Should a Parent be contacted if their child gets a detention or referral in HS?

As ateacher, I feel there has become far too much communication with parents. I think that teachers can simply put in a detention slip, and then it is the parents responsibility to contact school if they perceive a problem.

Yes, I think a parent needs to be kept informed of what their son or daughter is doing wrong. Kids won't always tell their parents. If nothing else, send the parent a copy of the referral in the mail.

I think it really depends on what the referral is for. I don't really think I believe a teacher would write a referral for someone tossing a candy bar to someone else "before" class. Perhaps there is a misunderstanding here between the teacher and yourself, you have posted another topic on this so I know you are frustrated. If the referral isn't for something that the parent needs to take care of it seems like a waste of time to call the parent. It seems that the necessity to be called right away is naught as the student already has the referral. It's not like the parent can argue it for the student right then and there anyway. The parent needs to be notified, but not with a call, perhaps with a letter home from the headmaster. The student can bring the letter with them. If there are a lot of referrals in a short time, then the parent should speak with the student and the school and try to figure out a solution. This is also something the headmaster needs to work on and initiate a dialog with the parent about.

I think the parents should always be contacted. For one, kids don't aways tell you whats going on especially if they got into trouble. And I think it should be phone contact and not a letter. Kids are sneaky sometimes and get to the mail first. But also like you said,sometimes its for stupid reasons and a parent really should be aware if anything like that happens to their child.

yes parents need to be informed,i told my children that if they had detention,i need to know,i also informed the school that i wanted notification before any detentions were taken,we do not have this 3 referrals,but i would not agree with this because the teacher who spends most of his time with his back to the classroom cannot see all that is going on in it,just the bits that he sees when he turns around,for one child it could mean wrong time wrong place and a F thats not right

Normally, the teacher has the problem with the child and sets up the referral the principal is usually the last step. I don't think tossing a candy bar in school is a minor offense. What if he hit one of the other students? We live in a litigous society the other kid could probably bring a law suit. I am a substitute teacher and kids sometimes accidentally hit each other, and you will be amazed how much the little incident becomes a big deal. You probably need to have a conference with the teacher only by working together you can avoid escalation to the principal etc.

It should be the right of the parents to know what is happening with their kids in school. They should always be contacted and be informed about his kids.

It should be the right of the parents to know what is happeining with their kids in school. They should always be contacted and be informed about his kids.

Parents should be contacted first They don't always Know what is happening with their children at school. They usually find out later when the damage is done...

I think a parent should be informed on what their kids do in school.and not only the first time but everytime parents like keeping up with their children so they should be able to know if their kids are getting in trouble in school.

Absolutely parents should be informed... and parents should work with the teachers to try to stay informed. My children are not in school, but when they are I plan on letting the teachers know that they can contact me at anytime if and when they are having an issue with my child. I certainly do not want to have something happen where my child gets susppened and there may have been something I could have done to help prevent it.

a parent should be contacted about anything a child or young teen does in school if they would then there might be less problems they could try to help when it starts instead of when its to late. my stepson last year in (k) got in some BIG trouble he told some kids in his class some stuff about a movie that was not good for school not even good for him to be watching and then told some girls that he would put his wennie in there butt (he heard a friend say it) the teacher had to fill out a police reportcause of the other stuff what he said to the kids was that he would kill them cut up ther bodys and hide them the teacher knew it was a movie or something by the way he was tlking but they still filled it out youe see his mom at the time worked and his dad to as well as his stepdad but i was at home (stay at home mom)his mom was home this day as well but they never called ether of us they said we thought you were at work his mom said you should of called his stepmom she would of come up here. it took us two days to hget ahold of his teacher and talk about it all if they would of called it would of went better

Yes, I think the parents should DEFINITELY be notified.

Parents should always know what's going on with their kids. Schools don't bring them up although some parents think that way. But a true parent should know all.

Having worked as discipline secretary for our local high school we had quite a path beaten to the office of students who were sent there for disciplinary action. The teacher would write a discipline slip on the student and leave it on the counter for the administration to view. The administration would decide what action to take and write it on the discipline slip. It would then be turned over to me. I would enter the information into the system and a copy went in the student's file and a copy was mailed home to the parent. If the student was assigned detention, I would call the home and inform the parents of when and how long it would be. There were times when I would have to leave a message. I am sure that the student was often home before the parent and grabbed the letter and erased the answering machine. The student was allowed to make up missed work. The grade received was reflective of the work turned in.

yup, always

I am with you i got iss because i had a soda granet the AP told me at times i cant have it but somethings are so small and should not be bothered with. I do think they should call the parent everytime a disciplane action is taken that is what my school did. my school was stricked but right after i get out of there what happens they get ride of all the rules they got on to me about man go figer.

I think the parents should always be contacted ....the teachers should inform every act of their children to their parents becoz they sometimes lies in the home or ignore many things by just commenting on other things and try to ignore that... So it is the responsibilty of the teacher as well as the parents to be in contact with eachother regarding their child performances ,behavoiur etc...

Nope. Your child got himself/herself into this mess. Let him/her get himself/herself out of it. Require the child to do the contacting. Require the child to endure the blunt end of it. Obviously the questioner has not spent much time teaching several classes of 20+ youngsters a day. And YES, the candy bar toss generate quite a bit of disruption for such classes. Once again, I believe the parent, the teachers, the principals should agree to require the child to accept responsibility equal to the task of proper behavior in all classes at school without fail. To do anything less is to treat your child like an idiot.

Nope, kids should bring this issue to their parents attention. They need to learn to face up to their actions. Refferal's don't work either. Plain detentions and saturday schools do.