Why Do You Hesitate?
By DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
Bangalore, India
March 7, 2018 7:24am CST
Jump right in! No one is stopping you. Nowhere in the guideline it says that you are not allowed to jump in the middle of any conversation and join the said conversation.
Then why do you hesitate? Or do you feel intimidated by the camaraderie of certain myLot members with each other?
Please don't be! There is no need to feel left out.
When I joined the site, I knew no one. I didn't even know how the site worked but I was fascinated with the conversations going around me. The freedom with which people stated their point and the respect with which the said points were received even if they were opposing views.
That atmosphere lured me in and I was soon putting my cents in wherever I felt I could add something. I was interacting with strangers who quiet obviously knew each other well and even appear to be good friends.
That did not stop me and neither any of them ever objected me or saw me as "intruding". I was welcomed warmly and soon they were my friends as well. I was also a part of the "inner circle" (as some perceive it).
Believe me, it's better than sitting at the sidelines and observing others having fun. Or better yet than deluding yourself into believing that you are being ignored or left out. 
How can you be ignored when you didn't join in the first place?
Just take a chance, people. You never know what or who you end up bonding with. I certainly do not regret it. I am glad with what I gained here. 
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20 responses
Or stick their nose in everyone's business. 
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
7 Mar 18
@vandana7 I think urine mingling is sorta given thing. 
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@GardenGerty (160996)
• United States
8 Mar 18
Very well put. I think many of us are pretty relaxed with new friends. I have always loved this site.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@GardenGerty Yes we are. And yes myLot is a great platform. I feel enriched with friends, wealth of knowledge and life- lessons that I gained here and still gaining.
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I'll be all over the place if I have more time to spend here. @Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 18
@vandana7 Wow, you really know me that well. 
I will try to find time to pop in here now and then. Can't be letting @Daljinder jumping all over the place alone. 
I will try to find time to pop in here now and then. Can't be letting @Daljinder jumping all over the place alone. 2 people like this
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@sol_cee Some makes me question my own race....human race that is!
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@Hannihar I am glad you find it welcoming as well. 
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
7 Mar 18
I agree with you, people who think they are being intruded upon when somebody joins their conversation are missing a lot, so does one who hesitates to join in.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@mydanods Interaction = myLot. Running after money won't help. If we put money on back burner and just interact, cents add up quickly.
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@LadyDuck (472087)
• Switzerland
10 Mar 18
@Daljinder I have noticed that some people are doing defaming posts, but they are quickly deleted now.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@LadyDuck Yes! That is right. Also keeping the interaction positive and encouraging. I notice people are still doing "defaming" posts even though admin has advised against it multiple times.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Mar 18
I jump into many conversations, but often times nobody responds back. It gets discouraging after a while.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@Srbageldog I am sorry you have such experience. 
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
10 Mar 18
@Srbageldog I agree with Vanny. DE and Vanny specifically will drag you anywhere by tagging you for conversing
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
7 Mar 18
For years I felt scared to jump into the scene and step on toes. Now I don't care. I have spent enough time worrying, when 9 years ago I could have been forging my own path through life instead of spinning my wheels. At least I absorbed a ton of knowledge in those years, so I could use it later. Lots and lots of research all the time for years. Now I can put it to use and get it out to the world.
The time for hesitation is past... but I still have to make smart choices.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
10 Mar 18
@vandana7 It's like what my one writer friend says: "An unpublished story doesn't make any money." You have to actually finish it and get it out there, and then you can always perfect it later, if you feel like it needs it.
I have over 300 partially written stories that need to just be finished and put out there. Some of them are definitely not worth the time I have put into them.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
10 Mar 18
@vandana7 Where do you learn these quotes? They are good. 
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@just4him Very true! You certainly are unique on this site in a good way as far as your faith is concerned. We appreciate you more for that.
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@JudyEv (342277)
• Rockingham, Australia
12 Mar 18
@Daljinder That's true except that half the people I talk to are going to bed as I am getting up.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@JudyEv I like that too. It is so amazing that we are chatting with each other sitting in different parts of the world and having fun. It doesn't feel like we are too far apart though. 
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Mar 18
I am jumping into this conversation with this irrelevant response:
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
10 Mar 18
I'll jump into any conversation as long as I understand and have some knowledge of that it's about. I don't put random comments on posts I know nothing about though.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
10 Mar 18
@sprite1950 Oh no! I am not encouraging any random comments. 
But yes as long as you have anything relevant to
say then sure go ahead!
But yes as long as you have anything relevant tosay then sure go ahead! 1 person likes this
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
29 Jun 18
Great advice. No harm in putting in your 2 cents. Might even make a friend with the same interests.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
2 Jul 18
@DanielGirl80587 Thank you! And yes if you have something valuable and productive to share then go ahead. That is how I prefer and operate.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
29 Jun 18
@Daljinder I don't think I've ever held back on here. I find it easier to join in on conversations here than I would if I was sitting with people face to face. And like you said, never know what people you can bond with. I'm glad someone I know on here jumped in to talk to me. Otherwise I probably never would have met her! 
Otherwise I probably never would have met her!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
29 Jun 18
@Daljinder I agree. I love it that way actually. We bonded really fast. Makes me smile big. Literally am right now lol 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
29 Jun 18
@myklj999 lol Yep! That's how happy she makes me. All my photos everywhere smile now. 
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
29 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 We actually very quickly jumped from acquaintance to friendship. Maybe because we called each other's bullsh*t and went straight to the point. 
After we both put our cards on the table, there was no looking back
After we both put our cards on the table, there was no looking back1 person likes this
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
8 Mar 18
Hi! I think some people are just shy. I was shy at first so I tested the water. And it was cool because people were responding to my discussion. It is great. Hoping to know more myLotters here. 
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Mar 18
@mlgen1037 I am shy too but friendliness of people here has broken the icing. So, I am very comfortable now.
I hope you do make up more friends as you go. How long ago did you join here?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
9 Mar 18
@Daljinder yes thats great. It is great to meet new people, most especially those who are friendly and nice.
Yup I am making new friends. I didnt expect much but people here are amazing. I just joined just a week ago. So I am quite new here.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
10 Mar 18
@mlgen1037 So, you are very new. Welcome aboard ! I am going to visit your posts in a moment and see what you have been doing.
I am going to visit your posts in a moment and see what you have been doing. 1 person likes this
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
23 Mar 18
@lynnief You got that right. That is how it is supposed to be.
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