cryingTODDLERS.
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
August 1, 2018 9:20pm CST
Good humid Thursday morning to us all, from this side of the planet. The mighty sun is shining brightly and humidity at 65% is high that even though I am inside the house, I can feel the stickiness of my skin.
Our neighbors to the left are not quiet at this time of the day. Ther 3 toddlers are crying so loud because their grandmother Ju, keeps on shouting at them “to keep quiet”. Ju takes care of the kids of her children, who are out working.
The cries are so painful to hear because it is as if they are already choking due to excessive loud cries. All the more Ju shouts at them. Ju also cooks the lunch, bathes them, and prepares and fixes their plates. I know it because we are just separated with our cemented fence.
This is the neighbor that I had some discussions about, in bubblews and in this site too. Ju is already a widow, and I saw her husband brought to the medical ward when I was on night shift with my students, many years ago.
Sometimes though, the toddlers chuckle and laugh with their grandmother, but most often, they cry. When they cry, we talk aloud to Ju and say “what is the matter with the kids”. There is no body abuse though; they just cry.
Can you handle crying kids?
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@toniganzon (72535)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
AT this age I can handle barking dogs better than crying and whining kids.
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@toniganzon (72535)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
@Letranknight2015 My Danie doesn't cry and if she does, I won't be bothered by it.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
yes, me too. the barking of the dogs is bearable for me to hear, but the crying of kids, like "nagagasgasan na ang lalamunan" (voice is like a rough sandpaper) thingy, i do not like that. it is as if the kid is already 'dying'.
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@LadyDuck (472070)
• Switzerland
4 Aug 18
@ridingbet Too many times grandmothers spoil kids.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Aug 18
@LadyDuck yes that is true. our neighbors at the right side of our house has my female friend a grandmother to a few kids, and they are spoiled by their grandparents.the father of one family, and the mother of another family though are very strict to their kids and they even whip the kids with a small stick so the grandmother approaches the kids and scolds the 2 parents.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Aug 18
i agree. the kids want attention and it is only their grandmother who is with them. sometimes they are also unruly.
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
2 Aug 18
No I am not overly fond of crying kids but I am wondering why they re crying usually kids don't cry for no reason.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
@TheHorse yes, they should have one (even impertinent) reason to say when they cry.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
one boy wants to get the toy of his brother (of different mother), and the other boy (son of J) does not like to take a bath. sometimes J the grandmother cannot control her emotions that she cries and calls for her deceased husband.
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@TheHorse (220215)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 18
@ridingbet Shouting at them only teaches "loud" ways of solving problems.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
@TheHorse i agree. the kids will think that shouting is the best way for their voices to be heard
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
26 Oct 18
i agree with you. now, the toddlers are used to the shouting voice of their grandmother. they cry when shpouted upon, then they stop and play as if nothing happened.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
2 Aug 18
If their are a lot and it takes too long to get them to stop, then I get tired of hearing it but usually they can be quieted.Sometimes it takes a quiet game and if she whispers to them, kids tend to be quiet so they can hear what your saying.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
2 Aug 18
@ridingbet Thats not good, maybe you should tell her to whisper instead and see if it quiets them. Shouting only scares them and makes the crying louder, I am sorry you have to live so close to that situation. Poor little ones
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
the problem with Ju the grandmother is, she shouts at the kids so the kids cry. Ju has that attitude ever since her daughter Je and son Ry were still babies.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Aug 18
@cintol true. yesterday, Ju was bathing one kid. the kid was playing with water and Ju was angry at the kid again. we cannot control her shouting,; she quiets down a while but returns talking loud again.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Aug 18
how many kids do you wish to have when you get married, hija?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Aug 18
@Jessabuma since you are still young, may i advise that you start your family with your boyfriend now. it is difficult to bear kids when you reach the age of 28 to 35 years.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Aug 18
@ridingbet I want to have 2-3 kids ..hehe
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Aug 18
i guess letting the kids have their tantrums is good, they will eventually stop anyway. controlling them when in front of the public may also cause them to be more violent.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
I think I can but I do not want to find out.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
5 Aug 18
@ridingbet I have a daughter. Dealing with crying kids is way easier than dealing with crying adults.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Aug 18
@allen0187 really? oh, now i get it.
i recall my kid brother during his college years. he cried while resting his head on my shoulder. my son too, when he and his GF broke up.
i agree, it is harder to deal with adult kids who cry, because we might cry too, with themm
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Aug 18
but based from your profile picture in this site, you have kids already, right? so, dealing with crying kids is not really your forte?
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@Aquitaine24 (11813)
• San Jose, California
17 Oct 18
It sounds like they need more supervision or put them in their rooms so they can have a time outuntil fthey be quiet.
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@Aquitaine24 (11813)
• San Jose, California
18 Oct 18
@ridingbet Well, inside THEIR house,not yours.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Oct 18
@Aquitaine24 that is what i mean. why should they come to our house? they have only 2 rooms in their house. i think you did not understand my response, to wit:
"their house has only 2 parts: the living room and the bedroom. kitchen is outside their house. so, the kids only go to the living room or the bedroom."
---so, i am referring to their house, not ours here.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Oct 18
their house has only 2 parts: the living room and the bedroom. kitchen is outside their house. so, the kids only go to the living room or the bedroom.
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@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
That's what you get for having three kids and you have no choice but to extend your patience. Shouting at them like that won't help. They're just probably throwing tantrum.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
no, the kids are of the 2 children of Ju. the daughter (Je) has one boy, and the son (Ry) has 2 kids of different mothers. the daughter works as a saleslady while the son is a tricycle driver.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
really? do you still have kids who are toddlers, or preschool aged children?
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
but you enjoy one nephew. sorry i forgot his name. don't you get irked when this nephew cries?
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Aug 18
may i ask if you are impatient in dealing with crying kids?
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
I could handle them at one time, but now that would drive me bonkers. 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
i think if the kids are contented with what they have, with love from any of their family members, they won't cry at all. the grandmother is not enjoying caring for the 3 kids because they are so unruly.
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