Will the institution of marriage continue for ever?
By prasanta
@prasanta (1948)
India
18 responses
@blessonje (1651)
• India
24 Sep 06
it depends on the place u are living...for the west id dont think its goin last for long...but in countries like india i think it will last for few more centuries
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@prasanta (1948)
• India
4 Oct 06
Dear Gentlenale,
There are other countries too, where people derive benefits from this institution. However, with the monogammy system people are no longer very much happy today, as I find.
In Asian countries, once married, both partners try their level best to hold the relationship with maximum effort. They suppress their dislikes (often) for the whole life, because the society will look down upon them, if they deny/break the marital relationship and find some other alternative way to live & enjoy.
But how long will this type of suppression continue?
Look at its outcomes:
1) Beating wife (very common in China, in India too 50% of the men beat their wives).
2) Burning or otherwise killing wife (often happens in India).
3) Extra-marital relationship is growing for both men and women.
4) Children growing in unhealthy environment, where they always find parents fighting.
So on... (I am not putting other points here now)
Thus, I feel, monogammy system is no longer the right one. By force, you cannot keep people tied for ever. So, I find a time ahead when things will drastically change.
Gentlenale, I am not under/overestimating. I am just monitoring the existing situation and looking for serious thinkers to comment on this serious issue.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
6 Oct 06
At least in India,because a strong foundation of basic tenets of living incorporated in fabric of life, the marriage as an institution continue to be playing its important role. It is only in western and unorganized and direction less african cultures, marriage has a meaning. To preserve this tradition, all we have to do is to forego belief in superstitions. Otherwise rest of the parapharnalia are very good in our system of marriage. On the strength of this institution, the family grows and what a wonderful relationship it is. Children in the west are deprived of all these love and affection, intimacy, regard for elders, love and affection from elders the values found in abundance in India. May be countries like China also preserves these values through their religion. Why for that matter, many of the Indians who are residing in US send their children for education in India.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
6 Oct 06
It is not all adults. This habit of looking at extra marital was there in our and your grand father's time and from times immemorial. The point I am driving home is what percentage of people would like to have such affairs? Compared to Western, it is negligible in India.
@cuteboy (170)
• India
6 Oct 06
There is no strong points in ur discussion.....
Shall u answer me how many of the couples married through legally,the marriage system are living their life without any troubles....
And i can question one thing....
have u ever be like that ssh,? for ever....
No...u caNT... UR CHANGING FROM MOMENT TO MOMENT....
At this moment,in ur body many of the cells have taken birth and many of them have been scavenged by other cells...
Then tell me have u ever been so constant without changing.....
No u cant ....
And about ur answer...
Tradition.....
they are prepared so that they cant let u to expressive....
chat with me.....
I will reveal the truths.....
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
3 Oct 06
Not in the west, I don't think so. We are already quickly moving to alernative definitions of marriage. Once the institution finally becomes loose association of any number of people of various genders, it will have no more meaning, and it will be legally abolished.
In other parts of the world it may continue to exist in its traditional manner.
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
4 Oct 06
The changes in marriage in recent decades: Once it was a permanent relationship between a man and woman for the purpose of procreation. Then it became a relationship not about raising a family, but about personal happiness for spouses. Then came divorce, then living together in lieu of marrying, then gay marriage and already we are hearing the cries in favor of polygamy, which I don't see how we can deny. Some day the government will simply have to refuse to acknowledge marriage as a legal institution - it will be meaninglessm alhough people will still be entering into relationships.
@Lackingstyle (7509)
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4 Oct 06
Marriage will always have a presence in society as long as people feel emotionally attached to representing their love in such a way. Many people aren’t entitled to certain benefits as they’re not married, that is the only aspect to marriage I can see changing, though I don’t think that’ll decrease the number of those getting married.
@gentlenale (67)
• Nigeria
3 Oct 06
so long as there will be procreation, so long as we are going to seek a help meet, some one who we lie on thier shoulder someone to trust, someone to truely call your own then thire will be marriage for ever
@i_agree_but (1183)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Oct 06
You think right.
Before I answer this question, I like to think about, why this thread was created ? And what was the real motive for this question? When I find nothing wrong, immediately I prefer to answer. However I like questions on science and politics but don't ignore other members requests. I'm thankful to mylot for giving such opportunity to share our views with international members.
@swapnarao (101)
• India
6 Oct 06
Ya i am sure that no matter when there will always be some people who will want to get married.
@SunnyDays (1070)
• Bahamas
24 Sep 06
I am sure it will persist... If you don't wanna be in a monogame relationship , stay single but there are still a lot of people out there who believe in Marriage
@psmohan (1877)
• India
6 Oct 06
Yes it will survive. A day will come when all old traditions will be back . People are only trying new means but the traditionally established customs will never fade and will come back. Like, Bullock Cart will be back one day on the road and automobiles will go off. You can record this somewhere for the future generation to refer & check back.
@Boonaa (55)
• India
26 Sep 06
It will remain atleast for a century or so. Even now there are scientific studies saying married people live longer(even if they are seemingly unhappy), fall sick fewer times etc.
