Do you let negative comments let you down?
By cessy1
@cessy1 (1748)
Philippines
November 28, 2006 7:46pm CST
it is very common to hear negative comments from friends, enemies (of course), family members or boss...but how do we take these comments? do we use it against them and plan for revenge or do we reflect on these comments and plan to make a change?
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21 responses
@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
29 Nov 06
Negative comments may not necessarily be bad..it's actually good for us to re-evaluate ourself. However, some of those comments may be not true or meant to hurt and blurted out in a moment of anger (especially from enemy) but it will depends on how much you understand yourself and how to take the criticsm.
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@Zhanec (1651)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 06
dear,cessy.i encountered this matter just 14hrs ago.sigh*i'm still sad about it.A friend of mine said something really harsh to me when v chat.i just dont get it why he have such comment on me..I'm really down with his comments...Dissapointed of him and myself too.Could it be i'm the fault or he's the one to blame?i counldnt get the answer by now.No..i wont take revenge..nor i can do it to anyone..I take this as a lesson.sorry that u have to read such a long post:hehe
@cessy1 (1748)
• Philippines
30 Nov 06
oh it's ok..i lvoe reading long posts :) hmm i'm sorry about what happened..for me, there isn't anybody to blame..i think the best way to do it is to try and talk about it in a peaceful manner and avoid making it a big issue..try to learn things from the comments and maybe that will be a good start :)
@cessy1 (1748)
• Philippines
30 Nov 06
oh it's ok..i lvoe reading long posts:) hmm i'm sorry about what happened..for me, there isn't anybody to blame..i think the best way to do it is to try and talk about it in a peaceful manner and avoid making it a big issue..try to learn things from the comments and maybe that will be a good start:)
@feralwoman (2199)
• Australia
29 Nov 06
Best way is to ignore them I think. Water off a duck's back! LOL
@k00lit_gurl (114)
• Philippines
30 Nov 06
no i don't take negative comments seriously. i take them as a challenge.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
29 Nov 06
I usually take very little notice of criticism if I consider it to be unjustified. I certainly would not let it bother me, and would never be unduly concerned about it. Whatever you do there will always be someone who is in total disagreement with you, so just accept the fact and carry on.
If a critism seemed justified then I would try to respond by correcting whatever was wrong.
@Desdemona (1301)
• Canada
29 Nov 06
I will be honest, depending on where the negative comment is coming from, than it could let me down. I would take it to heart if my hubby or parents made negative remarks.
Outside of that, if someone else was purely providing constructive criticism, than I would grow from it. If it was down right intentional to hurt my feelings, boy, they better run!
@saks_sweetie (861)
• India
29 Nov 06
yes sometimes they tend to get me down, but try to to let them affect me
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
29 Nov 06
I never take criticism well, never have and probably never will. I don't plan on revenge, as I am not like that. I belive in karma. You seek revenge, you will get it back in 10 fold. But I always let someone know how he or she had affected me and may not always have the best choice of words.
@mansonteen (486)
• Romania
29 Nov 06
it takes more than a comment to make me redraw...so no i don't care if anyone comments me in a bad way but they should be prepared
@sillygirlsd (959)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Nope I don't let anyones comments let me down.....although today ive seen so many discussions that are repeat, or are pointless and i couldn't help myself so i had to write smartass comments.....I don't see why anyone would take comments so seriously.....
oopss i didn't read your discussion topic all the way....i thought you meant comments on my lot.....
but same goes to comments made by family and friends..i don't let negative comments bother me...it would be a waste of my time to even care!
@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I take constructive critism very well. I take what they say into consideration and go from there. If I feel like it's truly justified then I'll act on it--(to change myself) if it's just them being nasty then I dismiss it and chalk it up to that person just trying to bring me down.
@cessy1 (1748)
• Philippines
29 Nov 06
that's really a nice way to do it :) however, the person telling the criticism must also have a nice way of telling it..i mean no matter how good intention may be..if the criticism was said in a very rude manner, i think you can't really help but be mad sometimes before realizing that it is a valid criticism..
@prasad1961 (5597)
• India
29 Nov 06
Negative ranking is guiding you to make you bring good discussions for the members. Its for betterment of you only. Try to improve yourself.
@rakinitin (685)
• Canada
30 Nov 06
I don't allow negativity in my life. It attracts the wrong things.
