2yr Old HELPP!!!

child sleeping - Child sleeping, wish mine was!
@Nancy76 (396)
United States
December 8, 2006 10:53am CST
Hello to everyone on MyLot!! I was wondering if maybe someone can help me with this little problem that I am having at home, and yes he is little. I have a 2 yr old son, that at a point would sleep in the bed with me and my boyfriend...Our house we bought was only a 2 bedroom, and just recently we made it to 3 bedroom....Well now my son cries at night and goes to our room....The only way he literally sleeps is if either me or my boyfriend sleep with him in his bed, then at night we crawl or tip toe out of the room, but like an hour or two later here comes the 2yr old crying. Yesturday I slept with him then when I thought he was asleep I got up and went to my bedroom...Well minutes later he comes in crying, so I take him back to his bed, but this time I sleep on the floor while he is on the bed...He is crying and crying, I left him like that for awhile but I got fed up cuz I thought of my daughter (who's in the next room)...So I got into the bed and slept there with him all night. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas as to how to get my son to sleep by himself and in his room???? I would appreciate it much!
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@blueman (16509)
• India
9 Dec 06
i think you should let him sleep until he is old enough.
• Singapore
9 Dec 06
what u did was correct, Leave him in his bed and let him go to sleep on his own....He'll cry on day 1 also on day 2 and 3 but later on he will understand that he has to sleep alone in his bed..Try giving him a soft toy or a pillow that he may like....Read him stories b4 bedtime making the atmosphere ofthe room calm and quiet...He will definately get into habit of sleeping alone in his own bed...
@ljmc24 (413)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I put my child on her second birthday in her own bed. Today is her 3rd bday. So it has been a year now. But it took several night of actually getting her in there. She would come out of the room I would pick her up carry her right back in and tuck her back in. I just made it clear that she was not coming in my room and if that meant crying for a little while then so be it. She eventually got the point. I also kept a nightlite in her room and kept a pretty strict bedtime routine. So that she doesn't get confused about it.
@lilmissy (481)
• United States
9 Dec 06
the family bed lol iam old enough to sleep alone and want to sleep alone but we usually take turns letting our little sister sleep with one of us ,usually she sleeps with me , next is mama ,then my sister and when my papa comes to stay over several times a week (parents seperated ) she sleeps on the sofa with him. she has started sleeping on her own lately too . i think besides the nights that you want intamicy with your boyfriend you should jus let him sleep with you, the nights that you do want some time sneak away to the living room or put himt o bed with his sister try asking themm to have a pajama party with disney videos popcorn and make a sleepout on the floor and have them sleep together on the weekends ,anythingg to break the pattern . that is also how i broke my sister closest in age from sleeping with me , we use to share a room till i was 9 and second sister was 6 then when we moved we got seperate rooms and se use to sleep over every weekend ,the parties were fun and sometimes dureing the week she snuck in my bed on slept in a sleeping bag on the floor but she grew out of it.its normal dont worry about it,its much more unnatural for a lil 2 year old to be want to shut in a bigdark room at night alone.enjoy them while they are young my baby sister is 4 and atm i want a baby so badly i miss her sleeping with me as a baby she is so big now but short of invitro by a frozen donor i dont have anyone in my life and dont want to raise a baby on my own so i just wait. ur lucky to have a 2yr old in ur bed.
@shyamj (86)
• India
9 Dec 06
hi, its really a tough. what is ur whole day behavr with him? dont remain very very close to him all the way. make him habit of being alone for some time. but be around bcse he is too small. at the bed time fed him properly so that he will not become hungry at midnight. and dont give him a water bfre bed so he will nod wet at night. try this.
• India
9 Dec 06
i think you are doing your best , i think your baby need you most! you and your boyfriend should make love on the times only when he is asleep, in this way you will get both things, you know making love in constraints is also a enjoyment , so enjoy your motherhood and boyfriend too!
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
9 Dec 06
well, i think the only way you can do it is by keep on putting him back into his bed whenever he comes to your room... a small reward like a sticker that you can put it in a chart will be useful to encourage him to sleep by himself...
@moneylee (411)
• China
9 Dec 06
i am sorry but i dont know ...
• India
9 Dec 06
Ok for the time let him sleep eith for about an year or so . I think after that he adjust himself . 2 yr kids feel insecure at that age please dont leave him alone
@elviar (24)
9 Dec 06
Hmmmm. I had this problem when I was a child. IN MY CASE I had a very unhappy childhood and I am forever scarred. Anyway, I think its a matter of insecurity. The cause may be surprisingly simple but you may not accept it. Give him lots of love (but not so he thinks something is up! ie keep it normal) and let him continue to sleep in your bed when he wants - dont sleep in his. Dont make too much of it to him but you should take advice from your doctor about why he is like this. There is very little wrong that a parents love cannot cure.
@VANILSON (35)
• Brazil
9 Dec 06
Mother and son - Mother and son
He/she looks, it will be a problem naƵ so difficult of solving also no so simple, he is already accustomed to sleep accompanied of the mother. Now it is better than he has an attendance of a psychoanalyst and to see what is happening. And God also, seek a psychoanalyst for him and pray, he asks God to help you, and you will have his/her resolved problem. Good Luck!
@lovein (345)
• India
9 Dec 06
Upto 11 years your son will disturb you and your boy friend. After that your son will not come to both of you crying. Is it good to focus on one types of feelings always ? Sometimes feel your son's existence. Thanks
• India
9 Dec 06
you try to play with him and make time get passed....
@rockboy (79)
• India
9 Dec 06
wats ur son name
@chukwudi (1098)
• Nigeria
9 Dec 06
its one of those things ,do not worry just keep managing him he will get use to it,and you will rest ,but look very well if you are not the cause
@saibal06 (2575)
• India
9 Dec 06
Your baby I think is afraid of somehow.He is feeling somewhat insecured and thats why he is not able to sleep alone at night. What happens during the day time? I think your baby will be slowly getting habituated in sleeping alone. It happens someimes that the baby cant sleep alone.Try to make it a habit for your baby to be alone even in the day time. Leave him alone during evenings. I hope he will be able to sleep alone also.
• India
9 Dec 06
cant help!!!!!!!!!!!1111
• India
9 Dec 06
sing him a nice lullaby and he would go off to sleep
• India
9 Dec 06
buy him a little large stuff toy which he picks himself and try making him sleep with it.
• India
9 Dec 06
hi, the best way to handle this problem would be to let him sleep with you in your bedroom till he is 4 years old.