Question: "Will there anyone who can take care of you?" / myLot

Philippines

February 27, 2022 5:48am CST

Since I am still an unmarried guy, I am not that worried about it. Well, in fact, I am married to my immediate family. Some people had bombarded me with so many related questions before and even up to this date. One thing is for sure, I have a nephew and nieces who will take care of me in the future. I am sure some of you will still question me that it is better to have a child of my own, right? I do not mind if you feel that way. Still, I am not going to explain myself further. I am just kidding up, guys! What is your standpoint about this concern? Photo is mine.

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OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (90711)

• Arvada, Colorado

27 Feb 22

It is a massive concern for me..not for myself, even though I will have to care for myself. I worry about my son..he is not married either and also there is NO family for him. He is totally alone when I am gone ....a terrible situation to be in in this place.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

This is what people around me keep on telling. But I cannot foresee the future. Why not ask him about it?

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OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (90711)

• Arvada, Colorado

27 Feb 22

@Shavkat Oh he already told me about it and blames me Shavvie

He always remind me of what a bad Mother

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@ZedSmart (19786)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

I'm sure he will be OK. But, I understand your concern as a mother because mothers want the best for their children.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (472323)

• Switzerland

27 Feb 22

I am married, my husband is 5 years older, we have no children and anyway I know many people in the nursing homes who have children and no one even go to visit. If no one will take care of me, I will retire in the local nursing home, it's beautiful.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (472323)

• Switzerland

27 Feb 22

@Kandae11 - Same as you, I am not concerned a bit about my future. I am well with myself.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55268)

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27 Feb 22

I have one son , a niece, nephews, cousins and over 100 extended family members - some l have met only once. I am unmarried so if my son or no one else wants to take care of me, l will go to a nursing home. I like my own company anyway.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (55268)

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27 Feb 22

@LadyDuck Great.

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rsa101

@rsa101 (38166)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

Staying single blessed is not a bad choice in life. For those that chose to remain unmarried has its advantages and disadvantages and you have to deal with the consequences and see to it that you can work in it.

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rsa101

@rsa101 (38166)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

@Shavkat I also have one grandma before and she remained single and stayed with her sister my Grandmother. She was I guess pretty much happy living with us and has even taken care of me when I was young back then.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

@rsa101 This grandma of mine does not like me and the rest of my family members.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

I have a grandma and an uncle who are not married. The grandma that I am referring to is my grandpa's sister. I am pretty sure that there are pros and cons.

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Mildred Tabitha

@mildredtabitha (16154)

• Nairobi, Kenya

27 Feb 22

I'm not married too. I can say it's better to have your own family and children. Marriage is a gift from God

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

It is a typical or even traditional way of thinking to get married to someone. I respect your belief in this concern.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

@mildredtabitha I used to say it but now, I am not looking for it. If it comes with the right one, then it must be it.

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Mildred Tabitha

@mildredtabitha (16154)

• Nairobi, Kenya

27 Feb 22

@Shavkat alright. If I may ask, have you ever wanted to marry?

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Hana

@Babino (5759)

• Morocco

27 Feb 22

What do you mean they're going to take care of you ? You think you should have your own child just so he would take care of you when you grown up ?

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

28 Feb 22

I am pointing out that my nephew and nieces can take good care of me if I grow older in the future. Some old folks claimed that their children will take good care of them if they are very old.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

1 Mar 22

@Babino It is in our culture to have close-knit family ties. Unless they had changed when I grow older.

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Hana

@Babino (5759)

• Morocco

28 Feb 22

@Shavkat and what makes you think they're going to do so ? What if they settle out and f the country or something..

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Angela

@Queenoflife (942)

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27 Feb 22

I'm not married. I am 28 years old, soon 29 years old. I don't have children but I think there is time for children. I've been in a relationship for about half a year.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

Who knows that your boyfriend would be your hubby. For some Filipinas, they are worried not to have a child due to the aging process.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

@Queenoflife I am that you weren't.

Angela

@Queenoflife (942)

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27 Feb 22

@Shavkat I'm still not worried.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38219)

• Philippines

28 Feb 22

The old thinking in our country is that our kids should be the ones to take care of us. However I believe that no one can force people what to do. I’d rather stay someplace I feel I’m well taken cared of than stay with my children who are just bound by responsibility and not by love

Jessica

@JESSY3236 (20110)

• United States

1 Mar 22

I'm not married, but I do have a boyfriend. I don't have any kids and don't want them. I'm not really worried about who will take care of me.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

2 Mar 22

If ever I am going to have a partner, I also do not want to have my own kid with her. I am fine with my companionship.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (342945)

• Rockingham, Australia

27 Feb 22

I'm sure people mean well but I don't think they should 'bombard' you about your single status. And I also think it is unfair to expect children to take care of you beyond a certain point although I know that in your culture the elderly are always respected and looked after by younger people.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Feb 22

I agree with you. Unfortunately, traditional thinkers are there to scrutinize people who chose singlehood.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

28 Feb 22

@JudyEv It is also the same concern with me. I tend to go away from them.