I admire my maid

I give as good as I get. George and I will still argue from time to time, but our relationship is stronger then it's ever been.

My husband has never treated me like that. We have been together for 33 years.

"How do you react when your partner rebukes you", well, it depends on what the intention of my partner is. For example, if she wants to do certain things which are for the good of me, then the rebuke that she would give me would not matter to me much. Because I know it's for the betterment of my own self. But anyone rebuking me for some unvalid reason would definitely not go well with me. But such rebukes, even if your partner is giving it and it is for the first time... well that would be a bit hurting. But when we are used to something then it tends to go down without much affecting our mentality. I think the same about your maid. As you mentioned, that she has got used to getting rebukes from her husband, she might be well off with that. Also her husband scolded her because she didn't complete a certain thing. This shows that, may be due to any reason, she was responsible for keeping the work incomplete. And in such conditions there is hardly anything to say in defense. Another thing I will add is that your maid is an Indian woman, what we call "Bhartiya Nari". And she is the one who mostly looks after the house. And because she had left some work incomplete that's why she rushed back to complete the work.

We had our verbal fights with my husband, but NEVER in front of other people. That would have been to me a total lack of respect.

I am blessed to have a very respectful and kind partner. He would not scold me and would understand my shortcomings.

I have to admit I'm a bit of a sulker too.

Bob and I bark at each other now and then. I can tell him when he has hurt my feelings and I hope we shall always work around disagreements. He would not dare tell me off about doing chores, though.

I don't have a partner.

I think I am also a sulker, and I could not stand being scolded in front of other people.

That is just crazy, She is doing a job and making money so whatever has to be done at home can wait. Her husband should not run after her, I think that can be very stressful,

I think my husband would never do that. She shouldn't be used to that sort of behavior, it shows that her husband don't respect her.

Well most adults know how to carry on a conversation without it being called rubuking. Yes marriages involve conflicts and arguments. But you either learn to deal with it and move through it together, or you take another look at the relatonship Rebuking another person that you claim to love is not okay.

She is out working to bring additional income to the household. I would expect my partner to do what l forgot to do himself or wait till l got back home. One of the reasons why l prefer to remain single is that l absolutely refuse to tolerate certain behaviour. My first and only marriage didn't last very long.

Sounds to me like she may be in an abusive relationship. This seems to be more than just being mad at her. This is abuse.

Thankfully, that basically never happens. We try to always be polite and civil to each other. If he was the sort of person who would shout at me for something he wouldn't be my partner.