A December Miracle
By Faye
@FayeHazel (40243)
United States
December 30, 2019 7:58pm CST
Hi friends! I know I have been absent for awhile, but the best thing has happened.
My dad is now in a nursing home. He went willingly.
I apologize if I sound mean, but if you've been reading for awhile you already know the story.
If you haven't been reading, well , to summarize - dad has always been a hot temper and for as long as I have known him he's had back pain. I think I remember being a little kid and describing my mom as a homemaker and my dad as having a bad back. As he ages both his many mental illnesses and his pain and mobility worsen. He likely has a form of dementia now too, and frankly hasn't been able to do hardly a thing for himself for the past 6 months.
My mom starts chemo in January. Her images are clear - which is the most important thing, but her bloodwork is high. So this is preventative. However , she really couldn't take care of him anymore, it's a strain for a person in prime condition, much less someone who has health issues of their own.
So he now has a guardian to insure he stays at the nursing home where he is safe. He doesn't see it this way. But it is what is best for him and for everyone else, too.
I can't begin to say how thankful to God for this miracle. Prayer works. I now know that things will be alright.
How are all of you? Happy and blessed I hope.
Photo: Pixabay
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39 responses
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
31 Dec 19
Thank God! I am glad he will get the 24/7 care he needs and that you and mom get them 24/7 you deserve.
No it doesnt sound mean, no one knows how hard it is to deal with this until they have to do it.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
7 Jan 20
I agree. Most people are inclined to believe the movie story or stories in novels. While some children are bad, this is not such a case. Really bad ones would have killed the parent or physically abused them turning them into whimpering person.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thank you so much. It is so a blessing
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 19
Absolutely prayers work and God loves us. So glad for your good news. =) 
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thanks so much! God is a wonderful heavenly Father
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@RasmaSandra (79892)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
31 Dec 19
I am glad that your dad is now safe and taken care of and glad that your mom will get the health care she needs. Many blessings and prayers for your family. I hope the New Year will bring better days.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thank you so much. We are so thankful here
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
31 Dec 19
We’ve spoken of this before, and I am happy your dad is in a place where he will receive the care he needs.
Thank goodness your mother will receive the care she needs, too.
My prayers are always with you with more on the way. You have all had such a tough year, and I hope 2020 will bring you good health, peace, and happiness.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thank you so much Dianne. I'm really so happy right now. I dont think it's sunk all the way in for mom or me. Now that he is being taken care of , mom can focus on her own health needs
We appreciate the prayers so much. Thank you, Dianne. I'm thankful for you
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@Deepizzaguy (102927)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
31 Dec 19
I am happy since I received my check from Publisher Clearing House in the mailbox today.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
31 Dec 19
Why do you get a check from them?
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@RasmaSandra (79892)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
31 Dec 19
@Deepizzaguy if you did you really did remember I am one of your dearest and oldest friends here. Please fund me when you can 
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@Deepizzaguy (102927)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
31 Dec 19
@andriaperry I played the Spin & Win game and hit two of the same number which won me $20.
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@kareng (59206)
• United States
31 Dec 19
Going through caring for my mother who was diagnosed with ALZ a few months ago, I rejoice in your news. This is getting hard taking care of my mom and I fully understand the battle you had with your dad. Prayers for your mom and her battle with cancer. I hope the chemo works!
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@kareng (59206)
• United States
2 Jan 20
@FayeHazel You are right there, prayers are very much appreciated! Thank you!
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Oh I'm sorry to hear that about your mom. I will pray. Don't feel bad if and when the time comes for someone else to take on her cares.
Thanks so much! We appreciate prayer. It works
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@AmbiePam (92789)
• United States
2 Jan 20
@FayeHazel Well, I am still waiting for you to move here so we can do a bunch of fun stuff, but other than that, things are okay.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thank you so.... yes it's so true. There are few limits to things he has put us through over the years. I'm just so thrilled that it is over now. I hope you are doing well too
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
6 Jan 20
@AmbiePam I'm waiting for me to move there too :-)
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@snowy22315 (180805)
• United States
31 Dec 19
It must be so stressful. I am glad your dad is now in a proper place, and things seem to be a bit beter with your mom. I hope your 2020 is excellent!
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
So true, this is the most excellent thing I could have ever thought of :-)
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
31 Dec 19
Oh Faye you are such a good daughter and have done everything you can possibly do for your Dad.
I am sorry to hear also that your Mother now has to go thru chemo again.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thanks so much dear. Mom is resiliant and I'm so happy dad won't be creating havoc while she's on treatment
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
I was really amazed. Of course, he didn't/doesn't know that it's going to be long term. ...... but I hope that the longer he's there the more he will get used to the idea
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
31 Dec 19
God works in many ways and I’m sure He has prepared many good things for you and your family in the coming year. Happy new year!
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
So true. We are so thankful for this blessing. Very happy New Year to you, too
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
31 Dec 19
@FayeHazel
That is great news. You are not mean at all. All he has put you and your mother through has been very hard. That should help your Mom when she does the chemo in January. I am ok.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thanks so much. It's been strange and difficult, but your'e right. It's over now :-)
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@GardenGerty (160697)
• United States
31 Dec 19
I wish you well as you support your mom in her health journey. I know you have done all you can for your dad and I am sure you are relieved that he is being cared for and has a guardian as well.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thank you so much, that is an artful and accurate way to word that. :-) Oh yes , so happy that now the guardian will make the choices as pertains to dad. The man is very experienced with dealing with people like dad
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thank you so much, it's a real blessing
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
31 Dec 19
Faye, I'm so glad to hear this. It's the best thing for all three of you. Tell Vicki I'll be praying for her and praying that God will give her a miracle, also.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
6 Jan 20
@FayeHazel God is amazing. Has your mom started her treatments yet?
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
6 Jan 20
@1creekgirl She starts tomorrow. Praise God, this will go smooth
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thank you so much . She does get a kick out of Vicki club - and I will let her know that she has your prayers. God is good
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
So true, it is way too much for one person. I noticed that they have 2 people and sometimes a lifting device to move him around. For some reason it makes me feel better to notice that.
The picture is so pretty isn't it? I found it on Pixabay :-)
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@akalinus (43209)
• United States
2 Jan 20
@FayeHazel just keep an eye on him. Some workers are not what they should be.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
31 Dec 19
A nursing home is the better place for someone like your dad. He'll get used to it, I'm sure.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
So true. They do try and have activities, usually 2 or 3 things during the day for residents to keep active. There is a nurse there that gets along with him well.
That said, he isn't happy being there. But then he wasn't happy at home, either.....
This is for sure, the best :-)
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
31 Dec 19
It's good that your Dad has found a good place which will take best care of him. This would be a big relief for your mom and she can go for her treatment with a free mind. Keeping your parents in thoughts and praying for a healthier year for them. 
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
6 Jan 20
@arunima25 Thanks so much, and you're very right about that
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 20
Thank you so much :-) It's true, dad isn't too happy, but then he isn't happy when everything is going his way, either. This is so much safer for him, for us, and for all involved. Thank you, we so do appreciate the prayers.
I hope 2020 is a wonderful year for you
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
3 Jan 20
@FayeHazel Any change and especially when we go away from loved ones takes time to settle in. But this is safe and that matters.
Thanks for your new year wishes.
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