rough time

@carebear29 (31970)
Wausau, Wisconsin
March 23, 2019 9:37pm CST
it has been a while since I post and I apologize. things haven't been well here especially in my marriage. we broke up for about a week and then got back together and then a few days ago broke up again and now trying again because the guy my husband would allow me to date wanted nothing to do with me after the first split. but whatever. all I can do now is take it one day at a time. I just hope things get better between us with time again. it has been a very rough patch for us. 16 years is a long time and there is spark but no flame. when we were apart and he was with another girl I let me anxiety and emotions get to me which it screwed up the relationship I was in and the guy never gave me a second chance. he still has that place in my heart but it will never be the same now. we will see how things go from here on out. by the way, even have my own room with my own bed but now I'm back in our room so my room has become my office again with a bed lol. ttyl. off to bed.
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@Juliaacv (51458)
• Canada
24 Mar 19
Why would you want to date if you love your husband, and if he loves you, why would he allow you to date, and then date someone himself?
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
he was caught cheating me and i gave up.
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@noni1959 (10104)
• United States
24 Mar 19
I don't believe in open marriages. I feel if you get married, you stay together and if want to see others, you get divorced or never marry. I guess I'm old fashion and just don't get it.
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
i tried but hes not trying
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@noni1959 (10104)
• United States
26 Mar 19
@carebear29 Isn't it time to let go? I know it isn't easy but is you are unhappy this way, be unhappy single while finding yourself and loving yourself before another relationship.
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@noni1959 (10104)
• United States
24 Mar 19
@sharon6345 It's very scary. Other STD's too.
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@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
24 Mar 19
I am quite confused about the set-up. Why both of you can date with someone else? Is the split up final?
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@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
27 Mar 19
@carebear29 Uhm I am sorry to hear this. I hope you can find real love along the journey.
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
yup/ thats what he wanted
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@RasmaSandra (80635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Mar 19
Just take things one day at a time and I hope it all works out for you. Remember to take things with care and for now, leave anger out of it. You need to see what keeps you together and what you really disagree on. Once you can get over the rough patches then the rest will come with time including love.
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
24 Mar 19
I am thanks you
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
25 Mar 19
I have never understood open marriages, why get married in the first place and what are you teaching the children that come into the marriage. Is that healthy for them, sounds like a lot of heartache and just wouldn't be worth it. I wish you luck
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
he dont listen to me and im just close to moving on myself.
@hillhjill (23717)
• United States
24 Mar 19
I wish the best for you both.
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
24 Mar 19
thanks
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@hillhjill (23717)
• United States
24 Mar 19
@carebear29 Your welcome.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Mar 19
I'm sorry things are so bad with y'all. =(
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
its ok
@kayshope (1670)
• El Paso, Texas
24 Mar 19
Hang in there. hope things work out for you..
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
im trying but hes not
@just4him (317249)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
25 Mar 19
I'm sorry you're having marriage trouble.
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
its ok im used to it
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
24 Mar 19
I'm confused. Why would either of you want to die other people why married? Even if a couple breaks up, a decent interval before entering another relationship is both healthy and beneficial.
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
im giving up again
@Courtlynn (67081)
• United States
23 Apr 19
Such a mess.. i hope you finally move on and become happy
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
9 May 19
yup thanks
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@andriaperry (117130)
• Anniston, Alabama
24 Mar 19
You 2 still doing the open marriage thing?
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
not at the moment. but close to ending it
@janethwayne (5191)
• Philippines
24 Mar 19
Sorry to hear that but I know it is not easy and I experienced the same way with my partner so I can understand you.
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
thanks
• Sonora, California
24 Mar 19
I am sorry you are going through a rough patch, I hope things work out for the best!
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@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
26 Mar 19
it hurts