Over Protective?
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (55268)
May 30, 2022 9:31am CST
When my son was very young and l would take him places, strangers and acquaintances alike would say jokingly : "l am going to kidnap that child " or " l wish l could take him home"
Of course, l knew it was friendly banter but l took no chances with anyone.
I kept my son as close to me as possible until he reached the age when l felt he could defend himself.
Yes he was able to do most of the things little boys do for fun - like visiting the park, the zoo ,the playground , entertainment centers for children etc , but myself or a trusted family member was always around , in the background watching.
Were your parents very protective? Were you a protective parent? Would you be one when you get kids?
Picture is my son at age four.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
30 May 22
Your son is very adorable in the picture. Yes, I am overprotective of my daughter as you know crimes here in the city have increased to an extent that you cannot leave your kid alone. She is 13 years now but still is vulnerable. I think I need to teach her to few things.
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@snowy22315 (183111)
• United States
30 May 22
I have a cousin who was really adorable as a tot. She had blonde ringlets and looked like Shirley Temple. She was the cutest...I think alot of people wanted to take her home too. Yes, I was protective of my son more than my parents were. It was a different world when I was that age.
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@GreatMartin (23671)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
30 May 22
My parents definitely weren't!!
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@DaddyEvil (138453)
• United States
30 May 22
He is a handsome young man. And I don't blame you. I was always around Pretty somewhere close. I didn't trust people at all.
Nope, my parents let my siblings and I roam the countryside at will. We just had to be home by 6 pm when mom was putting dinner on the table.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
30 May 22
Same here. I never was much protected by my parents as I used to roam outside and when mom used to call I used to come in the evening. Maybe things have changed nowadays. @daddyevil
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@DaddyEvil (138453)
• United States
30 May 22
@Kandae11 You're welcome.
Yes, they definitely are.
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@TheHorse (221090)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 May 22
He looks darling. I admit that his hair makes me want to pat it gently. My parents were fairly protective until I was nine or so. When we were kids in Chicago, we would travel/explore, play sports, etc. in groups, so we were fairly safe.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
1 Jun 22
I was very protective of my youngest son, and I regret it a little bit, because, he now relies on me too much even after getting married.
I wish I had trained him to be more independent then. But it's not too much for a loving mother to bear.
I still love my time with him despite of his mature age.
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@Kandae11 (55268)
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1 Jun 22
I agree , that could happen. However, when l see what can happen to a child if one is not protective l have no regrets. Thankfully my son has grown into an independent , very assertive young man. During the pandemic he left the city to live with me in the country and l am treasuring every moment, because he will return to the city soon enough.
@RebeccasFarm (90711)
• Arvada, Colorado
30 May 22
He was a lovely child your son Kandase.
I was very protective also with good reason when my son was a child.
Had to be as you know the circumstances I had explained some to you.
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
31 May 22
He's pure adorable!!! Who could resist!! Yes, you never know what people's comments mean. Someone might just be crazy enough to try this. I would watch him like a hawk. My aunt was kidnapped as a kid and her father searched high and low until he found her. Comments like that shouldn't be taken lightly.
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@Kandae11 (55268)
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31 May 22
Thanks. Strangers would comment on his eyelashes and want to pinch his cheeks. About your aunt, what an awful experience for the family. I am glad her father got her back. Right now there is the instance of a 2 year old who was taken away while playing in his yard, the police and parents are still searching. This happened three weeks ago.
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@aninditasen (16528)
• Raurkela, India
31 May 22
I had a very protective father and am a protective mother too. May be I got my father's genes. My sons have grown protective towards me too as I am old now.
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@aninditasen (16528)
• Raurkela, India
31 May 22
@Kandae11 Yes, expectations do vary. My father was a perfect family man and I expected the same from my husband as he was a little careless. And therefore I had to take up the family affairs.
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@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
5 Jun 22
Oh my gosh, he was such a cutie! Yes, my mom was very paranoid and overprotective!
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@1creekgirl (41928)
• United States
30 May 22
What a handsome young fella! I believe in being protective also, especially in this evil time.
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@Marilynda1225 (83296)
• United States
31 May 22
When I was growing up life was totally different than it is now. As kids we were able to go out and play, ride bikes and had to be home for dinner. My kids were able to go out and play too without having to worry too much but times are so different now that if I was raising kids I wouldn't let them out of my sight.
Your son is definitely a cute pie
@Marilynda1225 (83296)
• United States
31 May 22
@Kandae11 that is so sad they sitll haven't found the 2 year old. When I think back to all the times my children were outside playing without an adult present I get chills but back then it was practically unheard of for something like that to happen.
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@Kandae11 (55268)
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31 May 22
@Marilynda1225. He was playing in the yard they say and his mother was in the house. At that age children get into everything, they pull at things, touch things they shouldn't - he would not have been out of my sight. If another person - even another child was out there with him, he or she would be able to inform about what happened.
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@MarshaMusselman (38864)
• Midland, Michigan
1 Jun 22
I live in a smaller community and no one ever teased in that manner. When visiting their friends I either drove them there or when they got older they'd ride their bikes. I would say I want over protective, but I always knew where they were.
