should love have any limit or condition ?
By soFh123
@soFh123 (355)
Pakistan
December 2, 2006 9:22pm CST
I love somebody,I loved her more then my life.Still knowing that she never loved me,though she didn't said so but i know she never speak a truth even , always lie only to get-rid of me.
So what should i do ? I tried a lot but in all ways i am forced to love her , to think and do good for her.
She knew everything but she don't care as i am just a toy for her.
:(
i want to help her by going far away from her but its too hard for me almost impossible! now what i do ? how i tell her that i can't live w/o her ?
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36 responses
@gem_ruth_c (87)
• Philippines
6 Dec 06
hhmmp! so difficult to give advise because on how you elaborate your situation, i think it'll be difficult for you to listen to our advices.
but anyhow, i"ll share my thought regarding your issue.
just give yourself a break, ok. you'll definitely find another person to love and be loved. do not insist yourself to someone who is not worth of you. if that person does'nt care what you feel, then move on. if you can't get rid of loving her, then be it. love her but do not expect that she'll love you back. it's just simple, you only need to understand and compromise. live your life to fullest and that is by not being in blue in love. got it? good luck
@soFh123 (355)
• Pakistan
6 Dec 06
I know i would be advised,which i never want to listen or think,but it is also true that I'd no choice.
Though still i can't even think about any one else.She don't need me practically,though all day long she says only 1 thing that she loves me a lot,but its also a fact that she wants to breakup.I never understand what sort of love it is ? when she knows very well that nobody can love her more then me in this whole world.I tried everything,but everything is useless.I don't want to accept perhaps but she is so cruel in this regards.So what i am going to do is leaving the country asap,I can't live here just thinking about a person who only knows to give a lot of Pain.And now i would love to live alone,no matter rest of my all life.I think i must live for my family and friends .What love gave me is good enough for me .now no more girl,just me ,my family and my work.
I hope this will help me to sleep with peace which i can't from almost two years.
Pray for me :(
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@Tweety2035 (662)
• United States
3 Dec 06
You should read the bible and trust in God.God will show you the answer and let you know which to go.
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@LadyBird_87 (217)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 06
What a great answer. I felt the same way and prefer to refer bible to seeking for a true love.
@urzicutza (1971)
• Romania
3 Dec 06
well i love my partener more than my life to!
and he loves me back to in the same way maybe sometimes more than i love him!
we had an argument yestreday and my heart was beoken today!
but he was the one calling me today and pretanding that nothing hapent!he told me the same swwet think like he use to!
i love him so much!
and i realyy tought that is realy over
@nobodyspecial (1011)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I get the impression that you have made yourself codependent upon this girl. Codepenent love can work for a while, but it doesn't in the long run.
It also appears you want more from her than perhaps she is able to give. It could be that your love and the attentions you devote upon her are stiffling for her and she needs more space just to be able to breathe.
Love should have no limits nor conditions, yet this is also unrealistic. We love and we expect to be loved in return. This is a condition. We give we wish that giving to be acknowledged, this also is a condition.
It is quite possible she never will return to you the depth of love you seek from her.
There is a program called CoDA which might be of help to you so you can reduce your codependency upon her.
You can't make her love you the way you wish her to, but you can learn to accept the level of affection she is able to bestow upon you.
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@sunflowergirl (3064)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Dec 06
kidnly leave her!ino its not ezi!but IGNORE her for sumtimes and c if ur she gets worried abt u or not! best of luck!
@sunflowergirl (3064)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Dec 06
if she gets effected whn ur not around dat means she cares takes notice!!!!be happy!!!
@chaingang (1)
• India
3 Dec 06
I think love should have no limits and conditions as far as both the guy and the girl love each other. But as in your case, since the girl is not showing the kind of response that you expect from her, all that you do for her goes in vain. Also forcing the girl into the relationship DEFINITELY DOES NOT WORK, infact if you do this she will hate you all the more. Also before hating her for all she has done, try to know the reason behind her decision, may be its genuine and try to understand it. The guy should actually try to be good friends with the girl, if she is not interested in taking the relationship further, because practically there is nothing you can do if she is not interested. Forcing her spoils her's as well as your life. And there are many other beautiful women to die for. So cheer up and move on!!
@soFh123 (355)
• Pakistan
3 Dec 06
I myself believe that love should not have any limit neither any condition.So for loving her should i look for condition that she also must love me ? And its not that she doesn't love me, She loves me a lot but still i don't understand the reason.I tried my best to know but i felt there is something for which she is hiding and want me to get out of her life for ever.
in last three months she said me 4 times that She don't have any feeling for me and i am just a time pass , but after saying this she cried a lot.
I never saw her,Never met her ,but still i can do anything for her.Even if she says that i must not talk to her for ever , i will do but i think I've got rights to know the reason at least.And she is not going to tell me exactly what is the reason for doing all this ?
@researchscholar (2218)
• India
3 Dec 06
Leave her and try another girl. See love is just part of our life that's all. It is not completely our life. I think you are creating over scene for love. See love must generate from heart not from eyes. If she is real lady means definitely she would understand your feelings. And how crazy you are already she is treating like a toy and you are trying to contact her. Just Leave and enjoy your life the girl who loves you.
@soFh123 (355)
• Pakistan
3 Dec 06
u r a scholar so you will find me crazy no doubt.
and May be i am but its not in my hand,
you know i never saw her,still i want to be with her.Her thinking makes me so strong i don't know why?
she never said that she doesn't love me,and i know she loves me so much but still she lies too much and wants me to get myself out of her life.
I just want to know why she is doing this ?
@killailla (1301)
• Canada
4 Dec 06
dont, move on, you sound like such a caring guy that she is not worth it, you are way above her!!!!
@anne_143god (5387)
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
I dont think so love has a limit but on your case maybe you should set her free for it seems that she does not love you anymore. On that case you will really prove that you love her for setting her free.
@udayhase (173)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Consider your love against a time-honored proof of love. It's not one of the most-recited sections of the bible at marriages for nothing. I love my partner more than my life (although she hates it when I talk like that, says I should value my life more than her. I think it's rubbish), and I found her after I loved and lost, so really, you will find someone that will actually love you back just as much as you love them. Take a chance.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
Give yourself a favor and leave her. Find someone who will love you. If she can't love you then just move on. There's no sense in staying in a relationship that won't grow. Relationship is composed of two in love individuals. She is just going to hurt you more. Try talking with her first. Ask her to tell you the whole truth. But, I still believe that you need to move on without her. It's not true that you can't live without her. It just feels like it. We all get to a stage where we feel we're overly dependent on someone because we're so in love. But you'll get by. You just have to find a way to depend on your own. Don't place her in a pedestal just becayse you love her that much. It could only give her more chances to hurt you. Try her. Leave her for a week. Don't call her, don't see her...If she comes back to you then you've gained her back. But if she doesn't then there's no way but forward. Move on.
@LadyBird_87 (217)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 06
For me love should have no limit and must be unconditional. Don't ever believe someone's who put certain condition to their love because it might be truly lie. Definitely, Someone that love us will me much more willing to do anything and that is just because to get our love. So, i suggest you to search back you girlfriend feelings.
@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
you know it's really hard to love someone and never loved love in return, but for me love should be unconditional, even though we don't recieve the right of love we expect from our love one,. this is just my own opinion, have a nice day.
@sugaree (109)
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
hello? are you sure? if thats the case, then i think its better for you to just give up... snap back to reality.. fantasy delights, reality bites.. hahaie... well, dont cry over spilled milk.. milk another cow.. if she doesnt even appreciate your efforts, then she's not worth it.. she doesnt deserve you're love and attention.. hope this helps...Godbless
@daehtop (118)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Well i think that you should just be straight up with her because if you don't you will never truly know how she feels. You may think you love her but if she doesn't love you back it wasn't meant to be. Maybe God is trying to tell you theres somebody better out there for you. Maybe this girl doesn't know she loves you or that you love her. Honesty is the best policy. So go do your thing. GOOD LUCK!
