Getting TOO OLD without Someone to Take CARE of

@ZedSmart (19787)
Philippines
September 17, 2018 3:12am CST
Are you worried or afraid of getting too old, left alone and without someone to take care of? Having children is not a secure guarantee that in the future, they will take care of us. Not the usual case but truly happens. There might be circumstances why they wouldn’t not able to look after us and our needs. Are you the kind of “come what may” attitude. How are you going to plan this stage or our lives? Whether we like it or not, Life must go on.
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
17 Sep 18
That is one big insecurity for many. I can't totally rely on my children nor I can preach them to take care of us when we are told. They have grown up seeing us taking care of parents and in laws and hopefully they would learn it. We have kept aside some savings for old age. I don't mind going to old age home if it is a challenge for my children to take care of me due to their own circumstances.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
You have strong point there. It would be less a problem if we kept something for the future. Though, children perhaps are the most important investment we could have, in the future, they could be very busy with their own careers and life too. But at least we still have someone we can call or would pay someone to look after us if they couldn't do it by themsleves.
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
17 Sep 18
@ZedSmart It would be a blessing if they cared to make a call or visit sometimes to show that they care. We can not expect too much from the fast paced life.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
@arunima25 Exactly. We can't expect too much. Sometimes, even if we are very positive, we will have the opposite.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
Not worried at all. I know that I can take care of myself in old age.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
I know you can dear brother and you will take care of me too, right?
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
@toniganzon You two are sibling?
@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
That so nice of you. I wish everybody is the same. I call it spirit.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
We only have one child, now a doctor having her specialization in the hospital that gave her scholarship In Medicine. I know, we can't rely on her to take care of us when hubby and I becomes too old to take care of ourselves. So, as much as we can, we are saving for that time when we grow old. Though she said she will provide for us. But we cannot rely on that so we work to be self sufficient when that time comes.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
@ZedSmart She's now on her 2nd year residency, specializing in General Sugery, for Oncology. Yes, i really hope so when we get older, thourgh her we can get free consultations and treatments.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
@SIMPLYD That's for sure. I know for sure you have this very good advice coming from her speaking of health, wellness, and living.
@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
That's why we should prepare something for the future. We can't have back those younger years we have. That's nice of you because you would have free consultations and treatments then. What's the area of her specialization?
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@Shavkat (139937)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
I am not married yet. I had thought about this before. But then, I always believed that my immediate family will take good care of me if I am in the senile stage.
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@Shavkat (139937)
• Philippines
18 Sep 18
@ZedSmart I am sorry to say that we cut our relationship with my relatives on my father side.
@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
18 Sep 18
@Shavkat Oh. I'm sad to hear that. We can't avoid disagreements sometimes that might lead to something irreconcilable.
@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
I think we really need to have a good connection with other relatives and even with friends. They can lend their hands to us and at the same time we can do also that to them.
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@skysnap (20153)
17 Sep 18
Yep that kind of thing worries me for sure.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
Oh please, do not stress too much.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
17 Sep 18
This isn't something that I worry about. I know my children love me but I would never put this burden on them. I trust in God to do what is best and I will help myself in as many ways as possible.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
It's good to hear that you've taken life that positively. Yes, we should put our trust in the Lord.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
18 Sep 18
Honestly we’re not thinking about it much. I do have a son and I expect nothing from him if he would go on his own some day. Right now we’re more focused on his studies and maybe when he’s done that’s the only time we can focus on ourselves.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
19 Sep 18
Yes, there are more things for now to focus with and I think that what's ahead in the future is included with that.
• Israel
17 Sep 18
Everybody needs a little help now and then, young and older but a person has got to do the best he can to be in a good health spiritually and physically. I think only the ones who don’t take care of themselves in the present worry too much about the future.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
I agree somehow that those who are abusive with their health could suffer in the future if doesn't want to change its lifestyle completely. However, when we get old we are also vulnerable to other health problems. There's someone to watch over us. If our children can't afford, at least we save enough resources to let others take care of us with a price.
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
I don't have a child and I don't think I'll ever have one in the future because I am diabetic (scared of complications). Honestly, I am kind of scared of the thought that no one will look after me when I am already old and weary but I guess, I just have to be strong for myself.
@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
18 Sep 18
At that age you're already diabetic? You are right, we need to be strong to face the challenges we have. In the end, it's all about us.