would you get rid of your partner if he abused your child?

i find it really bothering. Get rid of your partner, that's for sure. Given the fact, that she's only a child and should have the right to live in a safe environment, nonetheless to tell inside the house with her own mother. it's really sick, the mother shouldn't forgive her partner, instantly dumped him, coz he is a beast. to all mothers, protect your child from your partners. God forbids, we, parents shouldn't let ourselves get pregnant in the first place if we can't protect our child.

The abuser would be so far out of my life. There is no way I would want to keep some one like that around my child. I can learn to live alone or find a better man for me and my child. Shame on your partners mother for picking that nasty man over her own child. I don't think I could forgive my mother either.

Probably wind up in jail for killing him. Why would you stay with someone that was abusing your child? Why would you want to lay in the same bed with a person that was hurting your child? No. I would not stay with that person

If my partner abused my child then yes, I would get rid of him. I would not tolerate anyone mistreating my child. If he mistreats his own child, then I would try talking to him about his ways and hopefully trying to get him some help. There is no excuse for abuse.

i would leave him! he is not owrth it..

I would never tolerate this behavior. He would leave one way or the other, makes no difference as long as he goes. It does not excuse his act because he was abused. He should be confined. This really makes me so sick to the point of being dangerous. I could not stay with anyone that hurt my child. The person expecting me to protect her from these type of people. Put the child first.

Hell yes I would. My mom's boyfriend did the same to me from age 8 to 13 and my mom turned a blind eye and to this day pretends that she didn't know. I even told my father who was on the other side of the country he called her and confronted her and I got a good beating for telling such "viscious lies" I can truly feel for your partner. That abuse reverbrates through your life for ever. And if she hasn't let it break her yet then she is a strong person and there is hope for her future.

I know from personal experience how it feels to be the kid whos parent sides up with their signifigant other and when it comes down to the final decision either lose the child or the spouse they choose the spouse. I will never let a man come between me and my daughters they are my life and my one duty in life is to protect them and love them. I would have to say buh bye to the man if that ever happened in my life. KIDS COME FIRST in my book.

Damn right I would!!! Anyone who would abuse another is not worth my time!!

Denial. It isn't a river, it is a rather nice little town where no one has to look at anything or ever accept facts or blame. Denial allows one to live in the 'style' they have become accustomed to, or to continue to live with a lack of knowledge. None of us can say what we would do if confronted with such a situation unless we have previously experienced it. The variables of why one enters and remains in denial are huge, they also reflect self esteem issues the one in denial may have. Abusers usually were once the abused. They are perpetuating an act, it is an illness and a cry for help. Saddest of all, often those once abused as children seek out abusers as adults, and those who do find denial much easier than those who were not abused. I can only hope your partner's mother will one day move out of denial and enter the world of responsibility, realizing the only blame she had to accept is the one of denial, which is her own.

This sort of thing should nevor happen i know one person who i used to call a friend but about a year ago we found out he had abused his partners little girl.He is now in prison and i never wish to see him again

If this happens to me (i pray it doesn't), I will never forgive my partner. he shall go to hell! He shall be executed using the most painful torture in the world! I have heard stories like what you shared, and i really do not understand why there are mothers who act like that. They are so blinded by their dependency to their partners that they just turn the blame to the innocent daughter. well, i just pray for their enlightenment...

If that were my spouse, he would have less than 30 seconds to get out of my life forever. There is no forgiveness. It's just plain sick. I can't understand people who would choose an abuser over the child that grew under your heart.

I have two little girls of my own so that makes this hit home for me. I could never be with anyone who abused children period. If they were their own children or mine, it is just not acceptable and I could never be with anyone like that. I would definatley have to leave my partner and report it as well.

If I learned that my child was being abused by my partner, I'd leave him in a heartbeat. To my mind, the child comes first.

I would get rid of my partner in a heartbeat.It's not the childs fault that they are here for one thing and it's just sick to know that someone would do that to their own child.I would personnally make sure that they suffer just like they made the child suffer.

My partner would be gone so fast his head would be spinning and if possible into a jail cell but either way he'd out the door. As for your partner and what she went through I do feel for her. I know how it goes. The problem is so many of that generation and older were given the "You don't divorce no matter what" message. My own mother turned a blind eye to it. She would never have left my father because it went against what she was taught and it went against her religion. However there is a big difference between turning a blind eye and blaming the child. The mother was very wrong in that situation. She should never have blamed her but the step-father. He was at fault.

It is a horrible thing but it happens all the time. I have heard of many cases where the father has abused the daughter and when the child speaks up the mother refuses to believe that he would do such a thing and looks down on the girl for making up things. It is a hard thing that people just don't want to believe. I know that if anyone hurt of touched my child in a negative way I would probably kill them, and I definitely wouldn't stay in a relationship with that person.

Discipline is one thing, but abuse is another. Homeboy will be out the door in a heartbeat!

your partner belongs in jail...