Do u think single mother can bring up a child????
By askshivam
@askshivam (478)
India
December 5, 2006 10:35am CST
How do you feel towards single women who purposefully become single mothers through a sperm bank? Do you think its important for a child to grow up with two parents (mom and dad) or do you think its not as important that the child grow up with both genders in their life? Is gender just an illusion then?
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9 responses
@anjalisk2005 (1492)
• India
7 Dec 06
single mother ideas is not bad it is very much possible but if the child can get the love of both parents then it is even better.
@lauczi (962)
• Poland
6 Dec 06
i am a child of a single mother and i say she's doing reat. although i was alone much of the time during my childhood, becuz she was working, but i dont mind right now that. and i must say that it is like 100 times better to be rised by single mother than with a bad father. knowing my father i wouldnt be the person i am if he were with us.
@rikpallav (1242)
• India
6 Dec 06
I would say it is possible to aise children by single mothers but it become too laborious and difficult for her to do that, as at somepoint of time you need someone to layback on and relax and want the things to be shared.that is where you would ask for a partner
@cm068l (10)
• United States
6 Dec 06
I believe that if a child has both parents in their life then it is in the best interest of the child. However, there are women who raise children everyday by themselves and are quite successful at it, for example, Shaqelle O'neal of the Miami Heat was raised by his mother singled handedly. I much rather see a child growing up in a home where there is love, comfort, and support than to see a child grow up in a home in which there is fighting parents and an unstable environment.
I believe using the services of a sperm bank is the choice of a woman. If she feels that she has the necessary support (emotional and financial, i.e.)to raise a child then go for it. However, before going to a sperm bank, the woman should also be willing to handle questions when the child wants to know his or her origins. I feel that the best response to this situation is to be honest. I have seen so many children not knowing who their natural parents are. As a response to that these parents tend to shy away from answering the child's question and in some instances have lied. ALWAYS BE HONEST with the child and seek counseling if needed.
Both genders can influence a child's life. Men need to be able to express their emotions - I don't see anything wrong with seeing a man cry, however, men should also know how to take care of a family. Just as important are girls. Girls need fathers in their life to understand life situations such as in the areas of relationships. For example relationship views from a man's perspective. Additionally, girls need mothers in their lives to address life's situations in which father's are uncomfortable with explaining.
@pcbulawanv (680)
• Austria
6 Dec 06
I think single mothers can bring up a child. Its does not really make a difference only when she has job. And that she can support the child. But I think it will be a bit harder because she will raise the child without the father. But soon shell get used to it im sure:-)
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
5 Dec 06
It's their rights and there isn't anything wrong with that. There isn't anything wrong with just one parent when a child grows up, sometimes it doesn't work out for mom and dad to be together.
@rawpoet (2045)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I believe a child should have both a male and female role model in their life, but it doesn't always work that way.
I can't say much about the sperm banks, but I know some of the richer people who are single or gay can go out an adopt a child. If anything, I'm just grateful that child can go to a good person. Well, let's hope they are anyway. We can't always win, unfortunately.
@katrina21 (116)
• India
5 Dec 06
Of course, a single mother can bring up a child. But it is important too for a child to grow up with two parents. Humans are social beings and growing up in a family makes you learn to be sociable, which is in itself a good thing. It makes for good citizens. But that still does not mean a single parent, man or woman, cannot raise a child successfully.