Not What I Had in Mind for International Dog Day

@moffittjc (121582)
Gainesville, Florida
August 27, 2022 8:11am CST
I think I've only written about this once, but we have a dog named Parker. A cute little mutt, but a royal pain in the ass. Anyway, it wasn't really our dog, but my daughter and I agreed to "temporarily" take ownership of him. He belonged to my ex-wife, and when she moved to south Florida at the beginning of the year, she couldn't take the dog with her, so my daughter agreed to keep him until my ex-wife could find a place that allowed pets, or bought a new home of her own. Anyway, the dog was a rescue, and had severe anxiety and other neurological issues. Which is why I said above that he was a pain in the ass. He was on all sorts of medications to help him deal with his issues. None of them really worked. My daughter even tried sending him to a behavioral specialist, but that only had limited success. But, long story short, Parker ended up having kidney problems, and unfortunately a little more than a week ago started having kidney failure. The unfortunate result was that we had to euthanize him yesterday, which coincidentally was international dog day. It was the most humane thing we could do to end his suffering, although it wasn't a choice we would have preferred. It's never easy putting down a family pet, and a decision we didn't take lightly. I took the day off work to spend the last few hours with Parker before taking him to the vet for the procedure. My daughter originally was going to do it while I was at work, but I didn't want her to be alone with the dog at the end, and also alone at home afterward. So we did it together. Like I said earlier, I wasn't particularly fond of the dog, but he still was a living, breathing creature, and I was sad to see him go. It hit me a little more emotionally than I thought it would. Have any of you had to put down a pet before?
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
27 Aug 22
So sorry, but you did the humane thing. We had to put Doodles down due to leukemia. A mobile vet, who put down his sister, did it in our family room. It was humane and necessary because he was in pain, not eating, and groaning. We were with him the entire time, and I still miss him terribly.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 Aug 22
For about the last 3-4 days he had vomit and diarrhea constantly, one of the indicators his poor little kidneys were going downhill. He also wasn’t eating, and the vet had to give him fluids via IV each day. Clearly the poor dog was suffering. Good to see you here Dianne!
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
29 Aug 22
@DianneN Wow, it does not seem like you were gone for that long. Oh my, how time flies!
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
28 Aug 22
@moffittjc Poor dog is in a better place. Thanks! So good to be back after three long months!
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@nela13 (58669)
• Portugal
27 Aug 22
I am so sorry, it is terrible when we have to take that decision. We once need to euthanized a cat, he had serious neurological problems. I know it hurts more than we first thought.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 Aug 22
It is a terrible decision to have to make, but it can often be the most humane decision. Nobody wants to see a loved and cherished pet suffer.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Aug 22
@nela13 That’s the only reason I could make such a tough decision. I didn’t want to see the poor thing suffer.
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@nela13 (58669)
• Portugal
28 Aug 22
@moffittjc that's true, it is a terrible decision but it is also terrible seeing them suffering.
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@Torunn (8607)
• Norway
28 Aug 22
I've had to put down several horses, and we had cats when I still lived at home, and at some point you have to let them go. It's definitly not my favourite part of having an animal, but knowing when it's over is part of the job IMO. But I never had to make the decision on international horse day. I don't even know if there is one.
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@Torunn (8607)
• Norway
28 Aug 22
@moffittjc A friend of mine has rescued a parrot. She has a pet for at least 30 years I think, 'cause it's a quite young parrot. So is she just remember to close the door (she forgot it on Thursday) she'll nearly have time to retire before getting a new pet. There must be an international horse day, filled with carrots and apples. I'm sure international dog day must have been a dog with a lot of balls and sticks.
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@FourWalls (68000)
• United States
29 Aug 22
Next month marks 20 years since Freckles (the dog in my profile picture here) went to Rainbow Bridge. She was 14 and having kidney failure, and I wasn’t going to make her suffer for two weeks for my sake. My brother took her to the vet. I couldn’t. I still owe my brother for doing that for me.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
29 Aug 22
I totally understand how you didn’t want to be there at the end. I really didn’t want to do it either, but my daughter wanted me to be there for emotional support for her.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
27 Aug 22
I am sorry Jeff. When I took care of my niece (and her dog) we had to put down her dog as the dog developer bone cancer. I know how painful it is. A pet is part of the family and we get so attached.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 Aug 22
Pets truly are part of our families, and so very difficult to let go of.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
28 Aug 22
@moffittjc I cried the whole day even when my neighbor had to put to sleep their cat Willy. I played with him every day.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
28 Aug 22
I am so sorry. Losing our pets was devastating. We still mourn the loss of all of our dogs -- 4 in total plus 2 more we had to surrender to the Humane Society.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Aug 22
My daughter and I had a good trip down memory lane yesterday when we were talking about all the pets we have had in our lives, including ones I had before she was even born. It was very therapeutic to just sit and talk about our furry babies and how much we loved them.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
29 Aug 22
@moffittjc Yes. We talk about our dogs all the time. The Pomeranians used to jump in my husband's lap before his behind even hit the chair.
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@snowy22315 (180691)
• United States
27 Aug 22
Yes, and it is never an easy decision. RIP Parker.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 Aug 22
Thank you. It never is easy having to see a life cut short. I just st hope he is in doggie heaven now living the good life.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Aug 22
Again I'm so so sorry for your loss. No matter what fur babies grow on us even when we don't think they have.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
29 Aug 22
That’s exactly how I feel right now. If you would have asked me a week ago, I would have told you I disliked that dog immensely. But now, I miss him so much. I wish I could have him back.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
28 Aug 22
I'm so sorry for Parket and you and your family. We never had a pet
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Aug 22
Thank you. Pets bring love and joy to families, but also grief and heartbreak. But it is a great reminder that we are all mortal, and I think it is a good learning experience about the cycle of life.
@RasmaSandra (79858)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Aug 22
I am so sorry to hear this, I know your will miss him no matter what you say, If the dog was suffering then it was the best thing to do, Imagine him up there happy and chasing butterflies,
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Aug 22
I will sit there and say openly that I never liked the dog, but I'm not going to lie, I miss him terribly and wish he were still here.
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@JESSY3236 (19949)
• United States
30 Aug 22
Sorry for your loss. No I hope I don't have to do it.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
1 Sep 22
Thank you. I know we all hope we never have to do something like this, but since pets have such a shorter lifespan than humans it’s not something we can totally avoid altogether.
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@Kandae11 (55010)
28 Aug 22
Sorry about Parker. That is one of the reasons why l hesitate to get a pet.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Aug 22
I know, I feel the same way. If it were just me, I wouldn't ever have a pet. But when you have children, things are much different. My daughter says now that she doesn't want another dog, but I'm willing to bet that in 6 months to a year we'll be talking about getting another dog.
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@gtdoss (1013)
• United States
27 Aug 22
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm 60 years old and always had pets (mostly cats), so I've had to put down my fair share of them. Always, always very sad.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
27 Aug 22
Oh my goodness. How sad. I have never had to do this thank goodness. I would be an emotional mess. I am sure it was the right thing to do. Your daughter was your hero and Parker’s too.
@wolfgirl569 (106236)
• Marion, Ohio
27 Aug 22
So sorry. It is never easy. You sound like my hubby with a dog I had. He liked her but admitted after she was gone that he didnt expect to miss her. He called for her for about a week after in the mornings when he let the other dogs out. Healso admitted that he kept looking to run into a brick wall as he walked through the house. She loved to get in front of us and stop. She was a doberman mastiff mix to tell you size and why she was a brick wall
@Fa_Maverick (9487)
• Australia
27 Aug 22
So sorry to hear. Yes I did need to put a pet down. My dog Snowy.