I Need Money and I Need It Now!
By rakski
@rakski (123157)
Philippines
June 26, 2018 7:37pm CST
Hello everyone.
Yes, as you read my title, this is what greets me early this morning. A friend I mention in my older post who was seeking help because of the debts they have. When I open the gate for her, this is her exact words.
Whew. 
My reply to her: Well, I am not a bank. I am not your bank. I do not have money for you. 
I tried very hard to make it as light and funny as possible though deep inside me I am fuming 
And then I told here, maybe you can ask you family to lend you some. Even if I have my money. I have a budget for my family too and I do not want to ruin that.
A very nice morning/evening to all!
My reply to her: Well, I am not a bank. I am not your bank. I do not have money for you.
I tried very hard to make it as light and funny as possible though deep inside me I am fuming
And then I told here, maybe you can ask you family to lend you some. Even if I have my money. I have a budget for my family too and I do not want to ruin that.
A very nice morning/evening to all!34 people like this
42 responses
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
27 Jun 18
@rakski Yes, you are right! She seemed not to be asking for help but demanding the money. Very strange person.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
27 Jun 18
That is right , here people would say " get a job!"
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
27 Jun 18
That is not a nice thing to have demanded at you so early in the morning.
I hope they get what they need but to go demanding of it is just wrong.
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@vandana7 (100288)
• India
27 Jun 18
I would not think it was demand. I need money, and I need it now, to me is not not same as give me money, and give it to me right now. She is just worked up person...may be she has been in it for quite a while, and matter has just reached peak stage, where she is unable to absorb that kind of stress. It is understandable, depending upon the nature of friendship they share.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
27 Jun 18
@rakski I would have likely kicked her out. No friend of mine would be so demanding of money.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
wow, that person thinks you are her savings bank. no PLEASE too? as in she asked rudely? oh, i would not even dare to lend money to people like this.
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@rakski (123157)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
@ridingbet no please really. I was amazed by her demanding like that maybe out of frustration to get money. But with that kind of attitude alone will make m running on the other end.
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@rakski (123157)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
@brokenbee it is good if she paid on time but still do not be so accommodating always because this person can or might abuse your kindness and generosity.
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
I remember someone who's borrowing money from you before Ate...
I have a friend who borrowed money last Feb and she paid it on time. Now she is borrowing again. I told her I will lend her again but a little later coz I had a problem with my paypal account that time. It was fixed already and she is already making "paramdam".
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
27 Jun 18
Good morning, Rakski. That is more subtle than what I would do. Hehe
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@rakski (123157)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 yes that is right and I hope she knows that too.
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@rakski (123157)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
I do not want to ruin my day @mlgen1037 It is just so early in the morning.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
27 Jun 18
@rakski I understand, my friend. Of course, I wouldnt want it to. She is not your responsibility too.
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@popciclecold (38723)
• United States
27 Jun 18
You can't help others by hurting yourself.
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@betlynfrnds (4069)
• United States
28 Jun 18
If you have a newspaper, you may want to give her the classified page. There are usually job listings on that page. Have her find something and make it happen.
If you give a person a fish, he eats for one day. If you teach a man how to fish, he eats for a lifetime.
If it were me, I wouldn't give my 'friend' a 'fish'. I would teach him/her how to 'fish'.
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@betlynfrnds (4069)
• United States
28 Jun 18
@TishaMears Thank you, Tisha. I'm certainly not trying to be insensitive or uncaring but when you get to the root of a problem, everyone benefits.
If you keep giving money to people who need it, the giver grows very weary of the situation and the receiver has no dignity or self esteem.
Cut the cord, take the training wheels off and grow up.
The occasional exception to the rule does not apply here. There are circumstances where one does need help if an emergency arises. That's not what I'm talking about.
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@TishaMears (1026)
• United States
28 Jun 18
I agree with @betlynfrnds. Very well said
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@vandana7 (100288)
• India
27 Jun 18
It pretty much depends upon the kind of friend she is or was. If I was close enough to her, I would understand and give her. If not, yeah...I would have reacted like you. I will read your older posts to check the exact nature of this friendship. But I think I would have said, I truly do not have money unless it seemed like a medical emergency. Then too, I might spare some not entire amount.
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@rakski (123157)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
I posted one ti.e aboyt the debts they are in. Their credit card is ised up to the last cent and the husband is the only one working for them . Both her kids are in the private school. Of course I also weigh my options, if I think that is a medical emergebcy then maybe there is a possibility
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
I remember a friend of my mother who came to our house and was borrowing money. She told my mother that she had to pay their electric bill coz it's already overdue. She told my mother they have high bill because they are using aircon.
My mother didn't lend her.
When she left, my mother told us about it and was a bit pissed. She said, we are not even using aircon...
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@rakski (123157)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
@Danawarr25 aircon - short for air conditioner
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@rakski (123157)
• Philippines
29 Jun 18
@Danawarr25 yes. that is right. They can always save on something so they can use the money wisely.
@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
If only we have some extra of extra money or we bathing with money. Our money is hard earn. In my case, I've tried many times to help a friend to lend them some but mostly the money never return. I need them too.
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@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
27 Jun 18
That is so rude for her to be that pushy.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
27 Jun 18
Ohh , that's sad. But we should also know how to refuse or how to say no..
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