Am I Expecting too Much from my Friends?
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
January 4, 2007 10:03pm CST
I have been a member here on mylot since the middle of October. Since then I have seen a lot of people come and go, and a lot of people ask if they could be a Friend of mine, but never see them responding back to anything I ever start as a Discussion. I do understand if you might not relate with everything that I have started, but lately my responses have really dropped off to New discussions that I start to where I wonder where people are at?
I have considered going thru my Friends list, and seeing who I can delete that it seems like no matter what I start as a Discussion they never post to it. I know my thoughts might seem a little Rude to some, but I do take the time to respond back to my Friends, and people who respond back to my Discussions as I feel it is only fair. So if you respond to mine, and you never see my responding to yours, just hang on. I will get to them.
If I am being radical, or overboard, let me know, but everyone else was discussing the Topic of Friends in mylot, and who should we remove, so I wanted to see what others thought on my thoughts to this topic.
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80 responses
@EconKnowMix (858)
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
Well this is my motto which you can find in MyLoy Profile:
"If you are my friend you do not need any explanations from me. If you are my enemy you don't believe any of my explanations."
So, whatcha gonna be?
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Interesting thoughts here. Maybe we could all learn a thing or two from this one.
@greengal (4286)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Eactly, this seems to be the "got topic" right now in Mylot..everybody is talkign about reconsidering their friend list..lol. I get a lot of friend requests too, God know why!! I often deny these requests unless I feel they are interested in maintaining some kind of contact, either by responding to discussions or atleast leaving a note once in a while. Most of the friends I have now are the "deletable" kind, I think I should clean out my friends' list too! But there are a handful who respond to my discussions and I do so in return. I think that's what we are here for..to help each other.:)
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I know how it is to be tired and post on here. But I feel Friends on here is important. I have made a lot of wonderful Friends on here, and Love to help those who feel kind enough to respond back to me.
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Its not the same when i first joined friends would respond but you know what alot of them are gone and then its some that request to be my friend and dont even bother to answer my questions.You are on my friend list and this is like the 2nd post i have seen of yours lately.I have my notify button off because it fills my email box and then i go to the friend posted feature but there are so many and then alot of discussions get pushed back to the end... but anyway its hard to respond to everybody.If you will see in my discussion Is it That Serious.I might only delete the inactive ones but then again i dont know.....
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I know what you mean. I have wondered the same thing, and then there are some I never see respond to any of my discussions anymore, so I wonder if it is worth keeping them on my friends list. But I do go and read and respond back to anyone who responds to any of my posts as a curteousy to them. And I am proud to have you as my friend as long as you want to be there.
@raisushkr (1398)
• India
5 Jan 07
hey i too made a lot of friends nd here .i used to respond to them regularly like 3 discusions per each friends.but now i have reduced that.i got a few referals so they do the work and i get 25%.i do very few responding like 20 per day and so an start 1 or 2 discusions.thats all
@vinney_143 (662)
• India
5 Jan 07
yup.... you are expecting lot and this is your downfall. Expecting something from someone can hurt so badly that you cant come over it. So, never expect from anyone, i mean anyone except your parents. If they are not responding, then leave it.
@Pekachu (1112)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Good morning ! I am new here just joined lastnite I was actually looking for a place to earn money but i came aceross this site found it interesting anyway i was reading and i do agree cant expect anything from friends or family as in my case i have a special needs child and one by one all friends and family have disappeared interesting thing is i dont ask of them anything but they ask of me an i have my hands full thank you life is very stressful especially doing it alone so maybe i will make friends here maybe not .I expect nothing and wont get hurt that way.
@shyam4uall (1002)
• India
5 Jan 07
This is an online earning community and not a simple or online friend making community such as Orkut.So I think the first priority for anyone to be on MyLot is to response more number of discussions in less time.So I think they doesn't have the exra time to surf with the friends list and answer all the discussions started by all tye friends.
Atlast it's your own decision whether to delete friends or not..but I don't think it will help you in any way.
@edigital (2709)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Either you approved inactive less interesting friends so your friends are not intrested on your topics. In other words, if all discussions is response by friends only then myLot will become friendLot...lol. I always prefer to respond my friends discussion but what is interesting and easy for me I respond those discussions too without hesitation.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Jan 07
What I was saying is what about the people who are your Friends list who have become inactive, or Never respond back to anything you start? Is it worth keeping there as a Friend?
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Well, this is the not the response I was looking for, but if you say so.
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I know. I have way too many of these friends, too. I wish there was a way to know who the inactive ones are. That would help a lot. Of course, I'm overwhelmed myself and not keeping up like I should. Back in the earlier days mylot was much more manageable. I could work full time just trying to answer the responses to my discussions. That pays nothing, and, unfortunately, I cannot afford to do nothing with my time except answer responses. Then I try to answer quality answers to every post I respond to, and that takes a lot of time to where I don't do many a day. And there are so many people here. I know mylot is wanting more and more members, but the site was easier to keep up with when things were small.
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I recently looked through my friends list to see if I needed to delete anyone. I found it hard to find a good reason to delete them. I only deleted one and that was because he sent me a very strange message. I try to comment on all my friends discussions but things have been hectic around here and finding time is hard. I also find it hard to keep track of who is responding to my discussions. So I will just let it go for now.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I can understand this one for sure. You have been a Good friend of mine though, and I enjoy reading your Posts and Discussions you start, and respond back to them.
@dellion (6698)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 07
Hi ssnaqvi, I can see that you are quite new to this community and you may not aware of mylot new guidelines for discussions which they actually not allow us to use all capital letter when responding or posting a new topics.You check it out by follow this link http://www.mylot.com/nr/displayalerts.aspx and I hope it will help. Just a friendly suggestion to you:)
@god_spear (498)
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
As of now i found out that you almost had 3 thousand plus discussions, maybe you have earn a lot, im am new member here and still im looking for friends, some have responded to my topic some are not, maybe some of your friends are busy posting to increase their ratings.
i have sent messages also to my new friends but up to now no one ever replied to my messages, I will try to sent you message and i hope i will got a reply. Thanks. God Bless, Happy New year!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
18 Apr 07
So True So True. There are so many discussions on here that even if you were to Add everyone to your Friends list and then try to communicate with them, or Check out all of their discussions every day, you would not have time to live a life outside of myLot. So Yes, each persons choice and answer will vary.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Hi, nice to meet you and I invite you to be my friend.....Have a great time posting!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Well, I am having a wonderful time here in myLot, and I hope you are too. :)
@lrkrish (4)
• India
5 Jan 07
i understood your feelings. but mylot is providing a lot of discussions. its difficult for anyone to see and add comments to all those discussions started by thier friends.they might find some other interesting discussions and they may respond to them. even myself i just saw your discussion and thought to respond. and even if u reply , i may not respond again.becoz i may find some other discussion better than this .so don't feel that ur frds are not responding to your discussions .ok.
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I remove people that have not posted or responded to me anymore. I feel that they left MyLot. Sometimes I goof, and offend someone. So, I add them back if they want to still be friends. I like my friends to have discussions with me. I do realize that all of us cannot spend that much time on here, so I allow a fair amount of time to go by before I delete anyone.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
I don't let it worry me; people either respond or they don't. It's a big world out there. I get plenty of responses to my discussions. I don't get hundreds or thousands, but I get responses. I also respond to plenty.
@nana1944 (1364)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Krause, I am going to tell you why I haven't responded lately . I had trouble with my computer after I moved a couple of months ago but I am back now. Right now I am at my daughter's house as she moved to the litte bitty town I did. So I have a reason not to have checked out and responded to discussions. Not an excuse mind you, but a valid reason. I myself would probably not delete anyone unless it were for something real bad. Not trying to upset you, just stating my opinion as usual.
@rocky777 (353)
• India
6 Jan 07
I'm responding to your discussion, knowing full well the disclosure in your discussion, viz. that you may or may not respond to my discussions.
Be that as it may, some people are naturally gregarious, and friendly. Some are reserved and take time to open up. So when somebody asks to make you a friend, it is likely due to your having said something on myLot which they agree with totally. In any case myLot friends are unlikely to touch you for a tenner at any point in time, so no harm in making them friends. They just might add to your income by responding to a discussion of yours. Also they are potential visitors to that website of yours which is so long in the making, or potential signups to that killer program which is going to make you a million internet dollars....
So why not?
@maximus2006 (835)
• Hong Kong
6 Jan 07
I think what you have done is right! I will do the same as you if I have this problem. I think we make friends just to wanna share our opinions with them, then when I post a discussion, I wanna my friends to give their opinon. I will feel depressed if there is not any reponses from my friends. I do check the new discussions which my friends started and give a response every day. ALso I do read my friends' responses carefully and rate them!
@gramskaren (661)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I see what you are saying and I have only been here a few days. I have one discussion here and only got two responses. I thought it was a rather good one but I guess not. People need to respond to some of the ones that have no responses to make people feel better.
