If your preteen daughter, young friend said she was gay what would you do, say?

Why do people always think being gay is related to a trauma? It's not. I knew I liked other women when I was in middle school. Other girls also knew they liked boys. But I didn't know that it was okay back then and I didn't want to get a negative image. So I was in hiding until college. I have never been raped. If someone has been raped, that is an entirely separate issue and they should be helped. If someone is gay, they don't need help, they need acceptance.

If my daughter said she was gay I would take her to a doctor and then to our minister. She might be confused or something terrible may have happened to her, like rape as you say. I would try to get her help immediately.

If my child said they would gay, I would sit down with them and make sure they understand what "gay" means. If they do and they still say they are gay, then I would support them. Being gay is not a choice so getting them "help" would not change who they are attracted to unless they were just telling you they are gay to get a rise out of you.

if my young preteen daughter came to me and she said she was gay and if she was really gay.I as a parent would be there for her i would not turn my back on her i would have to accept it i might not be happy but i would be there for her.i was raped as a child and i never said i was gay i think girls that say they are gay might be gay.their is nothing you can do about it but be there and support them.

If my preteen daughter came to me and said she was gay, I'd tell her to wait a few years and give herself time to figure things out for herself. Sometimes young people are confused by their budding feelings and don't understand how to process them. It leads to confusions. When hormones start popping, kids don't know what to think. Me? I knew I was gay from a very young age. I was never abused by anyone, it's just how I was. Most people who are 'turned gay' by abuse aren't actually gay. They're just hurt and desperate and not able to deal with their trauma. They need therapy to deal with the trauma, not with the feelings of gayness.

i went to an all girl school in college and had some lesbian classmates. we find them really weird and wanna help them in making them girls again. one gay friend of ours really wanted to change. so she started dressing up, putting make-up on her face, and even wearing heels. but after a while, when she started working. she became gay again... she came from a rich family and was the only daughter. but her parents doesn't have much time for her so they just allowed her what she wanted to be... there are a lot of factors why someone could be gay... you don't have to be beaten up or even raped to be one...

young children often say they are gay more now then before because they are exposed to it on almost a daily routine perhaps the child was foddled or something and she thought that it felt good,young children often like to try new things to decide what life is better for them they could be looking to find out why people say it is bad and curiousity will get the bestof them as for being raped or anything that is not always true so you really need to just role play with the children and see what brought it up.

well..First off no matter what im going to support her,,but i will remind her that if she wants to swing that way.i dont care..i hope not for only one selfish reason..id want grand babies!! lol but being that young..i think its whats called Bi curious..i went threw it..and i was on and off again soo many times..and being a young Teen.or preteen is just this weird as$ fad thats in now ..and i dont get it..most are too young..but there too young for anything they do and say anymore,but i think most lesbian experiences any girl experiences will end up just seeing if the grass is greener,or experimenting..but if she would end up being gay..I will support her an dlove her no matter what

well if my daughter told me she was gay, i would ask her to explain to me what gay means and see if she really knows what it is and i would explain that it's not something that you decide to be only because you have anger from something else. if she still felt that she was i wouldn't disown her, i would stil be there for her. i wouldn't be happy with it, but i wouldn't turn my back on her like some parents do.

I don't think there is anything wrong with them saying that. Although, it's too early for a little girl like her to know what she wants just yet.

I don't understand much. Gay can be describe for men who's interest is men(men to men relationship). If women to women relationship then it's lesbian. Which one do you mean in your story?

it has been suggested that no one can be gay before puberty because sexuality is not fixed but a choice, if we accept this for a moment then clearly there is no problem with pre teen children saying thinggs like this, often they do it to gage reaction and to shock

First I would tell her that I was happy she felt comfortable enough to talk to me. Being a pre-teen I'd perhaps wonder if she really understood and was sure of her feelings, then I'd just support her in any way I could.

I'd say, "Whatever you are you are. Be what you want to be, but you don't have to be."

Well, at least I know that you will never be getting pregnant. Just be safe and well, get tested every now and then. These things do happen.

that would be her choice and i would support her. Sometimes we dont really know how we feel when we are young as our bodies are changing so rapidly. It might be experimental or it might be for real and i would hope that she would be happy either waY

I would be shocked and it wuld not be easy for me to accept the fact.

i cannot say anything to her. i will just try to make sure that she should make some distance with that kinda guys. but it is really hard to make her understand at this small age.

children don't know their feelings from a young age, they have not experienced anything yet.