Would you be content if....

sorry to say but your man really is boring. he should love u the way u r and not the way he wants u to be. and he should have faith in u that u will always b faithful to him even if he isn't around u. i think i dislike him 4 u and sorry if i say that. anyway it's still ur decision that will have to happen. hope u decide 4 d best. have a nice day!!!

If my husband tried controlling me like that he would be outta here!! No matter how much I loved him, no one controls me!

I didnt see in your post but did he mention wearing a burka and walking 6 feet behind him? Love or not he is a bottom feeder. and what exactly is there to love?

quote(what if the man you fell in love with told you that he wants you to be a housewife and raise the children, cook the meals, and tend to the house while he works?).. sad to say I have done this...and yeah i have done the jealousy thing too.. except the cant go out doors thing ...i dont understand that. But yeah ... I prefere my wife to stay home while I work.. but there are times when I need her to work..outside the home. I prefer it but I dont demand it, I want my wife to be happy..and I learned if I respect my wife and let her make her own decisions, she usually does what I preferr anyway to make me happy just because she loves me. but yeah yer hubby is going in a jealous rage. needs to calm down

Nope, I'd tell the guy to hit the road!! No one is a piece of property remember that and there's probably a reason he won't allow you outdoors etc. Either he's hiding something or has some serious psychological problems. To be in love does not mean to put yourself in danger. Everyone know's the Bible's definition of love and I prefer to look at love as a VERB, not an emotion. By this definition, your husband is not treating you in love. Chew on that one girl.

I hope you are kidding. If you are not you are in big trouble.

Well, the first bit is fine, I already do that! Well, actually he often cooks the meals but I do the rest. All the other stuff is just totally wrong. A man must have to have some really serious issues to be like that. If he expects you to not go anywhere or do anything without him then he obviously doesn't trust you so that's the basis of the relationship gone before you even begin!

I would not be apart of this kind of a relationship. I think men like that are insecure.

I would not be apart of this kind of a relationship. I think men like that are insecure.

If this man truly loved you, he would not treat you in that manner. Men that try to control every aspect of their womans life have control issues, and things will just get worse as time goes on. That control might very well turn into violence at the least sign of resistance on your part. You truly love him? Walk away. Think about your future, your children...do you want them raised that way, in that sort of environment? Do you want them put at harm? Trust me, a little heartbreak right now is better than a lifetime of hurt.

I love my husband with all my heart and if he tried that with me we would have to get a divorce.Controlling someone is not the way to a happy marriage.

That would not work for me at all. Even if I was totally head over heals for him. My husband is a Muslim and I am a Christian and he has some of the beliefs you were saying, but he has been in the U.S. for so long now that he understands there is no way I'm going to abide by those standards. As far as being a housewife, I'd be perfectly content... but the clothes and going out of the house alone? NO WAY!!

yes it would matter i wouldnt feel like myself.

yes it would matter i wouldnt feel like myself.

i wouldn't mind being a house wife and raising the children, cooking, and taking care of the house but if he told me all that other stuff i would tell him to kiss my A**, excuse me for the saying, but that's what i would tell him.

I would say, "to hell with you" and be on my way.:)

Depends on you Stela. Many girls are happy being just the partner of a man, while others hav dreams and aspirations. Do you want just to be his housewif? Or do youw ant to have your own career? Make you choice, and tell him so. If he truly loves you, as much as you love him, he'll accept your decision on what you wish to do with your life. BTW, Im engagd to a food manufacturing rsearcher, and we sometims spend until 6 months apart. It hurts, but she's happy doing what she wants in life, and me doing what I want with mine. Have a nice day!

no. i won't be content if i won't work after our marriage. if he would be able to give everything i need and more then i would let myslef retire from work and just plan for everything and be a housewife, but if our finances will be limited, i really have to work.

This would matter very much. In order to truly love someone else you must first love yourself. If you allow yourself to be controlled in this manner then you can not possibly love yourself fully. If my husband started doing this, I would be out the door so fast he wouldn't know what happened. He knows it to. I respect him in all manners, and if he wants that to continue then he must do the same for me. What you described isn't a spouse, it's more like a father. Nobody can tell me who I can and can't talk to. Or what colors to wear! That is non-sense! And I can go outside when ever I dang well please! gggrrrr

I wish I could stay at home and raise my son. I would love to spend my days with him or getting my house in order for his return. I didn't think there were even men like that out there anymore.