Burning Bridges
@GypsyButterfly (295)
Ukiah, California
April 18, 2021 8:50pm CST
Not literally. That's when you've decided to end association with a person or situation. Or, they have with you. For myself, I say, that I don't burn bridges unless I never intend to pass that way again. I may not continue on with certain people, because, they've hurt or harmed me in the past (my abusive mother, for example). I have forgiven them for my own peace of mind. Even with them, I don't burn bridges, because, there may be a reason in the future that they come back into my life, even if it's only briefly. Though, I'm really hoping they don't. So far, there haven't been any bridges I've wished I'd burned. Since I don't burn them, I also don't have regrets. Sometimes myself & friends have drifted out of each other's lives (like my post, A Reason, a Season or a Lifetime). But there wasn't any finality about it. Do you have people or situations you've cut off & now you feel bad about doing so? Or, the opposite, ones that you would like to do that with, but, so far haven't?
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
19 Apr 21
First we must remember that we only hurt the ones we love. Sometimes, the differences surface because even if we are family or friends, our opinions, likes and dislikes, are totally our own. That's why people clash. To each his own conviction.
Next we must understand that if we didn't start the misunderstanding that caused the hurt, that person we love did it. Our attitude now becomes indifferent because even if we have forgiven, what happened cannot be undone. A person, when wounded, may heal, but would never forget the pain that caused the wound.
The answer is yes. Did cut relationships with people - family and friends. For sanity and self-preservation perhaps.
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@popciclecold (38586)
• United States
27 Apr 21
She called me a few times after I quit. I had taken all I could take. Had I stayed any longer I would have snapped.
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@popciclecold (38586)
• United States
28 Apr 21
@eileenleyva It was, I was so miserable.
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
28 Apr 21
@popciclecold You have done your part as a human person. Cannot be taken against you if you chose to burn the bridge. Christian doctrine dictates only to forgive 70 times 7. Yet it is our prerogative to discontinue the relationship if such is detrimental to the spirit.
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@kareng (59050)
• United States
19 Apr 21
I have put distance between my brother and his girlfriend. They took advantage of my mother and cleaned out her bank accounts. He won't talk or visit because he is afraid I will call the law on him. I can't do anything because my name was not on her accounts back then. They are now so one more cross and I will see that he and/or she pays. Her checking account just had fraud hit and we immediately thought it was them. It was totally unrelated and caught in time that funds were recovered.
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@kareng (59050)
• United States
27 Apr 21
@GypsyButterfly Yes, it is. Needless to say, we don't speak to each other anymore.
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@GypsyButterfly (295)
• Ukiah, California
27 Apr 21
@kareng That's horrible. Taking advantage of anyone is bad, but one's own mother. I'm glad you're on her accounts now.
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@popciclecold (38586)
• United States
19 Apr 21
I worked for a lady 5 years and she was mean and when pandemic broke out she would not have people where masks. So I burned the bridge and glad I did. She sent me a friend request from Facebook. No more.
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@GypsyButterfly (295)
• Ukiah, California
27 Apr 21
@popciclecold I guess she didn't realize she was mean, since she sent you a request
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@popciclecold (38586)
• United States
27 Apr 21
@GypsyButterfly She taught me well.
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