Were you/are you popular at school?

We did not have the notion who was popular who wasn't. Neither we had this thing called bullying. But from what I understand "being popular" or not constitute....... in my time, a "popular" student / group was either a studious one (which was good popular) or a rowdy / characterless one (which was bad popular). No, I am not being judgemental one. Just putting it into my country's context / terms. I belonged to the studious one so I guess I was popular. Although, I didn't feel or see what privilege that gave us as compared to those who were not "popular". We didn't even act any different. We were just kids attending school and doing what we were supposed to be doing which was study or any other extra curricular activities we had in our calendar. Unless you consider the "bad popular" ones. Some admired them. Some despised them. Largely students tended to avoid them in fear their name will get tainted as well.

Like you, I was on the geeky side in school. I was moderately popular with the people who needed and ask for my help with things since I was always willing to go above and beyond what was needed. I still am considered to be on the geeky side, even at my job now. That is one reason I was hired and am still working there. I hadn't realized you were back. I am glad I stopped by tonight and found your response on a different discussion. How have you been lately? Anything new and interesting to talk about?

I was always the bookworm. So for those who were serious about their books, I was popular although that crowd was small. But for other things, I wasn't popular. My friends were one or two persons.

How I hate bullies. They never cease to exist. :(

I was not popular, or even part of the 'in' crowd. I didn't mind it. I was me. I still am me.

Yes I was popular in my school life but not in whole school only in my classroombecause I was very famous among girls

I was picked on a lot but I irritated people on purpose so a lot of it was my fault. I have more wrinkles now but I'm prettier now then I was in school since my face lost the baby fat.

It depends on how you define popular. I was miserable in junior high because I had only one close friend. The boys teased me a lot in sometimes cruel ways, though they did not pick on me physically. In high school I found a few friends with similar "brainy" interests. The words 'geek" and "nerd" weren't in use yet, but we would have been considered as such. We liked to read and discuss books. We liked to have conversations about ideas. Almost all my friends at my high school were male because the guys were the most interesting to talk to. Only one of them was popular, and that's because he played varsity football. He was a friend, but he wasn't part of our crowd. He was part of the popular crowd. Although it hurt sometimes in high school to know I wasn't part of the "in" group, I did have individual friends who were part of it. I also had a few close friends at church who also weren't part of the clique that seemed to rule the group there. As I look back, I understand why I wasn't part of those groups. I wasn't willing to give up my individuality and conform to be like them. I'm glad I didn't. I'm still married after over fifty years. Most of them aren't. Those who were my close friends have also had long marriages and led happy lives. From my perspective now, I realize those in the cliques needed them to feel secure. I didn't. Although I was friendly and liked people, I also liked privacy in my personal life. I didn't want to have to share every detail of my life with eight other girls. Nor did I want to participate in their gossip sessions. My close friends didn't gossip. We tried to help each other solve problems when we had them, but we found no joy in teasing others or gossiping about them. I think if one feels secure, one doesn't need the security blanket of a group of "being popular."

I don't think I was ever popular at school although I did have a circle of friends. In my junior school, I was certainly bullied. By the time I got my senior school, I wasn't really going at all of the first few years.and IEused to bunk off so much that some teachers didn't even know existed. However, I have a degree, a PGCE and an MA diploma to my name and various other qualifications and I've written books. I was also a bit geeky. However, it never occurred to me that I actually looked quite good and that might have been a source of jealousy!

I was neither ultra-cool nor bullied. We had a block full of kids, and most of my friends lived close to me.

I was not popular at school but had friends. I was fat off and on so people were unkind to me.

I didn't care about being popular at school - my two sisters were my friends.

I think we are either the oppressed or oppressor at scholl

I can identify with your story. I was unpopular, too.

I wasn't popular. I did have a few friends though, but I wasn't part of the popular cool crowd. i was alright with that. I didn't mind. I had some good friends, and that's what I cared about.

Ditto here. I was not popular and only had a handful of friends.

I had my group of friends but I cannot say that I was popular.

Yes I'm quite popular for being a silent student ..but I'm not silent at all..the ones who are close to me only knows it hehe..yeah I'm good at studies too.

no.. not at all... i've never experienced being popular in my group coz i'm the shy type of person thou my friends are popular because they are intelligent and dean's lister but me, no.. i'm just an average student before.. but it's ok.. i have a lot of good memories being in an average student...

I was popular at school when i was in college but not on my real name, nobody knows my real name. Lol