already November
By Kelli M
@spiderdust (14760)
San Jose, California
November 4, 2023 3:35pm CST
I've been trying to interact with other people's posts today, but I suppose I should write a post myself so people can interact back.
I'm not ready for the holidays. It's been a difficult year financially. My ex still hasn't found a job to replace the one he lost in January, and he owns the house. The rest of us have been struggling to meet the gap, and I'm worried about what will happen when he runs out of money from the severance and no longer gets unemployment. There are still a few months before that happens, but it's something I've been worried about all year and my anxiety keeps increasing over it as time goes by.
I should have Thanksgiving dinner and the other upcoming holiday meals covered. I already have a turkey in the freezer and I know I'll be getting a gift card from work in a few weeks that I can use to get a rib roast or ham for December, it's the presents that I'm worried about. I'm going to try to go with the "four gifts" idea -- something they want, something they need, something to wear, and something to read -- to help keep the gift budget in check. The kids know it's been a difficult year, or at least the older kids do, and I think a few carefully selected gifts may be appreciated more than a bunch of stuff.
I have a bunch of laundry to do today, and the room I'm sitting in could use a good cleaning. There are Halloween decorations that need to be packed up so they can be taken to the storage unit. Food needs to be prepped for the week, and I wish I had 3 days off in a row instead of 2 days with all of the kids home so I could get more done.
I'm tired, but I'm remembering to take my vitamin D. I'm very much looking forward to Daylight Savings Time ending tomorrow because I could use the extra sleep.
Picture of the drink containers that I decorated for my son's Halloween party at the school last week, because I know people are more likely to read posts that have pictures. I hope your weekend is going well.
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17 responses
@DaddyEvil (137669)
• United States
4 Nov 23
I know it's hard when the main breadwinner loses his/her job... Pretty and I were near panic when I started getting close to no income from anywhere...
There's still time for your hubby to find something and I hope he does before you guys run out of money... Good luck!
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@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
4 Nov 23
My hubby is still working, it's the ex that isn't. The ex's paycheck was the biggest though.
It's a complicated situation. We're all still living in the same house, despite the fact that the ex and I split up over 10 years ago. You know how expensive the housing is here, and this is how we've made it work.
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@DaddyEvil (137669)
• United States
4 Nov 23
@spiderdust Oh, I see... I don't think I'd be able to live with either one of my exes... They're too crabby to live with if I'm not married to them.
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@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
4 Nov 23
@DaddyEvil It hasn't always been easy, I'll admit. It kept the kids' lives as stable as I could make them though, and I couldn't really afford to go elsewhere.
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@LovesEverybody (4388)
• United States
4 Nov 23
I hope your ex can replace his job. I understand what it is to worry about money
I will pray for your family if you don't mind. Don't worry I am sure all will work out well.
Have a good evening and know i am praying for your family.
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@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
5 Nov 23
Hey, how have you been? I was wondering about you the other day.
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@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
10 Nov 23
@LovesEverybody I'm so glad you're getting your glasses. I have good distance vision, but my near vision has definitely diminished over the past two years.
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@LovesEverybody (4388)
• United States
6 Nov 23
@spiderdust Hello! Thank you for asking! I am doing well! I think if I can get a ride on Monday I can pick up my new glasses which will be great as I haven't been able to see in three or four years
I had to wait two weeks to get my glasses. I am so thrilled as I had my peer take me to the grocery store every week and she had to show me where everything was because I was unable to see. So I am thrilled!
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
5 Nov 23
I hope your ex- husband finds a job soon so it can help relieve some of your stress. I know those drinks well use to have them when I was a child. We go to my moms for the holidays we don’t cook a meal at home it is just me and my boyfriend.
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
6 Nov 23
@spiderdust Right have to prepare for the worse case .
@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
5 Nov 23
I'm trying to prepare myself for the notion that he won't find a job, or at least not one like what he had before. He might find a really low-wage job, but nothing in the tech industry anymore.
@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
5 Nov 23
Those drink containers were the hit of the party! I had planned to decorate them with googly eyes, but I misplaced the package of them. Fortunately I was able to make do with a sharpie marker, and I think they turned out better than they would have with the eyes.
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@Deepizzaguy (104231)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
5 Nov 23
My weekend so far is going good since I am able to complete surveys today and share good stories on this site.
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@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
5 Nov 23
I still need to work on Swagbucks today! It's part of my daily checklist for earning a few more cents for the holidays.
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@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
5 Nov 23
I'm sure we'll figure out something. There are some options we're considering, just hoping we don't have to use them.
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@snowy22315 (182288)
• United States
4 Nov 23
You have your hands full for sure. Could hubby temp or something as a way toward a FT job? Somebody really needs to be pulling in decent money there with all those kids. I hope it all works out...and there will be a Christmas miracle.. Sometimes it takes awhile. It took my nephew six months to find a job in his field and he was already employed..some places gave him mulitipe interviews and he didn't get hired, which must have been very discouraging.
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@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
5 Nov 23
It's my ex who is out of work and whose name is on the mortgage. Both my partner and I are working. Both of us make way less money together than my ex did on his own.
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@much2say (56117)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Nov 23
I truly hope your ex finds something and soon. I keep thinking about the future and have anxiety about it myself . . . moola and getting back into the working force is on my mind too. I know you will make the holidays special no matter what - it always ends up working out well - you're great at that. And yep - everyday stuff in life goes on no matter what too - gotta keep up our health all we can. Keeping my fingers crossed for you and your family .
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@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
5 Nov 23
I remember worrying about things last year and being stressed and tired... and we had more financial stability then, comparatively. I need to keep in mind that everything is relative and that things could be a lot worse.
@RebeccasFarm (90477)
• Arvada, Colorado
5 Nov 23
Sorry you are struggling..I don't do holidays if I can't afford them and even if I can, I am not enthused anymore mostly.
@Tampa_girl7 (50541)
• United States
4 Nov 23
I hope that the year will end on a good note for you and your family and that next year will be a good year.
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@Marilynda1225 (83103)
• United States
7 Nov 23
I can understand the stress you are feeling especially when the holidays are right around the corner. I hope your ex finds a new job before everything runs out.
@spiderdust (14760)
• San Jose, California
5 Nov 23
Yeah, it's been a rough year in general for a lot of people.
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@nela13 (58710)
• Portugal
6 Nov 23
Hope your financial situation improves soon. If you don't mind me to ask, how many kids do you have? I have 2, a boy who is 15 and a girl who is 11.
@LindaOHio (181931)
• United States
5 Nov 23
I hope your ex finds work soon. Here in Ohio there are tons of companies just begging for workers. I hope you can get the holidays covered. Take a deep breath and enjoy your day. The drink containers are really cute.
@sallypup (61662)
• Centralia, Washington
5 Nov 23
You must be exhausted from the physical work and the mental strain. I wish I could give you the turkey in my back freezer. We just are not going to eat it. The other 20 pound turkey is going to the guy who is insulating our back porch. (Hubby got ill last year and now he is not eating near as much so we will mostly go vegetarian this year.)
@thislittlepennyearns (62939)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
5 Nov 23
I miss talking to you woman! I know all about it being a rough year. The last few months have been real rough on us. With me down and miserable health wise most of the time.