I bothers me how blunt people can be...

i could sure teach you some snappy come backs to those remarks but of course you would get looks of shock and amazement aswell as dirty looks. I know it's not the same but I used to get annoyed when people would ask me if my child was a boy or a girl when she was so blateltly dressed in pink and had a pink blanket. I would tell them she was a drag queen when I had enough. If someone were ever rude like people are to you, I would politely tell them he has a medical condition that you do not care to discuss but thank them for their prayers and thoughts and quickly walk away. I'm not one who likes to discuss things with strangers (except on mylot of course) so i think if someone were to tell me this, i wouldn't be offended but maybe re evaluate the way i approached that person to begin with. if you want some zingers though, let me know, i'll be happy to help you out. next time you bring him out you should wear rubber gloves and a paper mask and when someone askes you "what's wrong" tell them he has a highly contageous disease. that should be funny to watch their reaction. Please don't be offended, I'm only meaning this for amusement and am well aware of the fact that it may be offensive, though it is not meant to be. Sorry if you or anyone else is offended by this. Take care and good luck you are in my thoughts and prayers.

I would suggest having a supply of little cards with the word "hydracephalus" printed on them. When someone persists in wanting to know more, hand them a card and tell them they can look it up on the internet. And always remember that only ignorant people would act this way. Ignore them.

My daughter is in the NICU she had developed NEC while I was pregnant with her & had 70% of her small intestine removed when she was 12 hours old. I do not mind sharing her story. It shows how she has overcome a lot. She is going to be 5 months old on January 7th. She is still in the NICU, has had 3 surgeries & has a large abdominal scar. Family has come to see her & most, if not all, cry once they are out of her room. Most of the people who have asked me about her are other NICU parents & we discuss our child(ren). Treatments, surgeries, how long until they come home, so it never seems rude to me. But if it were in a situation like your talking about I would most likely be rude in return. Give respect to get respect. Other than that concentrate on letting your little one know he is perfect/ normal/ just like any other child. Good luck & best wishes.

Bluntness isn't bad, rudeness IS. I am very blunt, but would never just walk up to your baby and comment. Those comments are not blunt, they are rude. If it's my business, I am blunt with my honesty, but such a thing is NOT my business, so I would not say anything.

Hi cassie... I'm sorry that you've had to put up with such incredible rudeness and insensitivy. What is WRONG with people these days? To the lady in the grocery store, I would have been tempted to say, "Nothing is wrong with my baby but your manners sure need some work!" My younger daughter stopped breathing at the age of 4 weeks due to a severe upper respiratory infection. I nearly lost her that night. After a week in isolation at the hospital (I stayed with her the whole time), we came home to people who asked questions such as, "Is she going to brain damaged now?" "Could she be retarded?" (and how I DESPISE the way people use THAT word!). The drs had told me there was no way to know the effect that the loss of oxygen to her brain would have, until she grew up (fortunately, she grew up without any negative impact at all... we were blessed). But, like you, I just didn't WANT to talk about it. When people persist, I'd be blunt... "Thank you for your concern but he is just fine" and walk away. I see no reason to entertain people's questions, unless you choose to. If they are rude, you don't owe them courtesy in return.

For the sake of your child, please do not be bothered with this bluntness. Just explained your child's condition normally and not read too much into people's thoughts. We can't change the way people behave and how they think. But, we can control our own thoughts and behaviour. Moreover, if you are bothered by these behaviour, your frustrations would be written all over your face. Your child could grow up to be influenced by your frustrations and really think that there is something wrong with himself. So, for your child's sake, please do not be bothered by other's bluntness.

There are some people that have no manners. I agree with the post above telling them that there is nothing wrong with your child but there is with their manners. I would tell them that he is fine and resume what you were doing. I don't understand how people can be so rude and then when you don't explain things to their standards they get even ruder.

If that would have been me..i woudl have snapped out at her depending on my mood lol..When Sky was first born his ears looked so weird..they cupped foward because of how he was stuck and they were seriously squished..for 3 mths they were like that..and i had people asking me what happend to his ears..and omg! he looks like a mini dumbo! yea i almost slapped that biat%h!!! lol..so many rude people..and I would say,none ya!!!( meaning none of your business,,,) or i would flat out say,nothing at all.and ya know that was really rude..how would you feel if i asked why your nose is so pointed like a birds? Just give it back to the rude ones,,or jsut walk away and ignore them..

The old Ann Landers response to those kinds of questions went something like this: " Why would you want to ask such a rude question?" and I guess another way to say that is "Were you never told it is rude to ask those kinds of personal questions?" Whatever, just be a litte assertive, make them start answering questions, instead of asking.

that is very rude for ppl to ask you anything about your your son.i would just walk away an not say nothing.they wouldnt wont to hear what i would really say.i walk away or you could be blunt back.tell them its none of their business

They maybe just curious. I don't think they meant something else than asking. Maybe you need to get used to it because you can't stop people from asking. People just can't always find a way to ask in a gentler way than they know so, it bothers you. They're just so direct and yeah, of course it's your issue with your baby that's making it all worse. When they approach you just answer them in a nice way. Make it a habit to not take their questions in a rude way. You have to make yourself get used to it because you have to live with the situation that your baby is in. If you've already accepted your baby's condition then be enthusiastic in answering people's questions. It won't bother you as much anymore eventually.

I have hydrocephalus. I was diagnosed as an adult and I was born with it. My head is slightly bigger than normal but I am so tall, you can't really notice it. I had surgery at UCLA for what's called a 3rd ventriculostomy. I did not want a shunt as they are troublesome. When your child is older, you may want to look into that. After my surgery, I had a half shaved head. People stared, and asked questions. I finally got to the point of lying with some ridiculous story. It usually made them feel uncomfortable and proved my point. I wouldn't advise that for you. It will help as his hair grows in and becomes thicker and his body grows. You could try saying, "He's had a few problems, but he's ok now. Thank you for asking." And then move on.

I'm so sorry that people say things that upset you about your son. I guess that it is in human nature for us to be curious creatures, but can't these people tell that they are making you feel uncomfortable? I don't understand the audacity of people sometimes. I really hope that you find a solution as to what to say to such people! ^_^ People really can be so blunt and cruel.. I am so sorry that you have to encounter this more often than most because of your son. It is really sad that people can't just leave things alone and not try to pry you for information in such a callous way.

My story is similar, only my daughter's condition is cosmetic. She was born with a large strawberry on her neck in the front and mongolian spots on her back that look like bruises. I was constanly asked by people how she got hurt, or what was wrong with her. I even overheard a conversation stating that a lady was going to call cps because my newborn appeared to have been beaten. I dealt with it by first getting angry and defensive, then I wised up. As I was being asked these rude questions, I would turn it around on them and say something like, "What kind of adult asks those types of questions? A child I understand. If you want to know about it, please ask, and I'll gladly explain." Try not to take it to heart and remember that through these experiences, you can teach your child tolerance and how not to become one of those people who asks those types of questions. Good luck to you and your family!

Well first of all it sounds like you are running into some rude people. You should not have to explain your situation to strangers..it is none of thier business. I would tell them exactly what you are...and if you get dirty looks etc..just ignore them...who care what they think. As long as he is fine..and you know it..that is all that matters...

Me being a blunt person my self, for starters I would just make faces at your son just to see him smile. But if I were in your shoes I would just plain out say that it is none of there business, I would also say that they dont see me going up to them and asking what is wrong with them. They should mind there own business and keep there nosy selves to them selves. I realise that this is rude but to be honest they are being rude to you by asking those kind of questions about an innocent child. It is not right. When I do to the store for any reason and I see a child that looks diffrent, I dont see the diffrence I see a child who deserves love and attention just like all the other children in this world and all I would like to see is a smile and maybe even a giggle so I will make faces at them just to get a smile. It seems most parents prefer that and dont mind as long as I keep a little distance and are not pushy.

Some people are rude and very disrespectful.I work with mentally retarded adults but overnights but i work some days if asked to, and when we take our clients on outings people stare and look like they have never seen people with disabilities before.I get so heated and want to say "what are you looking at" but I dont.Maybe one day a client will ask what they are starring at?Then they will stop!!

You cannot control how people react to your angel, you CAN use it as an educational moment to enlighten others, I don't think most people mean to be rude, I'd rather they ask than whisper/stare. It would be very appropriate to say, "I don't need to discuss my personal business with you" and just move on

Hi Cassie I understand what you mean it is if people who have not been taught proper manners and sometimes it is the adults. I remember recently going to the doctors office with my 6 year old and my two-year old was with me and he was throwing a temper-tamtrum because he wanted to go home and this women just kept turning around looking back at us if someone dropped a bomb. Thats what two-year olds do. I couldnt help my self but I looked right back at her. As far as an appropriate way to say your son is fine im sorry i cant help you on that one I think these individuals just need a class in mannerism. Take care of your self as well as your son.

I would let them be aware of their ignorance by saying something like, "Well, my son has is own characterists as you have your own. You are blessed to be born without any disabilities." Then I would just smile and walk away.