Why do nice girls finish last?

You are making yourself vulnerable to men. They like it easy and will take it where they can get it. Believe me, I was there. I felt used, I had low self esteem, low self confidence and my body felt betrayed. One day I said "ENOUGH!!" I needed to realize that the problem wasnt with them, it was me and I had to change that behaviour or run into the same patterns over and over. I made the decision to stop giving my body to every man I met or every man who wanted it. Guess what? My last relationship was 23 years ago and I have been celibate for 14 of those years. I feel as if I have entered a second virginity, but this time I am not going to "give" it to just anybody. The next man who receives this gift from me will have "earned" it. He will earn it through patience, he will earn it through respect, he will earn it through understanding, he will earn it through LOVE. The first three will define the fourth. I have gained back my self confidence, my self esteem and self respect and no one will take it from me again.

You are not doing anything wrong. That guy is an a-hole. You dont deserve him.

Yep. I was a nice lady once. Now I'm WGTOW baby! Really if you want a good man, be a good woman, not "nice" woman. Don't give him everything he wants. You need to set boundaries and he'll respect you for that. Some days you just gotta be a b eye itch. If you're in the US unfortunately our culture is one where the jerk (male and female) are the first to get married or win at love. I'd start searching over seas where there are people who will genuinely appreciate your efforts and your kindness.

Nice guys also finish last - or so they say.

because they meet the wrong guys

Maybe you are being too nice. I find that when you treat a person too good they end up taking advantage of you. If you are in a relationship and you find that the guy is rushing you to sleep with him, you should see that as a big red flag. If someone truly loves you they would try to get to know you first and treat you with respect. If a man really wants to be in a relationship with you he would wait until you are ready to give him the COOKIE.

There are 7 billion person and there will eventually be someone for you.

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You sound like me!

Welcome to Mylot friend

Hi I'm April new here too. I"know you hurt so much now but move on. The right quy will come along when you least expect it.

No, you're not doing anything wrong. Maybe that guy is not meant for you. Wait for the guy who truly loved you back, and when the perfect time comes. As the song goes by " Love moves in mysterious ways".