Sneaky
By much2say
@much2say (56047)
Los Angeles, California
December 20, 2024 2:53pm CST
A fellow mom friend and I did a sneaky thing 
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We became closer friends in recent years because of our similar family situations. Both of our mothers are widowed and our heartless, selfish siblings do nothing to help take care of them.
Her mother is 92, has dementia and health issues, and is mostly inactive. She is Taiwanese, but her generation knows the Japanese language well. My Japanese mother is 81, in fairly good health, and although she is active in her own way, she has social anxiety. We thought maybe it would do good for our moms to meet . . . we just wouldn't tell them ahead of time 
.
As planned, my friend and her mother came to the park to observe the seniors' tai chi class that my mother and I were in. After class, I acted surprised to see them 
- and we introduced our moms. My friend and I stepped aside to chat, hoping they would start their own conversation - and they did 
. We made sure to keep it brief for now 
.
Later my friend said it had been a very long time since her mother spoke to anyone near her age, so that was good. I was expecting to see her in a wheelchair, but the mother was feeling well enough to walk with a cane that day 
. My mother was actually excited to have met her and even said she'd like to see her again. That is a huge step up, folks!
And it did a lot of good for us 
.
Did you ever make sneaky plans that worked out for the best?
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We became closer friends in recent years because of our similar family situations. Both of our mothers are widowed and our heartless, selfish siblings do nothing to help take care of them.
Her mother is 92, has dementia and health issues, and is mostly inactive. She is Taiwanese, but her generation knows the Japanese language well. My Japanese mother is 81, in fairly good health, and although she is active in her own way, she has social anxiety. We thought maybe it would do good for our moms to meet . . . we just wouldn't tell them ahead of time .
As planned, my friend and her mother came to the park to observe the seniors' tai chi class that my mother and I were in. After class, I acted surprised to see them - and we introduced our moms. My friend and I stepped aside to chat, hoping they would start their own conversation - and they did . We made sure to keep it brief for now .
Later my friend said it had been a very long time since her mother spoke to anyone near her age, so that was good. I was expecting to see her in a wheelchair, but the mother was feeling well enough to walk with a cane that day . My mother was actually excited to have met her and even said she'd like to see her again. That is a huge step up, folks!
And it did a lot of good for us .
Did you ever make sneaky plans that worked out for the best?12 people like this
11 responses
@RebeccasFarm (90474)
• Arvada, Colorado
20 Dec
Haha this is so freaking awesome love you!!
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@DaddyEvil (137636)
• United States
20 Dec
Congratulations! I'm glad things seem to be working out for both ladies.
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@much2say (56047)
• Los Angeles, California
6h
@DaddyEvil We hope so too. It's hard because they are both not in a place where they "frequent" . . . they are both mainly at home all the time. At least this year I got my mom to take a class and she says hi to some folks - but of course friendships/relationships need more time and such. Thank you!
@DaddyEvil (137636)
• United States
22h
@much2say True... I hope they enjoyed the experience enough that they'll want to continue meeting/talking with new people.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
18h
That's wonderful. Seniors need companionship and stimulation. I, for one, can tell you that it's very important.
Have a good weekend.
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@snowy22315 (182190)
• United States
20 Dec
Sly like a fox you are much! Not sure about sneaky plans that worked out
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@crossbones27 (49723)
• Mojave, California
21 Dec
I am glad it worked,sneaky has two tones. When you doing it for good reasons and when doing for bad. I learned the hard way the sneaky good way usually works out and the bad way usually doesn't. 
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. . . you're take a huge risk and yah, it can go either way 
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@RasmaSandra (80748)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 Dec
I am glad that the two moms enjoyed meeting, For my mom's 60 and 70 birthdays I made her surprise parties,
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