relationship problems..any insight?

Go out and meet new people. Do not tie yourself down this way. You are young and deserve to sample life before you make your final choice. He is just comfortable with the way things are. You need to take a step back and be the one to break things off. Get out there and live your life. Don't be beholden to him. Besides I was always told if you love something let it go. If it comes back to you it was yours.

What is long distance? If after 2 years neither of you has made a serious commitment, then you should go out and meet others. I would think that after 2 years, one or the other would have moved to be with one another. Exactly when do you think things will change? How long do you want to wait before he makes a solid commitment? I think for your own best interests, you might decide whether or not you want to hang on to this dwindling relationship or move on. I don't think that being lonely is the best reason to have a relationship. You need far more substance than that. Just my opinion.

I have been in the Navy and am now a truck driver. Both of these jobs keep me away from home. I am also a distant person because I am old fashioned and steadily worry and make sure that the family will survive as a unit. If your man fits into this category then u may have a good man. The thing u must do is sit down in your peaceful place and think and wonder if u can handle this. Also being faithful. Because in both instances above(jobs). I was faithful, and when I wasn't working I came home. No running around with the boys. This is because I knew I was away from home and the family needed time with me. Also don't forget that u guys got into a long dist. relationship together! And if your no cheating and really want this man, STOP asking him if he wants out because he will start to think u r cheating but instead of telling him you are trying to get him to leave the relationship.

Well, with knowing just the info you gave here, you've spent basically a total of 6 weeks with this guy. Not trying to sound like a jerk here, but my opinion, sounds like this is a "comfort" relationship for him. All he has to do is pick up the phone a few times a week. Do you guys talk? Have good decent conversations? He may also be having an intellectual affair with you. Maybe he has another girlfriend where he's at, but she may not be as smart, or have the capacity to communicate very well with him. Hard to tell though. I think you should keep talking with him when you do, but definitely go out and have fun. See what else is out there, and don't tie yourself down to this relationship only, otherwise you don't know what you may miss!!

What has kept it long distance for so long? It sounds to me like it is really time to make a move. Either together or apart. Seeing someone only 2 weeks at a time basically IS a honeymoon. It is usually after that that things begin to "get comfortable". I often refer to the person you first meet as the true person's "representative". You see this person for a few weeks then surely the "real person" begins to show themselves. If the two of you have only been seeing each other 2 weeks at a time and only 3 time in 2 years at that...you may not really even know each other at all. You are probably feeling lonely because you may want more than what you have and truthfully, you SHOULD have more if even thinking of marriage or moving in together. Good luck with whatever you decide, but my advise is like I said...make your move, either togther or apart for a little bit at least and maybe see other people to make sure he is really who you want and need.

It's time to let him go. There are plenty of opportunities out for you to focus on someone who don't love you back. Move on.

best is you go out and meet other people don't bind you with this relationship..you are young and can take the decision about your future.. i think you are serious about martial life..but if partner refuse your demand..that means thinking of future life is differnt according to you and your partner..and this martial life may create problem between you!! so think it.. best of luck and happy new year!!

i wish u get a solution very soon.. all the best my frn.. happy new year

okay,just take it easy! This is the necessary process for the coming of true love between both of you. I wanna tell you you should cherish this relationship. I always regret that I gave up in my last relationship when it came to the difficult period after honeymoon stage. I think almost everyone has the same shortcoming that we often don't cherish what we have owned. I think it is not a easy issue to keep two years relationship,and you must love each other. Just because of lack of fresh feeling,both of you come into the watery peoriod. Try to remind yourself the good memories before,and try to have a deep conversation with him. Don't gave up easily. Remember it is not easy to find another person to fall in love. It needs much care to keep love fresh, nore difficult than raising the pets. Both of you need sometime to think about your love,but don't make a decision easily! Maybe after several months consideration, both of you would find the true love is just besdes yourslves. Good luck to you!!

to be frank and true with u , in love the beginning is very jolly just like honeymoon , just like time passes by one looses interest in eachother coz they find themselves common in everyday life ! Let him go , if he comes back then he seriously loves u and no one can seperate him from u !

you know what's the problem? you are inlove with the guy. and even though for the shortest time he showed you the best and was like missing in action after a while... you still hope that things will be the same as before. i can never blame you if you feel like not going out on dates with other guys because yes you are in a relationship but come to think of it... until when are you planning to suffer and be lonely? you have the right to be happy. follow your heart.

i think you should get out and meet new people you know... I f you are confused its tehe best way for you to release it.. :0)

sweeter as the years go by doesn't always mean going out more often, spend time on the phone more and seeing each other more. I don't know the particulars but just basing on the details you posted, I don't see any relationship problem. As long as you are assured of his love and faithfulness, the relationship is in the right track. Time will come my friend when you may even have to be alone to yourself in order to be close to each other. That's the classical dilemna bet the head and heart. You are obviously in love and value relationship so much. There are more to life than just having to see each other all the time, that I can assure you.

its not an uncommon event i feel,he is not allowing you make a decision because he himself has not made any also, he may be confusd about telling u his decision thinking that it may make sad, thts what i feel. well distant relations do have their disadvantage that the love is not something which could be hushed up for a long period, Only when we are able to love daily, at least respond to the partner, we feel its continuing. the phone talks may seem effective in the beginning , but since its a monotous affair, the interst may wane. coming back to the first point he may also have different kind of view about you after this gap, such things are never sorted out unless and until there is an open talk.so sit with him talk earnestly, revaeling ur feelings and also making him reveeal himself.still if he is unrelenting, then provoke him for making a quick decision, by stating ur decision. hope it suggests a solution.

It sounds like he has become far too comfortable with the long distance relationship and that he truely has no fear that you could walk away from it. He simply isn't making an effort anymore. I would not break it off with him but rather make him a little jealous and see what happens. Start being unavailable when he calls. When you do speak to him have lots to tell him that you are going out and doing this and that and meeting new people. Not like your dating or anything, but just making new friends. Act like you don't need him but want him, I don't believe in that whole if you love someone let them go and see if they come back. If all woman did that no one would be married. Men are scared of relationships, but a little jealousy goes a long way. Keep the relationship alive but make a point that the realationship is not going to hold you back from being young and having a good time. If he walks away then he isn't worth it, and doesn't desearve you. He needs to see you are alive and have needs that he ought to be fullfilling. If he truely loves you he'll start calling more again and putting more of an effort into the relationship.

im so sorry to hear that..it seems as if the sparks are slowly gone from the relationship...if i'm you, i will 1) tell him about my feeling and the changes i noticed and see what he have to say AND then 2) go out to party and meet more people. going out and meeting people does not mean that you are being unfaithful and not committed...as long as you dont go over the line...all the best!

From reading the other posts, I'd break it off with this guy. Why be with someone who isn't making you happy if you can't even have decent conversations with them. No need to waste your time on someone when you could be with someone else who lives near you and could not just hang you up like a door mat.

I would say move on. You are young and if he is not making any plans for a future and to move to the same city as you are in, that you are just wasting your time. Get out and meet some new people! And if it is meant to be, he will wake up! Good luck and happy new year!

It is only you who can control him coming in and out of your life...and letting this guy be pathetic and use all the excuses under the sun not to commit to you....they are all excuses and problem lies with him to sort out..not you.. ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE THE SITUATION....be strong and tell him to eff off and leave you alone and that you don't want him to contact you ever again. Let him feel that it is He that needs YOU.... and you least care about him....GOOD LUCK ! Life Stinks at times, but hey sit and think about good things that happen each day.

Isn't there a possibility of making this relationship not long distance? Either of you willing to move? It sounds like you both care alot about eachother, but it does seem to be fizzling, into more of a friendship. I hated being apart from my now husband, I do not reccomend it at all. Good luck!