Is that love?
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (54997)
April 11, 2018 4:16pm CST
I wonder how many women harbor a secret desire to be tied up or dominated by their partner. Before the movie "fifty Shades Of Grey" hit the cinemas in 2015, there were many demonstrations from various women's groups hoping to have it banned.
Not only were their efforts futile, but the movie drew large crowds including women in droves - and sales for duct tape and other paraphernalia used in the film rose dramatically. It should also be noted that the movie was directed by a woman - and based on a novel written by a woman.
Did you see the movie? Was it much ado about nothing? Can any form of abuse be a part of love?
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
12 Apr 18
Definitely would not have wanted to see it; although my husband at the time probably sure would have @Kandae11 .
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
13 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Yeah, no kidding. I don't want to remember mine actually raping me.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
12 Apr 18
I did not see the movie nor do I want to. Not my kind of movie.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 "Can any form of abuse be a part of love?" I personally don't think so. I think it is a sick mind that views abuse as love.
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@Kandae11 (54997)
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12 Apr 18
@1hopefulman It is amazing the kind of things that turn people on.
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@marguicha (222974)
• Chile
12 Apr 18
I have heard but not read or watched the book and movie. I think that there are all sorts of people in this world. There are men who want to be dominated too.
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@marguicha (222974)
• Chile
13 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I don´t trust statistics in those subjects. People don´t tell. And I´m not much interested.
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@Kandae11 (54997)
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13 Apr 18
@marguicha You are correct - people don't tell . And they don't have to - it is their business.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
12 Apr 18
Wow! really? the sales of duct tapes? .. I haven't seen the movie.. But I have the books because I was curious about the fuss .. It's like 4 years now that I have the books but haven't read it yet .. LOL! .. Now I have to go and find where they are ..
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
12 Apr 18
I have not seen the movie nor read the books but as long as both parties agree, who am I to tell them what is acceptable.
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@LeaPea2417 (37351)
• Toccoa, Georgia
12 Apr 18
I refused to see the movie and read the books. I think that bondage stuff is a perverted form of sexuality. I have never had that desire to do any of that. No, bondage is not love.
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@LeaPea2417 (37351)
• Toccoa, Georgia
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I don't understand the popularity of it.
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@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
12 Apr 18
No, I haven't seen it. It's not Romeo's kind of movie... 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
11 Apr 18
No, I havent because I am not thrilles with the story. People become oblivious of the fact that abuse is never okay. We were conditioned to believe that these abuses are okay. This is money and they profit out of it.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 yes, thats right. But I still would not watch it. 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Apr 18
How can there be love, when you experience being battered by your husband physically. Though, even being battered by hurting and foul word is even much more hurting. It could make a wife like to kill her husband when she experiences those. Hatred not love is the result.
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@Kandae11 (54997)
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12 Apr 18
There are some brainwashed women who actually feel that the husband who beats his wife, loves her and doesn't want to see her err. I have not watched this movie and have no intention of doing so, but from the reviews I have read - this is different from everyday domestic violence - because both parties are agreed and get some kind of fun and stimulation out of it.
I have not watched this movie and have no intention of doing so, but from the reviews I have read - this is different from everyday domestic violence - because both parties are agreed and get some kind of fun and stimulation out of it.2 people like this
@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11
I saw it on Neflix. It took awhile for me to get it out of my head. I thought it was very sick. He would not let her touch him and only he could touch her. He never learned about relationships but he was willing to try for her but in the end it just did not work out and she walked away and did the right thing I feel.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
14 Apr 18
Oh this is funny, you're not going to believe this but I'm watching "Fifty Shades Darker" as we speak.
I don't think that the relationship between the 2 main characters, Christian and Anastasia is a healthy one, but I do think Domination and submission can be part of a healthy relationship, as long as boundaries are respected and communication is constant, with no effort of manipulation.
Hypothetically speaking I would think it would be most fun to be the sort of person who likes both ;-)
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
16 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I actually liked "Fifty Shades Darker" moreso. There is a mystery story in there along with all of the, ah.... other... content .... and "Darker" focused more on the mystery. :-)
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