Hopefully things will improve soon!
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
28 Feb 18
Most of the time I am me and if do not want to smile then I don't. Yes, I have things inside and when things continue to be inside then one day I explode and do not like to act that way but just one thing can do it for me and it is the ones that deserve it get it from me. If I do not like someone and I know they do not care how I am and ask how I am so I say fine and walk on. I do not ask them because I do not care.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
2 Mar 18
@Hannihar Struggles continue and so must we.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Mar 18
It looks like your life has not always been easy.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
2 Mar 18
@1hopefulman Hope it has not and there are still times it is hard too.
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• New Delhi, India
6 Mar 18
Its only when we step into someone's shoes then only we will be able to understand his or her problem
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Mar 18
Yes, I totally agree with that because most people hide what they are by pretending and acting.
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