why did it happen

Please aceept my condolences for your recent loss. I can not imagine what you must be feeling. Anyone that has ever been blessed with children would agree that this must be one of the hardest things to face. Clare is a beautiful name and i am glad that you had a memorial service for her. I am sure she smiles down upon you each and every day. Think of all the other babies she is playing with. Learning and laughing and having a great time. I recently had a baby boy and was offered tests that I declined. No doctor ever told me there was one that could detect the risk of stillbirth. I was very interested and concerned with stillbirth and miscarriage while I was pregnant. I am glad that your son has given you so peace and I am sure he has helped you grieve the loss. Blessings to you and your family-may all your wishes come true.

I am sorry to hear that. but Tanya ,just take it easy. every bad things won't only happen on you. You may just face yourlife with calm. The bad things will gone oneday,you can believe it. Begin your new life.Tomorrow is another day.

I am so sorry for your loss. Have you had a memorial service for your little girl? What did you name her? Ive just done some research and there is a test that can determine whether a woman runs an increased risk of stillbirth, that is done during early pregnancy. I suppose they only really offer it to older mothers, or women with medical problems, which is ridiculous. The test detects a protein that in low levels is believed to signal that the placenta, which supplies nourishment to the fetus, is not functioning properly, and if correctly diagnosed doctors can induce labour to try and save the baby. You had the RIGHT to be informed of this, and if I were you I'd be making a formal complaint against the hospital. It won't bring your child back, but the satisfaction of having someone to blame may help you to heal and aid the grieving process. Take care.

what do you mean by still born??

Oh no, im so very sorry that this happened to you.. sometimes doctors do not know this is coming, it just happens...all I know is your child was a blessing when she was inside, and she's now an angel watching over you...

First off, I am so sorry about your loss!!! I have never heard of a test being able to determine if you will have a stillborn. I lost a daughter 3 1/2 yrs ago when she was 2 months old, I was told she would never make it to birth though. In my situation, there are test to see if you are at risk of having a baby with this syndrome (Trisomy 18), which I am sure you were offered......AFP test or the Quad Screen. I declined them as they are usually not very accurate, but we had an amnio to confirm it at my 19 week U/S due to her having so many "marker" for this. I wouldn't wish the pain of loosing your child on my worst enemy!! I did have another daughter 10 1/2 months later and chose not to have any tests done except the U/S. If the U/S showed somthing may be wrong then I would want more tests, but since she looked fine we didn't have anything else done.

i could understood ur feeling and i feel sorry for what happened to u

(I am Not Luke I am his Wife) When i was pregnant they told me that there were a lot of test that i could have but they did not recommend them because there was just that question of why would you want to know if something was wrong! i think i would want to know if something was wrong but i dont know what i would do !! i am very sorry for your loss just remember that everything happens for a reason even though we dont know why. Just like all of those stupid people that go have abortions when so many women are trying so hard just to have one baby!! I will never understand

it's really sad, am so sorry about your loss.

I feel sorry for you. When I was pregnant I underwent a lot of tests and some of them determines the protein level, I didn't know that it can be a factor of still birth. Maybe Clare will be the reason why every pregnant women will be offered a chance to undergo a test to know that their unborn child is safe. take care!

I am so sorry to read about your experience, my thoughts are with you, take care.

I'm sorry to hear that. Just as all these people said, I think u r a courage mother who can face all this positively. Best wishes for u and ur family.

i think women will agree on this.

First, I want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss... That is one of the hardest things for a parent to ever have to go through. I also lost a beautiful daughter to stillbirth, May 20, 2005. Her name is Bree and I was 28 weeks along. I have never heard of this test but if I ever was to get pg again I would definitely be interested in having it performed, just to know if there was a chance. I don't think I could live through that again, I miss her everyday.

I am so sorry for your loss, I know that when birthing both my girls, I was so scared for that same thing. I was nervous because I have heard that sometimes going past 40 weeks is not good for the baby, so once I made it to 40 weeks with my first daughter I was scared that she would die, luckily 4 days later I went into labor and she came out screaming so all was fine. My second child came early so basically all was fine. She came out pretty quiet and very fast, but she was fine and she is very healthy!!

im so sorry to hear about your losses and i agree with you, that given a chance, i will want to know whether my unborn child is safe or not...it pains me more if i have to go through what you've been through...i hope you are recovering well. Take Care of yourself!

I feel so sorry about what happened to your little girl. Yes the woman will worry about the condition of their child but is there any way to prevent it if theres a test to determined it??

I cannot say I have heard of this test but I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear this. I cannot even imagine what you are going through. Message me anytime if you need to talk. Having those around you that care can help.

I think that a mother deserves to know whether her child is safe or not even if the child is not born yet. However, I believe the doctor have their own reasons why they do not advice mothers to carry this examination. Maybe it is best for the mother not to worry too much. Maybe if mothers worry a lot it will affect the health of the babies. Hope this will help you calm down and reduce your worries.

im so sorry for what happened.I know that its really painful.It happened to my aunt.But the doctors didnt explain to them what was the cause.i know its really painful.Carrying her in your womb in 9 months then suddenly someonetakes it away from you.i know you're a strong person and you can move on.God Bless!!