A Lie Is A lie Is A Lie ?

@Kandae11 (55005)
January 23, 2023 8:26am CST
Why do people tell lies? What are 'necessary' lies and wicked lies? I would say 'necessary' lies are told to get oneself out of trouble or to avoid a catastrophe. Wicked lies are aimed at getting someone in trouble , defamation of character etc, etc. Then there are lies people tell about their ownselves aimed at making themselves seem bigger than they are, richer than they are, nicer than they are etc, etc. However we look at it, a lie is a lie, but we can argue that some are necessary lies what do you think? Pixabay image.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
23 Jan 23
Some are necessary. An example, some doctors know that they must "minimize" the problem of a patient to avoid to depress the patient and that he stop to fight for his life.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
That is a perfectly good example. I agree. Stress is known to cause or aggravate a host of physical ailments, so if it will cause that patient to worry less- needlessly in some cases - then l agree.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
23 Jan 23
@Kandae11 It happened to one of our friend. His doctor lied, another doctor told him that he had a cancer, he stopped wanting to live.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
@LadyDuck l think I would want to know if l had cancer.
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• United States
23 Jan 23
The worst lies are the ones you tell yourself. It's nothing. I'll be okay. I feel better. Lies to shield another's feelings from harm are usually acceptable but even then, it could cause more harm than good.
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• United States
23 Jan 23
@sol_cee Yes. I have been away. I had been lying to myself. I'm slowly recovering from some major surgeries. I get to go home in 8 weeks. So very nice to see you :)
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
23 Jan 23
@vikingswest is that really you?
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
You are so right. Some people lie to themselves in order to avoid facing up to problems , especially with health issues and love relations. A lie to shield someone from harm cannot be a good move. If that person is in danger it is best they know in order to take the necessary steps to protect themselves. It has been a long time. So happy to see you.
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@shaggin (72131)
• United States
23 Jan 23
I pretty much don’t like any lies big or small or white lies as they are called.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
Some people might not always want to hear the truth. I think there is a song - very popular in the past - The singer was beseeching a lover to tell her a lie. I don't recall what she wanted him to lie about.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
@shaggin It is best to know the truth, even when it hurts.
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
23 Jan 23
Necessary lies as we call them white lies are those that harm none
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
24 Jan 23
@Kandae11 That goes without saying. Mother and father used to go for a movie but tell us they were going to see a doctor (lol) My husband told me a lie. He said what I cooked was nice but not to cook that again
@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
@allknowing. Ha ha, the truth was actually - the rice was not nice, but he did not want to hurt your feelings.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
It is important not to cause harm to anyone - including ourselves.
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• Eugene, Oregon
23 Jan 23
Honesty is best, but not always possible if peace is to be kept, I guess.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
Very true.Some circumstances require diplomacy and not everyone can be diplomatic.
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@nela13 (58667)
• Portugal
23 Jan 23
Some are necessary, if the truth will make the other suffer, better say a soft lie.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 23
@Kandae11 that is what I meant to say sometimes lies are helpful for a person and harsh truths are harmful.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
The aim there is to help the other person - and if a soft lie will do it instead of the full truth then....
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
@sjvg1976 x Definitely.
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@snowy22315 (180678)
• United States
23 Jan 23
Why is it a necessary lie to get yourself out of trouble? The honest thing to do would be to admit it and take the consequences.
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@snowy22315 (180678)
• United States
23 Jan 23
@Kandae11 Hmmmm, maybe
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@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
23 Jan 23
A lie can change the set of events in one´s and others´ lives. When we tell lies to other people, any positivity that could have developed is not achieved. If the lie is uncovered, another set of events is developed; this time, causing distress and grief
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@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
23 Jan 23
@Kandae11 Most of the time it does. Like you said a lie is a lie. This world would be a better world without lies
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
Most times the lie is uncovered and does irreparable damage.
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@DaddyEvil (137257)
• United States
23 Jan 23
There are also "social lies" that we tell to help someone feel better about themselves or to keep from wounding a fragile ego that might not handle the truth well.
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@DaddyEvil (137257)
• United States
25 Jan 23
@Kandae11 Yes, I agree... Little white lies don't hurt anyone and may be good from their perspective.
@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Jan 23
I don't like lies no matter the reason for them.
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@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Jan 23
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
A lie is a lie, whatever the reason.
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@aninditasen (16389)
• Raurkela, India
24 Jan 23
True. We lie to dying patient that he is going to live as we don't want a patient die before his time. However lying to defame or exploit someone is really vicious.
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@aninditasen (16389)
• Raurkela, India
25 Jan 23
@Kandae11 They have cause problems since time immemorial and we all have faced the situation.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
Yes those wicked lies can cause a mountain of problems.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
24 Jan 23
@Kandae11 I think that sometimes like little white lies are necessary not to hurt someone. Wicked lies are terrible and I will never understand why people cannot be honest.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
24 Jan 23
@Kandae11 The ones I hate that there are sick people and will not stop at destroying what a person owns or and epects them to pologize for what they did thinking they are the victim and not the victim being the victim.
@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
I too could never understand how people could be so callous - destroying one"s livelihood and character with lies.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Jan 23
A lie is a lie for sure. You often have to go around the truth to protect the person in certain situations I believe.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
That sounds much better " Go around the truth to protect the person". These situations do occur.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 23
@Kandae11 I have been there a few times.
@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
4 Feb 23
For me, I know two kinds or types of lie. Regular lie to destroy and a white lie to save others. A white lie is best exemplified in the Bible. Sarah was the wife if Abraham but Abraham lied to the Egyptians that Sarah wasn't his wife or else he would be killed.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
7 Feb 23
Oh yes , l do recall that story.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
8 Feb 23
@Kandae11 What lie is a harmless kind of lie for it can save someone.
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@vandana7 (100282)
• India
24 Jan 23
I think most lies are to get some respect of others, or escape from what is perceived as serious consequences. I do lie...not denying that. But my lies would be to prevent hurt to another person. Sometimes, just to do the work fast.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
There are also the wicked lies which can destroy lives.
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
24 Jan 23
A lie is a lie. No matter what.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
Yes , white lie, black lie , gray lie - still a lie.
@Shiva49 (26681)
• Singapore
24 Jan 23
I can honestly say I have never lied. Honesty is always the best policy. When we speak the truth, we don't have to remember what we say. I have been a victim of lies and deception and I have always wondered what was the need except to gain some short-term gains. I did suffer but I also made doubly sure never to follow their evil lifestyle.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
Wicked lies are evil indeed. They can cause much pain and suffering. Someone could lose their job, business, family, friends -- all because of a lying tongue.
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
6 Feb 23
I agree, a lie, is a lie, is a lie
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@Kandae11 (55005)
7 Feb 23
That is so very true.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
23 Jan 23
Some lies are necessary like Anna said .
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@Kandae11 (55005)
23 Jan 23
For one's survival in some cases.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
23 Jan 23
@Kandae11 yeah some people hurt us most ,that will be remembered for lifetime.
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@iKONICNoona (4194)
• Philippines
24 Jan 23
Well I guess some lies are for a purpose , some lie because they want to avoid conflicts and confrontations . Others do it to save someone specially if that someone is in great danger. But what I hate are the people who lie just to cover up their wrong doing and for fake news too. They do this to make themselves different from other people , to save face and to pretend.
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@Kandae11 (55005)
24 Jan 23
Some people also live a lie. What you see is not always what it is.
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