How can I get my teenage daughter to clean her room?

I love watching Dr Phil on this one. His pragmatic approach is always to take the stuff out of the room until the child cooperates. Hey if you knew children like I know children you should offer to do the cleaning yourself and as you get into their hair, they will get the message and start wanting you gone. Especially when they get to the teens where their private space is a no touch area for you. Also perhaps she is too unorganized to do this chore, perhaps just to empty all the trash in the house on a daily basis for openers will get her into the mood.

My thought would be give her so much time to clean the room, a week or whatever. Remind her periodically but don't nag. If she doesn't clean it then go in clean it out..all of it. Everything but the bed. Let her earn back the things you took out, extra chores or whatever. Once she has some things back if she doesn't keep it clean take them back again. Hope that helps

I saw a Dr. Phil episode about little kids who wouldn't clean their room or do their chores. Anyway, Dr. Phil suggested that the parents strip their room bare... Like no amenities... They had to earn back their clothes, tv, stereo, internet, etc... So basically give her a blanket/pillow to sleep on and some clothes...but that's it... She has to earn her own stuff back! :)

Throw everything on the front lawn with a sign saying "So-And-So's Mess". Maybe public shame will shape her up. If that doesn't work, throw away her valuables that are out of place (that won't cost you money to replace). Sorry if that sounds militant, but desperate times call for desperate measures. Good luck!

tell her to do so or take her over your knee and spank her

I am sure that this conversation has been had in many households through the past decade. Before that time, the answer would have been something like this" This is my house and you will do as I say if you want to live here!" Well, that is how my folks would have reacted when I was a teen anyways. Nowadays, we are very lacksadasical as parents...or is it that we try not to sweat the small stuff? My daughter posted a reply to this question that you posed and I laughed at her answer. Yes I did used to have this same fight with her and with my son who is older. She did not leave any dirty dishes in her room...does even now at her computer desk (she is 21 now) and there were no bugs. My son on the other hand did leave dirty dishes in his room and I threatened to clean his room myself and get rid of everything that I thought was unnecessary. Eventually, I must admit, the fighting wore me out and I learned to close the door. I figured, they had to sleep in that room and have friends over in that room. Usually it got cleaned whenever they wanted to have company. However...one thing does come to mind in this battle...usually, it got so messy, that both kids would come and ask me for help organizing it as it was way too overwhelming for them to begin themselves!

Show her other friends room or house, sit with her and try to make her understand.

I'm not a mother but I am a daughter. My room is not a mess but my mum is complaining about the dust. Everytime she's here from work, she would complain about my comfort room, despite the fact that I cleaned it already and gave my best just to make her proud. But still, I wonder why she can't see it, all my efforts. I was thinking maybe all the blah blah coming from her mouth are just a script already. Now, in your case, your the mother and she's your daughter. Therefore, you knew if she's lazy or not. You need to reverse psychology her. If it didnt work, just stay sweet as you are. Nobody just couldnt resist a kind person. ^_^ Goodluck.

I would go in there and clean the room and take everything out except her bed mattress and her blanket. If she wants other things back in her room she would have to earn the back. I would make her work her butt off to receive anything abck.

i'l twll u wat my mom used to do wid me? i used to be messy too... mom got tored of advising and yellin at me in the end she stopped completely... told me tht i cud hav my way... make it dirty as much as i wanted... but i wont be able to change my room ever... so eventually my room got so damn disgusting that i really coudnt tolerate that i had to get up and clear it out of no choice.. mom wudnt lift a finger... aftr that i have been keeping my room neat

What my parents used to do when I was living in their house was this.. they would tell me I had a certain amount of time to have my room cleaned, say two days, and if in that time period I couldnt manage for this reason or that to get it cleaned up... they would go into my room while I was away and bag up everything that was on the floor or that seemed thrown into a random spot. They would then donate it to charity. This happened to me once, and never again. It made me realize that they werent just giving me empty threats.. they acted on it! It made me open my eyes.

Honestly i would start taking her stuff away from her and start taking and throwing her stuff out... i mean everything even the non dirty stuff until she decideds she wants to clean up

This problem is so simple to solve it.. Why not utilize your daughter's boyfriend.? Bring him to your house and reverse psychology will take action on that.

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Take the door off the hinge and have all of her friends see the mess. Tell her when the mess is cleaned up, then she can have her privacy back, but not until. Remember, this is your house and she is just temporarily living there until she moves out. It has to be a comfortable living enviroment for everyone and if you have mice raking up residency because of one room, its not allowable.

just go in and pick up everything and throw it into a big trash bag, even if it's not trash :) That was the only thing that worked with me lol My mum always said she was going to do it, but I never believed her. Then she went in one night with a big rubbish bag and just started picking up everything including all my books and clothes, so I finally decided it was time to clean my room :)

As she gets older she is going to learn to be alot cleaner .For now just tell it is unhealty to have trash overflowing etc and that you really need her to help you out with keeping the house tidy.

i would just sit down and talk to her.and explain to her that she needs to pick up her clothes because her room should not be that messy.explain to her that their are some things expected out of her to do and one of them is to keep her room clean.

I think shouting on her will not solve the problem at all..Told her to clean the room once a day and if she doesn't then clean it urself for her.... Made her feel that it is a bad habit and unhealthy environment...which she is creating ..

It's YOUR house. Take the door completely off of her bedroom and put a price tag on the door (make it the real price of a real door). Then, require your daughter to earn it back (this should take a few weeks) -- a clean bedroom/ bathroom equals a couple bucks each day, but a dirty room costs something. Don't clean her room. Don't do her laundry. Don't give in. When she has earned enough to get the door back, let her know you'll follow the same routine if the problem arises again. (I got this from one of Dr. John Rosemond's books.)