Going to counseling!!! Who would have thought?

I know this isn't an easy decision for you, but I'm happy to hear you've decided to go see a counsellor. No one should have to go through these difficult times alone! Talking to someone else about your problems can help you think of different ways to handle things and see your situation from different perspectives. You mentioned your husband is a soldier. Are there any support networks you can tap into, perhaps ones involving the spouses of other soldiers? Other mothers? Spending time and making friends who are going through the same sorts of experiences as you are can really help. Good luck you you! Please keep us posted on how you're doing. ((HUGS)) ~Wyrdsister

I know how you feel its a story similar to one I have.You also seem to be a soldier's wife.Be strong and take it all in your stride.Do not give up get busy in something else.I was reading an issue of reader's digest for december 2006 it has a really interesting article "How I Tamed My Husband" about how to train your husband.Jist of the article is reward good behavior and ignore rude behavior,And if its really getting unpleasent just go blank till all the ranting stops and the other person's anger disappears.Try it out and get hold of rd india's issue for november.Its worth reading.here's the link for the site http://www.rd-india.com/n...

Going and talking is the best thing. Most the time when talking to them you find out the real problem and work it out with yourself. One thing I do when things get stressed is make time for me and me only. Get out of the house do something you love to do or want to do and just dont find time. If be take a walk or visit a friend or go window shopping. I find when I do that things are not so stressed then. I find turning things in positive ways helps also. Contiue to support your husband that is very important and he will be ok and so you will you. It is a new thing in his life and so he needs that time. He will come back.

Why don't you start to do your own things also. Like going out with friends when he is scheduled to return home, or go shopping when he is coming home for dinner or rea a book untill late into the night when he is home. Give him a dose of his own medicine

There is no shame in seeing a councillor i have been seeing one for years and i really do look forward to talking to her she is my life line and she has helped me through some really tought times and yours will help you too .Just having someone to confide in and tell how you are feeling will definately make a difference in how you are feeling and how you can cope with things. I wish you well and hope you can find some peace

there is nothing wrong with you for going to a counselor which have the proffesional thought, in my live i have ever gone to one of two different and each time it was helped a great deal, just talking to an objective third party makes yourself will be feel better, and they are trained adviced to help you deal with the stresses of your life,i hope it will work out well for you and hang in there, it will be get better.

Get yourself engaged in work, may be, an outdoor job is a good option. You should consider opening a new home business of your own. I personally know instances where females struck back when they learnt to stand on their own feet. So, go ahead and take it as a lesson that will help you to mature and refine your feelings. Best of luck to you.

I think you need to do whatever is going to be best for your mental health and get you through your trying time. I think it is great that you are going to go to a counselor to talk out your problems. It is very hard having your spouse deployed at all much less during those special times, holidays, birthdays, your pregnancy, and the birth of your daughter. As for your mother-in-law, tell her as politely as you can to butt out. He is your husband, and being deployed is part of his job, whether she, you, he, whoever agrees with this mess or not, it is still his job, and he needs to know that he has your support when he can't be home. As for him not spending a lot of time at home, might I suggest that after you go to your first session, you may try to get him to go to at least one session with you, tell him how you are feeling, see what is going on. There may be an underlying reason for his actions. I wish you and your family all the best during this time.

There is nothing wrong with going to a couseler but your true help and counsling will come from God.Ask God to help you with this situation and see what a difference it makes with your husband.But you have to repent first.

It is good that you are going to see a counseler. She will be able to help you put certain things in the right perspective. Then when you are in a better frame of mind you can talk to your husband. Life has a funny way of dishing up everthing together. But these things do help to make you stronger. All the best.

There is nothing wrong with counceling anyone could use it really

Yes, don't feel bad about going for counselling. I think it will help and the counsellor will help you deal with your issues regarding him. Lord knows I need tonnes of it myself since I have lots of issues. Kudos to you.

there is nohting wrong with talking medicine. When your stomach aches you take medicine, don't you? Medicine helps you a great deal. It makes you relax and you can think clearly. Also you get excited about life and enjoy living. Everyday you want to do something good in yourlife. That's a great help. I think medicine that effect our psychology is always seen as "medicine for the sick mind" but that's very wrong and not true at all. If it gives you happines which you try to achieve in many ways, why not take medicine and just be happy? It is easy and very comfortable. Concelling is good too. But theere you will talk and talk and they will listen and they will give you some options or they will encourage you to find better ways to live. I think medicine does that too. I found medicine more helpfull. And i thank God for that. I think there is nothing wrong with what you are feeling. Your husband seems to not care about you so much. You seem to expect a lot from him and not get much at all. There are many men like that. It is the way they learn in every society. They don't know how to treat women. They don't know how to be with their wives or their daughters. They only know how to hang out with their male friends and be a part of a larger group rather than being with their wives alone. I think that's stupid part of being a man. I am a woman and I don't think you should depend on your husband so much. You have to stand up on your own feet and you have to be able to survive on your own. If worse comes to worse, you should leave him. There are many many men available. First you should learn how to stand up on your own feet and how to survive. That's why concelling and medicine might be a good help. If you are suffuring right now, there is no need for that. Go see a doctor immediately and start feeling better.

Going to a counselor is not bad. They will most likely help you with your situations if you tell them all the details. Giving them details is a must!

There is nothing at all wrong with going to a counselor. I have gone to one three different times in my life and each time it helped a great deal. Many times, just talking to an objective third party makes you feel better, and they are trained to help you deal with the stresses of your life. I hope it works out well for you - hang in there, it will get better!

Counseling can often help you to open doorways that might otherwise stay closed. Learning more about yourself is always helpful. Learning to adjust to stress and other life events can be done via counseling. Sometimes counseling just lets you think things through for yourself without everyone else interupting or adding their own thoughts and ideas.

Im sorry you are going throught this. I think you are doing the right thing by going and talking to someone. You need aproffesionals thoughts.It might be slow dont expect it to be alright right away. It took some time for it to get like this and will take some time to fix. All the best to you. Keep us informed.

I have been in therapy and it basically saved my life. There is nothing wrong with reaching out and asking for a helping hand! I am sure you ill feel better after a few sessions!