Gift For My Dad’s Wife
By Amber
@AmbiePam (92711)
United States
October 13, 2023 1:20pm CST
I’m not sure why I don’t refer to my dad’s wife as my stepmom. I guess it makes me feel like I’m a kid with a new mommy (which is a ridiculous thought). Anyway, I’m including a picture of what I got Diana (my stepmom; I said it!) for her birthday next month. We all joke when we go somewhere that I always freeze everyone out (I’m hot natured), so when we are in the same car this should help her.
Seriously, when we drive the 2 1/2 hours to see my sister and her family, she puts me in the front seat with my dad in case I want to run the air conditioner. She leaves a blanket in the back for her. Bless her heart. Do you think she’ll like it?
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@MarieCoyle (37444)
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13 Oct 23
I think she will love it. She sounds like a loving and considerate ''stepmom'' and that's a good thing, plus your Dad isn't by himself.
I am not a stepmom, but I have friends that are, that try so hard to please adult stepchildren. So often, the children rather resent the new stepmom because they miss their birth mother, and wish she was still alive. One of my friends lost her husband about 10 years ago. She waited for over 5 years before she even went on a date. She met a very nice man, her age, who had lost his wife. They fell in love, and planned to marry. He had a son who didn't want him to marry the woman and voiced this to everyone. The would-be husband is fairly well off, and his son spread the word that the woman wanted his Dad's money. Couldn't have been further from the truth, she had an inheritance from her own parents. They ended up making a pre-nup to satisfy the son, they both agreed on that without question. The son is still rude to her. It hurts her very much, she and his Dad include him always, but he is so hateful.
It's wonderful that you accept your stepmom and appreciate the person that she is. Not everyone does that. You are a good lady, Amber.
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@AmbiePam (92711)
• United States
13 Oct 23
Thank you, Marie. It just doesn’t make sense to me why an adult would try to take away the joy their parents have after losing someone they love. Obviously, the parent still wished their loved one was alive, but it can’t be helped. I would hope that guy could have put his dad’s happiness first, but I guess not. Shame on such a petty man.
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@paigea (36317)
• Canada
15 Oct 23
@MarieCoyle This reminds me of a woman who didn't remarry because of her
adult children. Then her children resented how much time she needed from them to help her with various things.
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@MarieCoyle (37444)
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14 Oct 23
@AmbiePam
Yes, petty is a good word to describe the behavior. I would think the child, or adult child, would know that the remaining parent needs to be loved and have a companion.
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@much2say (55601)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Oct 23
I didn't know there was such a thing . . . sounds perfect for someone who loves the warmth! My dad was always freezing . . . we were always looking for various clothing and things that would keep him warm. This is a great find and I'm sure she'll make great use of it .
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@AmbiePam (92711)
• United States
14 Oct 23
It really only bothers her if she’s in the front, and I’m in the backseat. Trying to make someone in the backseat comfortable is harder because the air is being blocked so much. She’d rather me sit in the front than get a headache from being too hot (no one wants a car companion throwing up). Lol
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
14 Oct 23
I think she'll love it. That's a very thoughtful gift. Have a good weekend.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84013)
• Rupert, Idaho
14 Oct 23
Sounds like a good gift to me. I didn't know they made heated scarves! Maybe I need that, I hate being cold so much lol!
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84013)
• Rupert, Idaho
15 Oct 23
@AmbiePam well without a working heater going to need something. We are going to buy a standing one soon I think though
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@snowy22315 (180674)
• United States
13 Oct 23
I think that is a great gift. Maybe I will get something like that for my mom. It would make a nice Christmas present. Actually, I could get one for my dad too...although he rarely goes anywhere.
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
14 Oct 23
You will not believe this but when I started reading your post where I see you mentioning "Dad's wife" I wondered whey you could not call her your stem mom and there you are talking about it (lol)
Now she will replace that blanket with your scarf gift.
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@RebeccasFarm (89882)
• Arvada, Colorado
13 Oct 23
Such a sweet lady she is..it is a lovely gift you got her Ambie.
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@1creekgirl (41424)
• United States
14 Oct 23
I think that's a very thoughtful gift...I bet she'll love it.
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@zainkhan121 (859)
• Pakistan
14 Oct 23
I completely understand where you're coming from regarding the term "stepmom." It's interesting how language can carry certain connotations, and it's wonderful to see your evolving relationship with Diana, or should I say, your stepmom! The thoughtful gift you've chosen for her is a sweet gesture, especially considering how you both deal with temperature differences during car rides. It's clear that you have a caring and considerate bond, and this gift seems like a perfect way to show your appreciation for her. I'm sure she'll absolutely love it! Bless her heart indeed for all the thoughtfulness she's shown. ??
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@freelancermariagrace (27970)
• Philippines
14 Oct 23
She seems to be a kind lady. You are considerate and sweet to give her a scarf. I'm sure she'll enjoy it!
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@kaylachan (69661)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Oct 23
It can be hard for anyone to call another woman "mom" regardless of reason. No reason you have to call her step-mom if you don't want to. I am sure she'll appreciate it.
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@Tina30219 (81921)
• Onaway, Michigan
14 Oct 23
Yes I think she will like it you should have went for the electric blanket
@Tina30219 (81921)
• Onaway, Michigan
15 Oct 23
@AmbiePam They have ones that you can plug in in the car my mom has one and loves hers
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@Deepizzaguy (102799)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
13 Oct 23
I am sure that Diana will enjoy her birthday gift.
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@Scrapper88 (5983)
• United States
13 Oct 23
There is a good chance she will like it. Let us know how she likes the scarf.
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