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His health is ultimately up to h im, if he refuses to deal with it how can you be expected to. sounds like he is playing the victim quite nicely, I would schedule an appointment with the doc and confront the issues you set forth here and quit enabling him until he helps himself

I have been with a diabetic for almost 8 years & married for 4 years now. He has been a diabetic since he was a boy. You would think he would know that he has to take care of himself, but he never does. I know he regrets that he can't do a lot of things without the worry of how it will affect his blood sugar. I have had times where the EMTs were at a place quite often, fortunatly that has changed. He does have a specialist but the dr. is a moron. His regular dr. is not much better.

Wow!! I think I can relate, as my FIL was in the Hospital all of the month of November, and is now in a Nursing Home Facility and still suffering from a Severe infection they cannot completely cure, and he is Diabetic. Before this incident he said his Doctor told him he was OK if he was under 200, and only test his Blood Sugar once a day at most. Now they have him on Insulin, and he says when he gets home, he will go back to pills, and never care about if High Blood Sugars could be causing him problems. I am now Insulin Diabetic, and Health is a Big concern for me. It makes me Mad when I see people who do not care. But then maybe it is the Doctors not caring that sometimes adds to the problem. I sympathize with you, and wish you Luck. I know it is not easy.

Your husband will not help himself because he has you doing it for him. You need to make him be more responsible for his own health and well-being. First, you don't say in what ways he is not taking care of himself properly, but if it is sugar, you need to not have it in the house. If he buys it, throw it away. Don't put yourself in the position where he is depending on you to do everything for him. Set an alarm clock for him and tell him when it rings, it is time to check his blood sugar. Prepare healthy meals and snacks, but it is primarily his responsibility and you will drive yourself nutty assuming responsibility for stuff you really have no control over. Keep a notebook of things you observe that you think the doctor needs to know and next time he has an appointment, discuss those things with his doctor. You can only do so much, don't make yourself sick or crazy trying to be all things to all people. I do know of a product that might help a great deal. Contact JaniceCaswell here at mylot. She doesn't get on much, but she does have a wonderful product, if it is affordable to you. Also, tell your husband if he keeps it up he is gonna have to have his feet amputated like my uncle did. Tell him to straighten up and take care of himself before it is too late. Good Luck.

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After you do all you can do ..leave the rest to God..your husband is a mature adult. I have found that when we are told to avoid things we tend to not avoid them. Do not leave you husband. you promised to remain with him by vow in sickness and in health. It is a trial you are going through ..talk to you husband; everything will work out right:)+

I know en can be tough when it comes to health care. My huibby is also like that he has a bck problem and is not supposed to lift weights but he never listens and will keep doing that and when stopped will say I worry unnecessarily. Diabetes needs a lotr of diet care do tthat for your hubby I also come from a family of diabetics and it is like a termite eating away insides of your body. I think seek help from his doctor may be a doctor strwessing on the need to take more careful care will make him pay attention. You have noit written how bad is his daibetes if he is on insulin or something, you should ask health counsellors to speak to him. May be he is too tired of fighting this disease as its a lofe long disease. keep checking his glucose level at home andf must get him to a counsellor I repeat. goodluck to you.

try to speak with him or take him at a specialist, a psyholog. the problem should be solved by talking it out. maybe he will realize by then that he is a sick person and needs help

I wonder how old your husband is. I am diabetic too, but it is under control because I take my medicine and go to my doctor regularly, plus I eat the right foods. Does your husband read magazines and periodicals about diabetes? You both should have sufficient knowledge of the disease, how to take care and recognize hypo and hyper glycemia so that you know what to give him when it happens, lessening your call to 911. Make him more aware of his disease by having him correspond with diabetics. From your story I think his diabetes is a serious case and will lead to many complications if he does not take care. Get him to a good doctor. And let him know how much you care and if he cares for you too, he should lessen the burden on you by cooperating and taking care of himself.

well motivate him... wtelse u can...

I do have same problem as you. My husband is also diabetic and dosen't takes medicine and not taking care of his health. Don't want to go to doctor not want to take medicine. I do love my husband and i have come to the edge of leaving him but i don't want to leave him and i don't understand what to do?

I have MS it is a diablity illness that requires a lot of time and energy from my caregiver and honestly, I don't take the meds the way I am suppose to, they make me feel worse than the MS itself. I understand how hard it is, to see someone deteriate right in front of your eyes because I see the pain in my better halfs eyes daily and it is usually followed with, well if you took your shot, you would feel better. Have you tried explaining to him how it feels to see him not being himself, don't say he is sick, just not himself. Ask if the injections make him feel worse. My grandmother was diabetic and I took care of her for 6 years and she always told me that the shots hurt and made her feel bad. When I would discuss this with her doctor he would tell me that it doesn't and just keep giving them to her. Well now I know that if her injections were anything like mine, they did hurt and I feel bad for not being more sypathic to her while she was alive. You love him, if you didn't he would not be able to drive you crazy. I think you guys should just sit down and talk and try and get your feelings out.

If he is Diabetic, and not taking care of himself, there isn't going to be much you can do for him. Nagging or pushing him to take medicines, watch his diet, get exercise, etc might help some, but if he doesn't do it for himself, no one else can. As for the EMS coming to your house so much, it's hard to believe they haven't started charging you an excessive use fee. Where we live, if you continually call for the same reasons (more than 10x a year) you are charged a $150 fee each time, that insurance doesn't pay. Maybe hitting him in the wallet would help. I don't know. I feel for you and wish you well, as I do him too.

I am so sorry to hear that Marcie, My mom is a diabetic but she has hers under control. I will keep you and your hubby in my prayers. I hope things get better for both of you.

Hi. I really feel for your situation. Firstly I think that you need some help with him. Have somebody look after him for a while and go and do something for yourselve. Also if he's taking out his fustrations on you; I would get him to see a counsellor. They would probably help you both deal with the situation better.

At some point you are going to have to just let him handle his health on his own. You can't make him take bettter care of himself. It is HIS condition and he has to manage it. I know it is difficult but since you don't want to leave you are going to have to stop fretting over him. If he needs help, call 911, but don't talk to him about his health anymore. It is wasting time and he might actually start taking care fo himself BETTER if he realized that you are not going to play nurse maid or mommy.

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i hope your husband gets well soon.. but i guess that just comes with age.. sickness and diseases.. just stay strong and do not abandon your husband.. in sickness and health remember?

I feel so sorry for you.I really dont know what to tell you, besides what everyone else allready did. My husband is a Diabetic also. but he takes care of himself. So he is not on any medicine or shots. sounds like your husband dont care about himself.Did you try talking to his doctor.