What Do You Find Most Challenging About Friendships? Sharing my Thoughts and Reflections
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@pitsipeahie (5015)
September 16, 2024 10:06am CST
Lately, I’ve been thinking about how tricky it can be to keep friendships going. For me, the toughest part is just staying in touch. Life gets so busy, and it’s easy to lose track of people - even those I care about a lot. Financial differences can also make things awkward - sometimes it’s hard to plan stuff that everyone can afford.
There are other hurdles too. Different interests can make it hard to find things in common, and disagreements can pop up when our views clash. Plus, being at different life stages can make it tough to relate to each other.
Right now, I don’t have close friends and I’m not really looking for new ones. The friends I had before have drifted away, and while I’m not sure if that’s a problem, honestly, it doesn’t bother me much. I couldn't care less. I feel more at peace now than I did back in the day when I had a lot of friends and was constantly going out and hanging out with them. I’ve also realized that it’s okay to move on from people or cut ties with those who don’t fit with my values or where I’m at in life. It’s just part of growing and focusing on what really matters to me. I’m learning to roll with the changes.
Well, all these thoughts are just my musings based on my personal experiences and views, which might be different from yours. 
I wish you all a good day or night, wherever you are!
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6 responses
@Jhonna (56)
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26 Sep
Its true that people come and go in your life, you will different people in different stage of your life, if time comes that you feel nothing left in one of your called friend it means you are already facing your own battle and i know you can handle it on your own without anyone.
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@pitsipeahie (5015)
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26 Sep
Totally agree! People come into our lives for different reasons and seasons. Sometimes, moving forward alone helps us grow even more. Thanks for sharing!
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@Jhonna (56)
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26 Sep
@pitsipeahie your welcome always we meet also for a reason ??
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@almostoveryou (4777)
• Philippines
17 Sep
This post spoke to me in so many ways. I've found myself in the same situations, the same thoughts and realizations. I have very few "close friends" now and no best friend at all. I have also sorted my friends into groups of interest -- like friends from high school and college, former colleagues, friends from art and crafts, etc. But I do wish I could have someone close to me like a neighbor that I can talk to anytime and do some things with. We've just moved in to a new city and I've barely made friends. 
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@almostoveryou (4777)
• Philippines
19 Sep
@pitsipeahie Thank you! I hope it won't be long before I find new friends to be with.
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@pitsipeahie (5015)
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17 Sep
I totally get where you're coming from. Moving to a new city makes it even harder to find that kind of close connection. Having different groups for different interests sounds like a great way to keep in touch with people who get each part of your life. Hopefully, you'll find that neighbor soon!
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@RebeccasFarm (89832)
• Arvada, Colorado
16 Sep
I don't bother with friends anymore..online yes, but not much in real life..it seems it is just not meant to be for me.
I had one faithful friend for over 30 yrs.
I guess to answer your question about friendship challenges..I don't really have the answer.
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@pitsipeahie (5015)
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17 Sep
It’s tough when things just don’t seem to align with real-life friendships anymore. Sometimes online connections feel easier to manage, too. I totally respect your approach!
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@2ndchances24 (8782)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
16 Sep
I can relate to what you said there's a lot of reason or issues that come with
having friends, my so called friends don't live that far from us & yet they can't
seem to find time to stop by to hang out like maybe a hr or even 30 mins.
They don't have time to even call & have a 10 min conversation knowing
that I almost lost my life twice from my health issues & they say they care
& worried about me not making it but yet a yr later no 1 has time to spend
with some 1 they so call care for, I'm done with them & their lies & excuse's.
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@pitsipeahie (5015)
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17 Sep
I know. I've also had an experience like that, and it’s so frustrating when people say they care but never make the time to actually show it. It really makes you rethink who’s worth your energy or who's worth to be in your life. For this reason, I’ve cut people from my life. You deserve friends who truly value your time and presence, not just empty words.
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@2ndchances24 (8782)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
18 Sep
@pitsipeahie thank you, that's right.
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@pitsipeahie (5015)
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26 Sep
That’s awesome! Having family that feels like friends is such a blessing. It's great they’re there for you like that.
@RevivedWarrior (2160)
• India
17 Sep
There are two challenging aspects to friendship . One, how deep the connection is. If we are connected only on few things , chances are we could get drifted over long run. But if we are connected in more points , then chances are less to get drifted. However, finding such people takes time and has never ben easy. Second aspect, as you rightly pointed out is staying in touch. We as well as they need to make constant effort to keep in touch. That also needs some effort although Social Media can help in that aspect much better. Unfortunately , we all get busy our lives and are unable to do both the above things and lose the interests.
@pitsipeahie (5015)
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17 Sep
You're absolutely right, it’s about more than just staying in touch—it’s about having a real, deep connection. Without that, it’s easy to drift apart over time. Thanks for sharing your perspective.
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