When skinny people tell you to lose weight., remember they don't have a clue.

There are so many reasons why some peopole are heavier than others. Heavy people don't necessarily eat more than skinny people either! Skinny people just don't get this, in my opinion! You have to do what is healthy for your body and not worry about what other people say or expect you to do.

I totally agree with you on this one. My husband is a little on the thin side..he is correct for his age though..but no matter what he eats he stays that way...i'm not like that..I think if I just look at food I put on weight..hehe..let alone eat it!:) When we first got married he kept telling me that I need to get rid of the flab on my tummy (that's the only fat I have) I'm overweight by a couple of pounds and I did find it very offending when he kept telling me to lose weight. It in fact almost drove me to depression. I finally told him to shut up..ya I had to..then suddenly he snapped out of it and accepted me the way I was. I want to lose the flab too but not when somebody is constantly prodding me. We both go to the gym together, and I'm well on my way shaping up.:)

not all of them are doing it to be mean or cruel, I am in the same situation dropped from 235 to 172, and now back to 220 because I can't be as physically active as I was when I lost the weight. But I'm going back on a similar plan that helped me lose before starting Tuesday and will see how it works.

The same can be said for quitting smoking. The ones that tell you to quit don't have a clue. I know it is a horrible habit and I wish I could find a way to quit that would not lead me to commit homicide! But being overweight is also a burden. It is not easy to lose weight and keep it off. We are creatures of habit and we always go back to our old ways. Hopefully 2007 will be a better year for you. Take it one day at a time and enjoy each day you have. We can all look around and find somebody who is worse off than we are.

Yeah I agree, seriously, if they were overweight, chances are they wouldn't lose any weight either. Keep in mind, overweight people can beat up skinny people, so if anyone messes with them..

I do beleive the same.It is very fruststrating to hear about overwieght aspect from others.By the by it is very difficult to lose couple of pounds.

You know, it's sad. I don't even offer suggestions unless someone asks anymore. People think that I'm "so skinny" just because I'm small (a whopping 4ft-almost 11in) and I have a waist. Hello?!?! I'm the one that looks at me naked every day. I've got fat. When I was in my 30's, I went from a size 12 to a size 16. On my body frame, that is alot. 10 lbs shows on me ALOT more than it does on a 5ft 5in body. Who knows what size I would be by now if I had not realized that. Not that I think that I'm terribly overweight, but put simply, I've got fat that I don't need. And it IS an effort for me because I DO love to eat and I can't handle the discipline of a good diet. Also, I've taken college courses in fitness and nutrition, so I do understand how the body works and how different foods/exercise/meds/etc affect the body. If I don't mind my food intake, I gain weight. If I moderate, my body stays naturally at a pretty even weight. Now that I'm getting older, the exercise is more of an issue for me. So sometimes, you need to consider the sources of information a little further than just judging by the weight of the person offering information. Just because you think I'm skinny doesn't mean that it's not an effort for me. After all, I am what you see BECAUSE of my knowledge and effort. Aloha!

I totally agree with you. I have a few friends who are skinny as well, this one in particular, used to tell me that "at least, you're proportionated" !! Can you believe that? And she used to say that she was fat and that she had a big butt. The girl weights 120lbs... i weight more than twice her weight...but i'm proportionate, so it's ok...

You can smile and say, "Thanks, I will consider that" as you let it go out the other ear. Weight loss is a very touchy subject. At least your doctor is telling you the real truth.

If someone who has had a weight problem and was able to lose the weight in a constructive way tells you that you need to lose weight... yeah it still hurts but it doesn't seem so hypocritical. But yeah, I totally agree, a skinny person who tells you to lose weight, someone skinny all of their lives tells you that, they are so wrong! They have no idea what it's like to have those unwanted extra pounds and they need to shut up! It reminds me of those who are judgemental towards me of things that I suffer from that they have no clue about! Jerks!

I'm a "skinny never been fat" person, I don't go around aggravating over weight people telling them how important to lose weight but often they start saying how I'm lucky to be thin and how they wish to be like me, etc so I talk about it.. I know that many over weight people will not say these remarks but some do.. Not knowing anything about losing weight is not always true but not knowing how it's to be fat you are right.. over all if your doctor tells you it's hard for you to lose weight then he knows best but without any certain medical conditions any one over weight can lose the extra weight and become slim using the right combination of dieting and exercising, it's what you put in and what you burn, if there's no medical condition that miss up this system then anyone can become slim with some effort.

i'm verry agree with you and i'm a thiny girl.I'm 45 and height 1.56.So i am totally agree with you.It's verry hard i imagine and every organism react different at every people in part.As long as you are healthy that is what is important.i have a friend which is a little fatty but i adore her becouse he is not intricated.She lives her life and she is a verry gladly person.I licke her and appriciate her verry much.She is verry beautifull and i love her prezence.

yea... u r true... but i think it applies for the reverse too... "When fatty people tell you to gain weight., remember they don't have a clue."

I think I know what you mean, it applies to other situations as well. For example when you are pregnant or you just had a baby, people feel like they know it all and have to give you their advice. Even the ones who have never been had children or have never ever been pregnant at all. Then I think to myself, please mind your own business and leave me alone. If I need advise I will ask for it. And I will probably find someone who really knows what they are talking about. Like a doctor or something.

I partly agree with you, but I party disagree with you also. I have a really hard time losing weight myself and no, I'm stick thin, but I have lost weight. Because I have been successful, I love to share my weightloss secrets with others. I do this, not to make them feel bad, but because I want them to be able to feel better like I do. Personally I don't believe it's totally impossible for anyone to lose weight! It may be really difficult, but it's not impossible. When, we as overweight people, convince ourselves that it's ok to stay overweight, we are really hurting ourselves and dooming ouselves to a life of misery, not to mention, most likely shortening our lives due to health issues that will be associated with it.

I can really relate to that, thanks for posting. I am overweight as well, I am taller so I can pull it off well but I know that I need to lose it. My mom is really skinny because she has a thyroid condition so while I'm gaining weight, she's always losing. It's hard because we used to be the same size in clothes and then I just started gaining weight about three years ago. She doesn't understand what a struggle it can be, especially when she tries to make me feel better by saying "ooh you've lost weight haven't you!" when I really haven't.

I am a 43 years old man and I am currently at my all time highest weight, 280 lbs. I hate it. I am constantly out of breath and feel miserable. When I was younger I could eat anything and not gain weight but once I hit age 30 that changed. I was up to 275 pounds 5 years ago, went on a low fat diet and I got down to 225 pounds. Losing the weight was easy, keeping it off was the problem. Once I reached my goal I started to slip into my old bad habits. I love to cook and eat. Well I am going back on my diet and this time I will have to learn to stay on it forever. What is worst than thin people telling you to lose weight is thin people trying to force you to eat or go off your diet once you lose weight. Or the constant "how did you do it" questions.

I don't think that's true. I'm somewhat thin (okay, closer to average). I've been to chubby and I've been to anorexic. I've read a considerable amount on nutrition (far more than most doctors I'm sure), and a lot on health. I may not know what it's like to lose 100 pounds, but I do know that if you need to lose it, you should for your health. And I know a lot of tips about losing weight (but I'll only share the healthy ones!). I know it is hard, I have lost 40 pounds before, it was hard. But it can be necessary for health reasons. Now, never being skinny and being morbidly obese would be two very different things. I don't like the whole "skinny" ideal. I think that's a messed up view. What I think is good, is "healthy". A lot of people just eat junk food and then complain they are obese and they can't do anything about it. While some people genuinely have problems, a lot just lack motivation. If someone was my friend and WANTED to lose weight, I would help them. And they shouldn't think I couldn't help them just because I'm not overweight.

I agree indeed

hey its not like that in all cases (: not all thin people mean bad when they tell fat ppl to get slim or pass some likewise comment, mayb some do have rude intentions but like good and bad is everywhere so its not that when ever a thin person tells a fat person to loose weight, the fat person should take it as 'barking dogs neva bite' sorta thing, i mean cmon.. mayb the thin person does really care and want the best for you. Sure its true that a thin person doesnt know how a fat person feels but then do you have any idea wht a thin person feels, sure it does look good on the outer side .. thin waist and all but who knows what the thin person is suffering from inside. So try to be as positive as you can towards everybody and remember its the heart that counts, looks & all r secondary (: