When things pop out I don’t mean to say
@shaggin (74029)
United States
January 13, 2023 9:53am CST
My husband said he has to buy the dog different food for her fat a**. I said that isn’t a nice way to say it to just say I need to buy new food for our little dog.
I said we don’t want our daughter going to school someday and calling someone fat or calling her friend April Fatso.
He asked why I would even say that and I started giggling and told him a story of when I was young…
I’m not sure how old I was mid elementary school years is all I recall.
I was at the town carnival with my parents. My friend ran up to me and asked me to ride a ride with her.
I turned to my mother and asked if I could ride the ride with April Fatso.
Of course that wasn’t really her last name. I’m sure I didn’t mean to say what I was thinking out loud.
I can imagine how mortified my parents were and how awful that poor kid felt. I wouldn’t have even wanted to ride a ride after that if I was her but I know we did.
Photo is unrelated to the discussion and is of my green bottle collection (and the oldest bottle I own which is the boot one).
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@popciclecold (39949)
• United States
13 Jan 23
Lol, that was a way of putting it..
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@snowy22315 (186826)
• United States
13 Jan 23
Oops, and more oops. Lets hope April has forgotten the whole thing by now..
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
13 Jan 23
@snowy22315 I saw her probably 15 years later and asked if she remembered me and she did and remembered my name. I did not want to ask if she remembered what I said about her 
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@FourWalls (72592)
• United States
13 Jan 23
You remember that old rhyme we had as a “comeback,” “Sticks and stones may break my bones but named will never hurt me.” Total B.S. Yes, it hurt. I was bullied all the time in school when I was a kid. That’s why my junior high school was so precious to me: there was no bullying there!
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
13 Jan 23
@Fourwalls I’m so sorry you had to deal with bullying too. I was bullied terrible through pretty much 6th to 12th grade.
Yeah I agree about that saying. That’s why mental abuse in relationships can have such long lasting effects just like physical abuse can.
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
14 Jan 23
@FourWalls I can recall the faces and names of the ones who bullied me. That’s such a nice way to look at it 
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@FourWalls (72592)
• United States
13 Jan 23
@shaggin — ah, it was long ago. I don’t even remember their names or their faces. I have had more than my share of blessings to compensate.
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@allknowing (142568)
• India
14 Jan 23
There will be war if only people could read each others thoughts
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
14 Jan 23
@allknowing people have to be very happy I have learned not to say every little thing I thought like I did when I was young.
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
22 Jan 23
@rebelann my kids never called anyone names like that it wasn’t a word we used in this house and wasn’t allowed. They probably did learn it at school but as far as I know we’re always kind about things like that. My upbringing was very different than how I raised my kids.
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@rebelann (113492)
• El Paso, Texas
22 Jan 23
I was raised in the 1950s and some of the things I heard dad say I'd repeat and now I wish I hadn't learned all that, he was a racist but at least mom was not so that helped but only a little, you know how kids pick things up and their parents usually don't know what they're saying while they're in school, mom didn't that's for sure.
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@DaddyEvil (143900)
• United States
13 Jan 23
I'm just glad I can't hear what people really think about me. I'm sure it's not very complimentary.
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
17 Jan 23
@Daddyevil I can only imagine what people would be thinking about me. I’m so glad I can’t hear their thoughts.
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
17 Jan 23
@DaddyEvil my son tried to download mistplay on the computer and it said he needed to be registered on an android devise to use it. Dang
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@DaddyEvil (143900)
• United States
17 Jan 23
@shaggin Most of the time, I'd rather them tell me to my face what they think. And other times, I don't care what they think as long as they do what I suggest... 
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
14 Jan 23
@sallypup I’m glad it made people chuckle. I laugh when I think about it and feel absolutely terrible at the same time. I sure hope the poor girl doesn’t remember it.
My husband and his father bred dogs for so long they refer to the females as b**ches. I hate hearing my husbands say that. It may be the correct term but the baby is going to go around calling people that and the school nor I will like it.
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
16 Jan 23
@DianneN so wonderful to see you again! I was moping the floors yesterday and starting to worry about you again since I haven’t seen you around here. I was going to check your profile but forgot. I can’t remember anything my memories so bad.
Poor girl I hope she doesn’t remember what I said to her 
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@DianneN (247183)
• United States
16 Jan 23
@shaggin Thanks so much! I have thought of you often and wondered how you and the kids were doing.
I was so darn busy for such a long time that I couldn’t devote time here. I’m trying y best to myLot again. I missed being here and thought of my friends so often.
Hopefully, that girl forgot about what you said. If not, perhaps she went on a diet.
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
14 Jan 23
@Judyev when my husband and stepson were gutting the walls in our dining room my son found this boot bottle, another bottle that I tossed due to it having lathe and plastic debris stuck to it that I couldn’t remove, and an old quill pen holder.
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@GardenGerty (162762)
• United States
14 Jan 23
I hope she forgave you. I like colored glass bottles as well.
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
14 Jan 23
@GardenGerty she went on the ride with me after I said that so if she was very upset she hid it well enough I didn’t notice. I feel bad though I hope she doesn’t remember it.
@RebeccasFarm (93008)
• United States
22 Jan 23
Love those bottles Shanny.
You were so kind to want to ride with April. You did not mean the name in harm.
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@shaggin (74029)
• United States
23 Jan 23
@RebeccasFarm I definitely didn’t say it to be hurtful and I don’t think I even realized what I said until my mother told me later. When I think things they tend to come out and I don’t even realize it. I do feel bad though after all these years over it. I really hope she doesn’t remember it.
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