A BEAUTIFUL CHARACTER
@mlgen1037 (29886)
Manila, Philippines
April 13, 2018 4:10pm CST
Hello everyone! There is something I want to share before I go to sleep.
My brother, my husband and I met a few of our friends this late afternoon and we had a few drinks. I was just devastated that the signal of my data connection was bad that I only managed to respond to a few discussions.
My friend, who is a seafarer, had a huge crush on one of our friends but he would not like to court her because according to him, she is high maintenance. He is really smitten of her because she was really beautiful. I do agree with him that this friend of ours is indeed one pretty lady plus she came from an upper middle class background. Then we asked him, "if she is not beautiful, would you really like her or have a crush on her?" He replied with conviction, "NO." Our girl friend knows that he likes her but she just did not feel the same for him but she is really kind and funny.
My husband and I were actually not shocked by this but we just realized how shallow people can be. People usually look at the physical attribute of the person, may it be in photos or in reality. The nice personality is a bonus but I wonder if that person may not be that pretty but has a good heart, will more people like her? Or why do people favor a beautiful woman but does not a good character? Is this how the world is now - that outward beauty overrides the inward beauty simply because one has a beautiful face? I have seen this everywhere, even here or in any social media site. It is very rampant. People see you at face value, not at your character.
In reality, this is how we are, depthless. I am even guilty of this so I guess I am a shallow person too. I just then realized that a beautiful character outweighs the pretty face. And it is your character that will determine the kind of person you are, regardless of your outward beauty.
It is that character that has depth and does not pretend to be something or someone - the simplicity of that person makes one more admirable. That character that has substance and does not brag about anything - the solace of that person without the need to be too proud. That character that is resilient and does not surrender - the courage of a person that allows him or her to withstand any challenges. That character that radiates and does not envy - the happiness that glows in every heart even if life seems to be imperfect. That character that can stand its own ground and does not seek attention - the humility of the person that emulates the integrity he or she carries.
That is all. You may agree with me or not, it is okay. You may share your thoughts.
Good morning and I will be sleeping now. Thank you.
Image: Google. Credits to the original owner.
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@DianneN (247184)
• United States
13 Apr 18
I agree with you. Most men are afraid to approach a beautiful woman for fear of rejection. I've also met many not so handsome men, who had such a wonderful personality that looks meant nothing to me. It's not just the beauty of someone. It's the whole package: intelligence, sense of humor, physical attraction, and character that attracts me to male or females as friends.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hi Dianne. I agree with you. One must look more than what you see. Sometimes, people does not see what is most essential. 
Thank you, my dear friend. 
Thank you, my dear friend. 3 people like this
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
13 Apr 18
Every word you have spoken is true. The inner beauty of a person shines brighter than outer beauty. Inner beauty is the warmth you "feel" in the presence of another.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hi Lucinda. Thank you for those kind words. That is true. Inner beauty transcends and makes one feel comfort. People are just not into looking into that inner beauty.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
that's what i like about mylot. you get to know people without seeing them or knowing their demographics, especially when you read not just their own posts, but also their responses and comments to other people.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 on the other hand, some seem to focus only on those that post real pics, especially if they're female 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hi, my dear friend. That is true and it is amazing becauae you get a glimpse of how they think, their views and opinions. But how about those who display their real photos? 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
@hereandthere I agree with you on that, my good friend. Are we thinking the same thing (or person)? hahahah
Sometimes I believe those people who have no real pics are more beautiful. 
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@LadyDuck (472213)
• Switzerland
14 Apr 18
You are right on this, some men are intimidated by beautiful women. It is also true that some men are only attracted by the physical beauty and this is wrong. The base of a long stable relationship would be based more on the inner beauty, not the surface. The beauty fades, but the sentiments stay, only if they are real.
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@LadyDuck (472213)
• Switzerland
14 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 Those who only look at the appearance will be deceived one day.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
@LadyDuck I agree with you, Anna. I am sure they will and that would be tragic.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hi Anna. I completely agree. Beauty for me is skin deep. Men really look at the physical beauty and yes it has its perks, most especially those who just met online. I still prefer character anytime. Thank you, Anna. I appreciate it.
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@just4him (317385)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 18
Yes, I've known some shallow people. I was married to one, and my parents were also shallow. I think because I've always fallen in the category of beautiful character more than physical beauty, people never sought me out for friendship. Even my husband couldn't say anything nice to me where my looks were concerned.
I've always looked at the person for their ability and character because that's how I wanted to be looked at. Yes, physical attraction has some merit, but what is beauty when the personality isn't good?
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@just4him (317385)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 Thank you. I know I'm beautiful. It took a long time for me to see it. I wrote a post about it a couple days ago. However, I've always been a person who looked for the real value of a person and not the outward shallow appearance. Solomon said it this way:
Proverbs 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. (KJV)
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hi Valerie. I totally agree with you. I honestly find you beautiful inside and outside. I am surprised when you said that people never sought you out for friendship because you fall in the category of beautiful character rather than physical beauty. I guess people are more into the physical rather see the character. And there people who use that physical beauty to actually brag and seek attention but the shallowness remains.
I rarely see people of character and I am happy to know that you are one of them. I am greatly honored.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
@just4him Thank you very much, Valerie. I really appreciate the quote and it is beautiful. Wisdom never fails.
I hope I can say to myself too that I am beautiful because of my character and not because of my outward look. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
22 Apr 18
Of course. To be happy, live simply.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
22 Apr 18
@SRSaba Great! Thank you, Rathanasabapathy. 
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
6 Jun 18
i do agree most are like that and i was for yrs and ended up in 4 bad marriages. number 5 though was different. he made me love him for his beauty inside. everyone loved him for his kindness. and humor. also i used to be friends with a lady that i thought quite ugly when i met her and after being around her for a while, she was so nice that i began to think her very pretty after all.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 a lot do yes. as they say can't judge a book by it's cover and i have seen some pretty inside and out too and vise versa
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
7 Jun 18
Hi Bonnie. Thank you. We will only know other people's real character once we really get to talk and know them. Those people we think are beautiful in the outside, ended up rotten inside, which is really sad.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
8 Jun 18
@bunnybon7 I agree with you on that. That is why many people are misjudged, just by the way they look.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
I agree, that a beautiful face isn't a guarantee that she has a kind and loving heart.
Though, I am sad for your friend that he didn't try to court your beautiful friend, so he will discover if she is also beautiful inside.
I love my husband because he is funny and good looking. Yes, it was his good-looking face that first attracted me. Good thing, he is also good inside.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 That is true. Somehow, we want out hubbies to be at least good looking. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Apr 18
Hi, my dear friend. Yes, some can hide their real selves behind a beautiful face. Some can pretend behind their physical beauty. He was shy and thinks that he is out of her league. But our girl friend is really very nice. I am happy for you, my dear. You found the perfect combo,
My husband is cute for me hehehe but I am happy that he has a good heart.
My husband is cute for me hehehe but I am happy that he has a good heart.1 person likes this
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Apr 18
@SIMPLYD I agree with you on that, my good friend.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
just a simple statement, hija."beauty is useless, character is the best".
haha. and it does not matter too where you have studied, because it is your character that will prevail.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 indeed. we have the same brain wavelength now. happy evening, hija.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
@ridingbet Likewise to you, Ingrid. hehehe
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hahaha. I think I remember that school thing, Ingrid. Beauty fades but character stays.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
15 Apr 18
@mlgen1037
Louise, that was beautifully put. Thank you for sharing that with us.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Apr 18
Hanni, youre most welcome. Thank you too, my dear friend. 
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@Ganma7 (3664)
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20 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 Well said my friend. You are a beautiful person inside and out xxoo
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Jun 18
@Ganma7 Thank you, Paula. And so are you. I am glad I have met you, my dear friend.
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Jun 18
Hi Paula. Apologies for the late reply. I also believe that. It is more than the outward beauty. There are people who think that outward beauty is the be all and end all, but it is not enough to even make a person stick for a lifetime.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
14 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 Welcome, thanks very much too Louise
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hi, my good friend. I agree. We make an impression based on what we see, regardless if the person is genuinely sincere or not. Thank you, Courage7.
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@porwest (92756)
• United States
24 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 Yeah. Scary people are not worth pursuing at all. Keep away from scary people.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
25 Jun 18
@porwest I will, Jim. That is the best way to do.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Jun 18
Hi Jim. Of course, just make sure that the person you like is not someone scary when you get to know the better. hehe
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@Paradon (2063)
• Pattaya, Thailand
21 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 Your friendship would be my pleasure!
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
21 Apr 18
@Paradon Thank you, Richard. I am very much honored to be your friend.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
21 Apr 18
Thank you, Richard. I did have a nice sleep. Even here in our country, people have high regards for physical beauty. May you be my friend too?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 May 18
Hi @Ithink. Yes, those will always capture our hearts for a long period of time.
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@garymarsh6 (23412)
• United Kingdom
20 Jun 18
Peoples personality is more attractive than outward beauty especially if it is camouflaged with makeup. Imagine waking up next to someone with no make up on I am sure that she is not quite the beauty she makes out to be.. Another way is to look at the mother and see what she is like.It is far better if someone is quite natural with perhaps a little make up on and she can string sentences together and have interesting conversations!
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Jun 18
Hi Gary. Thank you. Make-up can alter looks but it can never change character. People think that by wearing make-up it can make people in awe. Beauty is really skin deep. This is the first time that I have about looking at the mother and it may say something about the person. Quite true for me. Also, I have met people who think that outward beauty can earn them more points since they are more attractive but cannot even converse at all. They are so pretentious, really.
@nela13 (58709)
• Portugal
14 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 I find it difficult know people with good character.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Manuela, you are correct. I usually notice the looks but then I get to know the real person, which includes their character. It is nice to know people of character. Very rare but priceless.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
@nela13 Yes, Manuela. It takes time to know one, I guess.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
14 Apr 18
It is hard to get by someone's looks - but you're right. Character is the most important thing. It is a shame that we cannot see peoples character on the outside
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
16 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 Thank you for writing this. You are beautiful on the outside, and on the inside :-) I wish it were true of everyone.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
16 Apr 18
@FayeHazel Youre most welcome, Faye. It is a pleasure. Thank you for the kind words, my good friend. I hope so too. You are beautiful too and I am glad that I met you with you.
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hi Faye. That is true. We tend to forget what is most essential. I have been guilty of that too. Thank you, my dear friend.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Thank you, Oshobu. Very much appreciated.
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