It is HARD to be the ELDEST in the FAMILY / myLot

Philippines

February 6, 2022 6:31am CST

Now that my biological parents are enjoying their second lives in heaven, I am the one who took the responsibility in dealing with my siblings' flaws. You must say that we are adults and why do I need to interfere with their personal lives. I only do this if something is not right. It is not easy to be the eldest and I have proven many times through the years. What do you think, guys? Are you the eldest in the family? Image Credit: static.toiimg.com

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Novi

@Novianping (47)

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6 Feb 22

Im the eldest in my family. Keep spirit, you're strong and you know it. Send virtual hug

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139933)

• Philippines

6 Feb 22

It seems you can relate to my situation. Thanks for the encouragement. Welcome to myLot...

Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (78882)

• East Tawas, Michigan

6 Feb 22

My sister is the eldest in our family, she's as mean as a "poisonous snake!" I stay far away from her manipulation and controls.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139933)

• Philippines

6 Feb 22

I think I am the kindest eldest in the bloodline of my family. If I have this eldest sister, I will definitely stay away from her.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139933)

• Philippines

7 Feb 22

@kobesbuddy I am sorry that she is like this. I hope she could turn to a new leaf.

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Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (78882)

• East Tawas, Michigan

6 Feb 22

@Shavkat She's bosy and mean, she doesn't like any family members!(except herself)

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Jabo

@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

7 Feb 22

I am the youngest of three but none of us feel responsible for the others. We are all there for each other and get on very well. (We're all in our 80s now)

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139933)

• Philippines

7 Feb 22

I hope we could be like that. My siblings and I were raised to be connected at all costs. This is how my parents want us to be.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (340019)

• Rockingham, Australia

7 Feb 22

I am the youngest but my two siblings and I never interfered in each others lives. My brother passed away a few years ago.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139933)

• Philippines

7 Feb 22

I am sorry about your older brother. We do have healthy arguments with the siblings.

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Thelma

@thelme55 (77061)

• Germany

6 Feb 22

I can feel you as I am the eldest child of the family, too.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139933)

• Philippines

6 Feb 22

I am glad that you can relate to my sentiment about it.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139933)

• Philippines

7 Feb 22

@thelme55 My younger sister and I have only one year gap. We usually talk about serious matters about family and have the same opinions when having final decisions.

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Thelma

@thelme55 (77061)

• Germany

6 Feb 22

@Shavkat Even when my parents are gone now, they (my siblings) still ask my advice or opinion if not financial support.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55016)

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6 Feb 22

I love the image. I had no problem when l was growing up- l was the third of four children.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (139933)

• Philippines

6 Feb 22

My siblings and I never argued seriously. Thanks for liking it

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Sanjeev

@sjvg1976 (41281)

• Delhi, India

6 Feb 22

I am not the eldest but I know the eldest kid has the responsibility especially when the parents are no more.

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aubrey

@averygirl72 (37845)

• Philippines

7 Feb 22

I'm the second in my siblings. My eldest sister is very responsible and I'm so happy that she became the eldest. Yes I believe it is hard to be the first born. You have to be like the parent when the parents are gone. I think my eldest sister will not have a hard time dealing with us her siblings

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@DaddyEvil (137259)

• United States

6 Feb 22

I'm the next-to-the-youngest in my family. I don't have an opinion anyway. In the US, unless we ask for advice from an older sibling, they don't interfere in our lives after we're over 18 years old. *shrug*

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Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (106271)

• Marion, Ohio

6 Feb 22

I am the eldest. But they are adults and have to live with what they do, not me.

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Mildred Tabitha

@mildredtabitha (16126)

• Nairobi, Kenya

6 Feb 22

Yes I'm the eldest and it is not easy. It's hard to act like a parent to younger siblings especially if they are grown and won't listen or take any advice

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@freelancermariagrace (27970)

• Philippines

7 Feb 22

You just want the best for them. You can do it

Zavice

@zavice (3)

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6 Feb 22

You are right friend though I am not the eldest but I feel what they feel too