Do you stay together for the kids?There are so many divorces & unhappy marriages

i dont think that this really ever works even thoug lots of people do it. When people really dont want to be with each other but the ystay together for their kids they just end up fighting in front of their children and it ends up being a sad situation for the children. My parents divorced and while at times it was hard i would rather have gone through my situation than have parents constantly yelling at each other and fighting.

i dont think you should "stay together for the kids" because an unhappy marriage is an unhealthy one for both the married couple AND their children. you should get out of the relationship when you feel like you just cant handle it anymore and nothing seems to be helping. i think what you should do first is seek marriage or family counseling, but sometimes that just doesnt work. i dont think i would mind shared custody as long as my (ex)husband wasn't abusive or an addict.

I did stay for a while for the kids,but in the end I decided that being in an unhappy marriage is not good for either the kids or myself.I had to end the marriage in the end for my own sanity.I have my kids fulltime and my ex husband has them on every second week end.Well it's turned into almost every week end.We have been apart for 13 years now and the kids have a great relationship with their father and I am happy to be single.

How is it possible for two people to stay together if they can not bear each others company, even for a little while, leave aside a life time together. Staying together for kids may be possible for some time, but for endless years.....is being too sure of a miracle coming along. If in case kids are too small, to help u with the decision, then wait for a while till they are big enough...some sacrifice can be made for them. If in case kids are old enough to help u decide then,talk to them and decide what u finally want and then act accordingly. Believe me children these days,are very matured, n logical in there thought process, just as parents worry about the kids happiness so do the kids about parents being happy.

This is a tough one. I think that it depends on where you are currently in your marriage. If you catch it early, and you still love the person, I think that you owe it to yourself to get some counciling and try to make thins work. Hoever, if this happens late and it is obvious that nether person loves each other, there is no way that you should stay together just for the children. I think that you will do much more damange together than you will do apart.

This is hard. My parents did that for me and my brother and my mother regrets it now. She is now thinking of leaving my dad. And I have had issues too of my own with my husband but he begged me to stay with him recently and I will give him another chance. He is not a bad guy but stress kind of can cause problems, you know? But I also admit I hate my mother in law and I never want to see her again. As long as my husband knows this, and is okay with it, I have to just accept it and work on things...

I know of several people who stay with their spouse because of their kids, regardless if the couple are not gettng along with each other. They are afraid of what it could do to their kids. I think if i was married and had kids, I would have to talk to to my kids and explain the situation to them and see how they felt about whether we should stay together or not.

I went throught this. I stayed with my ex for my son. I told my ex I was staying till our son was older. But when my son turn 4 I left. I wish I would of left sooner. I think it was harder on him. We have shared custody. And we get along for our son. ( well we try to.) I didn't go for child support. Cause I want to make things easyer.

Well I had to leave my ex it because he was abusing me by physically and mentally and when I talked to the doctor she said I probably have depression already. The doctor has called my ex and strongly recommended to seek for a help by counselor but he told my doctor that he hates to waste his money for it and the situation between us just got worse each day. I needed to get out from the hell. As for kid issue,I think it will be better for kid not to see their parents are fighting all the time.I think to keep the marriage life for child isn't the biggest happiness for their kid.

I think it is better than stay together for kids take the kids sharing the custody. stay together for kids make ones life worse and dull. It is better to live individually for their mental peace as well as for liberty. If they are living together conditionally then there is more chance for cheating with partners, mental disturbance, despondency.

if your unhappy leave

I think staying together for the kids just makes things worse. I would suggest shared custody, it is hard on the kids and you, but staying together and fighting all the time brings an outlook to kids that fighting is healthy in a relationship.

I'll stay if they need me. because my mom quit from her job hen I was 9 because my exam got bad point. When my mom on my side, i able to incerased my point. I think it's worth than my job . ^^

I don't think it's good for the kids. They can feel the tension, and they can tell that something just isn't right. The best thing to do is show them how to handle things diplomatically, and make sure that they know that the break-up is NOT their fault. Kids often feel like THEY did something wrong.

I really dont know if its right to " stay together for the kids". I do think its best to try and keep some sort of good relationship/friendship for the kids though

actually i am happy in my marriage right now. there have been many ups and downs. there was one point that i left for a month and he keep the boys. i think that we are better for it now. i really dont think that people should stay together if they are not happy, it only hurts the children in the long run i think. whether the unhappiness is shown i think that it is felt and affects everyone.

I think if you are in an unhappy marriage then it's probably better not to stay together for the kids. It may be hard on them at first but surely it's better to have two parents who are happy apart then together and fighting making their lives a misery. Like I said, it would be hard at first but the children would adjust and over time would accept that that's how things are going to be.

I'm not sure ...

sorry i am still single i live wid my parents

i definitely stay together for kids.and many take silly things into account and and they go till divorces.i feel as a wife and husband someone r the other should compramise and every one has bad qualities and behaviour but they one thing is we should try to change them if they have any that sort.but not b leaving the partner and making theie childen without mom/dad