What would you do in this situation?
@sianadrl (227)
Venezuela
February 17, 2019 7:50pm CST
You see your friend's boyfriend or girlfriend cheating on them; would you tell your friend about it? what is your opinion on this situation? is it okay to try to open your friends eyes or should we stay away from that and let them discover the problem by themselves? let me know!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
18 Feb 19
I would tell the the person cheating that I saw them and tell them to straighten the situation or that I would.
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@dfollin (25379)
• United States
18 Feb 19
@sianadrl Lol! The reason I am saying take a picture is because it would be good back up for you. Because my late husband had a brother we will call R who was married to a woman named P. My husband's previous wife was S. One night P and S went out,neither of them went home till the morning. S told her husband (my late husband)that her and P had met some men and spent the night with them and she wanted a divorce.
Well, when my husband had told his brother R, R said that he was lying. R went home and confronted P. P admitted it and they split up too. But R would not speak to my husband, his brother for 6 months , cause he is weird!
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
18 Feb 19
If I was the one being cheated on I would want to know. I would hope if a friend seen it they would tell me.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
19 Feb 19
@sianadrl I would too. It would be hard to hear but I would want to know. I remember when my daughters ex cheated on her. He was doing it a long time and all her friends knew and nobody told her. She felt so betrayed by all of them because she felt like a fool being the last to know.
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@hillhjill (23717)
• United States
18 Feb 19
I would most definitely tell them, I know it's not my place but I think it would be better for them to know then to not.
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@hillhjill (23717)
• United States
18 Feb 19
@sianadrl yes most definitely and just let it go from there.
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@jprtist (656)
• Pueblo, Colorado
18 Feb 19
There's more to consider than the criteria mentioned. Usually, I'd keep things to myself. There may be factors at play I'm not familiar with. Maybe they have an arrangement of some sort, etc.
The first thing that comes to my mind, as to why I might inform my friend, would be if they were going to be married within a few days, or if I thought the cheater were trying to swindle my friend in some way.
As a bartender many years ago, I learned that if you try to help many females, with a bad lover, the woman will turn on the man who tried to help. And tolerate the cheater.
Often trying to be a good friend when dealing with a situation in somebody elses relationship, may cause your own friendship to end.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Feb 19
If we are friends I would tell them because they have a right to know. They may never find out if nobody tells th,e because some people are good keeping those from there partner from finding out.
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@ARN4567 (1061)
• Baguio, Philippines
18 Feb 19
I think you should find a good time to talk to him/her alone and tell it right away...if he/she is your friend he/she will understand and your concern for her... in the moment he/she might not believe you but at least you've warned him/her about it...and if she/he will find out soon, you'll never know how he/she will thank you more.....
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@sianadrl (227)
• Venezuela
18 Feb 19
yeah that would be a great scenerio where they would believe you... usually that is not the case but I agree with you, I think we should do our best to be a good friend and help them out so they don't have to suffer later on when they discover it by themselves and maybe feel lonely because no one else told them...
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@sianadrl (227)
• Venezuela
18 Feb 19
@WiseGhots of course, our friend can think we are just trying to ruin their happiness, but I think it's a risk we should take, especially if we have proff thet their partner is doing something bad
@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
18 Feb 19
@sianadri I would not let my friend to be cheated and so tell them everything.
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@Swayamsiddha (4354)
• New Delhi, India
18 Feb 19
Let your friend discover it. It is their matter
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@sianadrl (227)
• Venezuela
18 Feb 19
Of course, I think we all want to know if we are with someone that truly respects and appreciated us
@MATTKARVAR (78)
• Tehran, Iran
18 Feb 19
I think is not fair for any one to stay in such wrong relationship therefore I will definitely make my friend aware of that so he can save himself before getting more hurt.
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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
• United States
28 Feb 19
I would tell my friend. I know my friends and I know they wouldn't want to be with someone who cheated on them. I see it as just being a good friend. Now I wouldn't just go off and tell them with out proof because they might not believe you if you don't. I just recently had to help a friend out of an abusive relationship. She was in it for 4 years and I told her regularly she needed to leave and it would get no better. The truth is that they won't leave or do better for themselves until they are ready for it. I would still tell them thought because that is just what being a good friend is and just a decent person.
@WiseGhots (14606)
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18 Feb 19
@sianadrl I think if I was a good friend of mine, I might tell him / her.
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