Is this a case of bullying?
By Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
Nigeria
March 15, 2018 12:15pm CST
I have a neighbor who keeps telling me everyday that I should get married. What are you waiting for at 42, he keeps telling me. Don't think you'll marry any of the young girls at your age. He says these words and others to me repeatedly when we meet.
I'm tired of it all. I think he's attacking me. Even if I am single and childless at 42, I don't think I have no hope. By the way if I choose not to marry, is it anyone's business?
I think he's bullying me. I don't want to take it anymore.
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12 responses
@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
15 Mar 18
He's harassing you and he needs to mind his own business. There's still time for you meet someone and men are fertile for much longer than women so it's not too late for children. You never know what's round the corner .. you could meet a lovely woman tomorrow!!
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
15 Mar 18
@mydanods I would just ignore him. He's not worth your time.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
15 Mar 18
@sprite1950 Maybe I have been doing that all this while. I don't want to keep on ignoring him anymore.
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@JudyEv (339930)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Mar 18
This would be very annoying. I think I'd be saying politely that you are really tired of him always asking you this question and could he talk about something else. You could always say ;why would I buy a book when I can go to a library?' This might shock him into silence - or say you're homosexual. Good luck with it and I agree, he's a bully or at least he is harassing you.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
16 Mar 18
i think you can just ignore him and don't communicate with him anymore. i don't think that is bullying
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
@mydanods bullying is thinking bad against somebody. your friend is just insisting that you have to marry and have your own family now. so can say it is not bullying but insistent.
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@MashaVickina (2184)
• Russian Federation
15 Mar 18
Come on, just say him to shut up and mind his business! Don't forget to note that you even cannot count how many beautiful girls you had in your life, but some people are not made for one family. Add that he looks like a loser who is not satisfied and has obvious problems, as even women do not interfere in others' lives that much
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
15 Mar 18
@MashaVickina Violence is out of the question. I just don't know how to respond, that's all.
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@MashaVickina (2184)
• Russian Federation
15 Mar 18
@mydanods Sure, you are not a teenager! Seriously, I cannot imagine something like this in my country. Here, a man in your place would hit his nose well 
Think about self-respect and the truth in this situation. Good luck!
Think about self-respect and the truth in this situation. Good luck!1 person likes this
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
17 Mar 18
Just tell him straight up how you feel about his harrassment. You'll take the plunge on YOUR timeline not his. :-/
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
17 Mar 18
@mydanods can you get a peace bond against him? That might shut him up.
:-/
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
17 Mar 18
U know old folks gotta be nosy!! I do the same thing to my neighbor and try to play match maker! That never works out! She politely tells me she's OK. Maybe u can ask him to find u a good wife! Why didn't U get married? There is still hope!! U might find a girl about 30 to 35!!!! You'd better HURRY!!
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@spiderdust (14761)
• San Jose, California
15 Mar 18
Your neighbor needs to mind his own business.
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@anikoonline (3250)
• Hungary
16 Mar 18
Yes, he is bullying you. You should tell him to stop it until he'll understand it.
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