Inviting people to events is getting difficult!
By aneekebeth
@aneekebeth (45)
Lodi, California
May 4, 2018 1:11pm CST
One of the reasons... the main reason, we moved to my husband's hometown is to be near family. There are a lot of birthdays and other events we feel obligated to attend. After all, it's family. I imagined that they would attend our events as well. It turns out... no. Last year we had our first "event", my son's birthday. Hardly anyone showed up and I ended up spending a bunch of money for no reason. This year, for my twins' first ever birthday, I decided to keep it small & invite people with plenty of notice so they could plan ahead. Not everyone RSVP'd. From the ones that did, only two showed up.
These days even family can't be depended on...
I understand not being able to make it... trust me, I get all kinds of excuses, but sometimes people don't show up just because they don't feel like it or they don't want to make the effort.
What is it with people not wanting to support each other?
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@aneekebeth (45)
• Lodi, California
4 May 18
I was actually worried we wouldn't have enough food because so many people RSVP'd. Good thing we only got pizza and cake.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
4 May 18
@aneekebeth but it that's very disappointing isn't it?
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@aneekebeth (45)
• Lodi, California
4 May 18
@Mavic123456 it really is. I remember people used to make an effort to support each other, even if they had better things to do. It's the thought that counts.
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
4 May 18
Now you know how important family events really are to them. When you plan a birthday, anniversary or a picnic, keep it personal with only an invitation to those you know will show up. The only events that my family ever extend invitations to other family members is family reunions. 
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@aneekebeth (45)
• Lodi, California
4 May 18
That's what we did. I only invited family. I especially checked in with those with kids around my kids' ages and those that say "...we need to do this more often..." when we get a chance to get together.
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@aneekebeth (45)
• Lodi, California
4 May 18
The sad thing is... we moved from TX to CA, a long ways, to be near family because they supposedly missed us soooo much.
@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
26 Jun 18
@aneekebeth
How sad it is you go to their events but they do not come to yours.
