Why would you do this?
By Fleur
@Fleura (30404)
United Kingdom
January 11, 2023 5:16am CST
I know I’m only one of millions of people asking the same question, but seriously, why?
Why would you reveal the excruciatingly embarrassing details from your past life? I mean yes it is the kind of thing you might expect from some ageing rocker, when they are in their twilight years and all the people named are already dead, but why would you reveal all your past indiscretions so publicly, slag off all your family, and say nasty things about those who tried to protect you?
In spite of all the bad things Harry says about the invasion of privacy he allegedly suffered and which he is now going to such lengths to protect (NOT!), up to now all those people who could have sold their stories – palace staff, school staff and pupils, army contemporaries, travel organisers, you name it – kept schtum. Now they probably wonder why they bothered.
One of my friends was even at Sandhurst Military Academy with Harry when they were both starting their army officer training. The only thing he ever said about Harry was to confirm that he was known as ‘Harry Wales’.
I confess I haven’t read the book yet, I won’t give him the satisfaction of buying a new copy. I’m sure dozens of copies will be showing up in charity shops soon enough anyway, if I want to get to grips with the details by then!
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
12 Jan 23
I don't really know him nor have I read his books. But by expressing that one of my uncles is a pedophile, I believe I prevented other little girls being sent to him. I also believe him to have stopped that behavior fearing exposure in the society. That is a desirable outcome even if it has made me lose my so called "dignity", which I believe was lost every time we had to socialize because I was the one who was suffering it and he was enjoying my situation. Especially when people refused to believe me...it took god almighty to step in and do the needful.
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@xFiacre (13035)
• Ireland
11 Jan 23
@fleura This wounded man is his own worst enemy it seems. His accusations against his family may well be true, but what normal person tells the whole world? If he was an offended teenager I’d understand. I won’t be investing in a copy either - there are bound to be a few Spares lying about shortly.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
12 Jan 23
@Fleura How are we really helping us as well as society from moving out of some situations or behavior if we bottle up? That is my question. If there is a tort, people need to understand that this is not ok...and stand up because taking the matter to the court, getting verdict against it, may itself be time consuming and expensive. Not to mention the fact that torts are so many that courts cannot spare that kinda time. Most of the time, courts focus on physical pain and physical losses. There are issues that hurt psyche too, for which no legal remedy is immediately in sight unless we as a society become more careful in the way think and talk. Added to that is the fact that person who has been the victim in any situation, if we judge the person, compounding his negative feelings, we are encouraging him to be bad with someone. After all, society does not stand up for the right, and deems this behavior as right. That is the mechanism that comes up in his brain. I do avoid conflicts, but when I am subjected to it, I cut off with the person immediately. If it is unavoidable, I do stand up for me. I believe standing up for self is important as it leads to preventing similar behavior and forces the perpetrators to behave.
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@Juliaacv (50979)
• Canada
11 Jan 23
I cannot help but to wonder if we are all witnessing the mental breakdown of Harry.
I cannot imagine it being anything else, and sadly, some low life individuals, will make money over this, much in the way that others did leading up to and including the night that Harry's dear mother passed away.
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@Fleura (30404)
• United Kingdom
11 Jan 23
It really looks like it. When he joined the military everyone thought it was 'the making of him' and he really did seem in a good place and did a lot of good things with his charity work etc. But since he met 'Me-again' things seem to have spiralled completely out of control, although he says he's really happy!
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@Juliaacv (50979)
• Canada
11 Jan 23
@Fleura I do not know if it is Megan's influence or that of the American culture, but whatever or whomever is responsible for him allowing these things makes me wonder if they are not pleas for help. It is comparable to his mother's eating disorder, that too, was a plea for mental health.
And please, forgive me for bringing up Diana in my comments, may she RIP.
And just for the record, the news just showed that Harry's book is selling for half off here in Canada. I do not think that Canadians are buying into any of this at all. Nobody wants to read what they will regret.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
13 Jan 23
@Fleura There is a trade off....holding on to the pain periodically getting into foul mood and resorting to rash action, or getting some people at least to understand him. Once the bottled up issue is out ...whether people talk to him or not, he would know he has public sympathy. Remember Lady Di? She too must have had that kinda situation when she said there were always three in the marriage. But the whole England stood by her, even though she tried to make it tough for her husband by asking for hefty alimony and discontinued those charities. England stood by her even after her affairs surfaced. So it was like...the world understood her pain. He is trying something similar. If it works...the big if, it helps him relax some, and be more focused on other aspects of life.
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@japanesesamurai (2196)
• Japan
11 Jan 23
disgusting, annoying and unnecessary! who cares! i will not even read it.
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@LadyDuck (471421)
• Switzerland
11 Jan 23
@japanesesamurai I am well, I cannot reply to your P.Message as you do not allow people to send you messages.
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@lazydaizee (6735)
• United Kingdom
11 Jan 23
I once heard of somebody who worked for a member of the Royal family, apparently if you work for them, you have to sign some sort of official secrets form before you start the job. This is supposed to protect them from gossip. So it does seem a bit naughty that he is allowed to give the public details of his family life.
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@GardenGerty (160697)
• United States
12 Jan 23
Yes that does give the lie to the "invasion of privacy" thing does it not? Lots of copies will come up for sale used.
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@BarBaraPrz (47334)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Jan 23
We were talking about it last night and thought that maybe it was a way of "getting back at" his father for divorcing his mother. Who know?
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@Fleura (30404)
• United Kingdom
12 Jan 23
That's true but of course many younger siblings might feel the same but they don't usually slag off all their family quite so publicly - although perhaps they would given the opportunity. And of course it depends on your opinion of being mistreated - things like getting a smaller bedroom for example.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50256)
• United States
11 Jan 23
I imagine that there will be regrets.
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@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
11 Jan 23
I find it odd that he would write a "tell all" kind of book exposing some sorted details about the family. I won't read it but I do feel sad what is happening between both brothers.
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@Fleura (30404)
• United Kingdom
12 Jan 23
It has a sort of horrible fascination to see what he's going to do next - like watching someone at a Victorian freak show in a way I suppose, except that he is doing it voluntarily. I suppose he thought it would reveal the truth about the family, the press and everyone else but it seems to be having the opposite effect and just making him look worse and worse while not changing anyone's opinion about other people/institutions.
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Indeed.
@vandana7 (100297)
• India
12 Jan 23
I think we all bottle up things and that makes us less patient with others who are not responsible for our heightened level of impatience so to say. I do believe scores should be settled promptly, with the person who inflicted the pain. Society unfortunately does not stand by us at the right time. And we may ourselves be overwhelmed with emotions because of feelings at that point of time, which may include self pity and past incidences. This leads to lack of being articulate in explaining why we are feeling hurt or expressing the pain. Often, this leads to wrong language being used with intent to stop the pain, and the issue strays in a different direction with people who do not know the background (past incidences), resorting to be judgemental. I cannot know the actual relationship between the siblings. I have relatives who hurt me when nobody is around - a kinda perverted behavior. So it is difficult to prove to others that they are nasty people. Likewise, people ridicule and try to give it a color of joke. That is also not ok....If it hurts him, better that the pain comes out it will lighten the burden and help him focus on better things in future. As far as others are concerned, these things come and go...too much news around to hold on to anything.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
13 Jan 23
@Fleura That is why, I am cutting some slack for Harry. As a guy, he may still be holding back some issues..(criminal type), that he dare not open up to anyone. If this method heals him, so be it...whatever heals the pain, so be it, whatever stops bad behavior, so be it...may peace rule in the hearts of people and the world.
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@allknowing (136532)
• India
11 Jan 23
All what I can say is Harry is an unhappy soul
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@RasmaSandra (79892)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Jan 23
It seems obvious this guy has serious issues of all kinds and I feel sorry for his wife and kids. I for one will not be reading this book,
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@porwest (90937)
• United States
13 Jan 23
I have been a bit on the fence about what's really behind all of this that has been going on with Harry and Meghan. I tend to think it is a combination of being spoiled, as well as maybe having some long held animosity towards the royal family over the treatment of his mother. They definitely have an end game, but none of it, I think, is particularly good.
I am not sure much of any of what is being said is even true. But it sure is selling books right now and TV appearances and whatever else, and the steamier and tawdrier everything is, the more money everyone will make from it.
I also believe this will not end well for these two. They are going to get boring, and that's not going to take that long honestly. And then they will be left distanced from the royals and distanced from favor from the American public as well.
I am not sure they realize this.
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