Wear have all the people with goals gone?

I think they probably still have goals. Achieving those goals just may take a little longer for some. Sometimes things get thrown in your way and those goals just take a little longer. My goal was to be a nurse. I ended up getting married, moving to a new state, having a baby, moving back, going through deployments (my husband was in the military), having another baby. Things definatly didn't go how I planned BUT I LOVE my life now. I have beautiful children. A wonderful husband. I'm a SAHM and can't think of anything that I would rather do then do that whole mommy, PTO, little league, ballet stuff...LOL Honestly, when my kids get far enough in school, I can still be a nurse. It may be harder to go through school in my 30's but I think I will appreciate it more! My goals are still there. I just have some new goals on my list that weren't there before. I don't think I wonder around aimlessly because I didn't get my main goal accomplished.

I agree with you many have goals but do not try to reach them. I for one have a goal of becoming a cop and a teacher. I am working on both of those. I train with the police deprt and I go to college to get my teaching dagree. It is hard work but one can never acomplish their goals with out the hard work.

a very good post . I got married to young had 3 boys then divorced him married my souldl mate had him for 42 1/2 years when I go to the JOb seen after all kids grew up they asked me what my goals were on a ap. I really didnt know what to say I had already done it all I thought I just wanted to get outside the home and work and enjoyed it very much. But kids now aday think they can skim through life with nothing on thier mind gets ya to wondering where every thing went wrong!

I am very goal oriented also. My last goal was to become a CPA before I was 40 - I barely made it :) My goal now is to help my husband build up our home-based business enough that he can quit his regular job.

I think it's true that many people walk through life without purpose. They attend college for 4-5 years only to change thier major 7 times and graduate with out any degree because they minored in everything but never finished a major when they ran out of money. I have many goals for my life, and have accomplished quite a few, I am married with 2 little boys, have a nice place to live, and have a very nice life. I love staying home with my children, and I look forward to having more. My main purpose in life is to serve Jesus Christ and Follow after him. I think people lack purpose and focus because our society encourages us to do what feels good. IF you don't feel liek you are in love anymore, get a divorce! If you don't feel like working where you are, Quit your job! If you don't feel like being pregnant, Get an abortion! People lack persevearance, and never see anything through!

WOW, I'm lovin' this discussion. I've actually noticed a few things myself. There are people that don't have any goals, and they don't succeed. Then there are people that have goals and succeed. There are also people that have goals, but get distracted by other things. For instance, I'm unemployed and it's really been bringing me down. But now that my grandmother is dying and needs more help, I can be the one to help her. I'll see her more often because of it. So I'm beginning to think that this is why I'm unemployed. One other aspect is those that have too many goals. There are those that have too many, and still get ahead AND there are those with so many goals that they are either trying to do everything at once and not getting there, or they're having problems prioritizing, and then those that just get too stressed out about it all. Also, you get some people that don't have goals now, because at one point they did, and then they got a major let down and couldn't achieve a goal and just gave up. For instance, and baseball player that wants to be in the major leagues and then gets paralized in an accident. Since my grandmother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, I've made a list of 50 things that I want to do before I die. These are big things that will take a while for me to acheive, but it gives me aim. Then I can break down the big goals into smaller peices and hopefully get there step by step. I think it would also be nice for people to respond and mention their goals and how they've achieved them, or how they're working on achieving them. It would also be nice to hear the other side, from the people that don't have goals. That would really make this very exciting.

well, everyone has a goal in life, they might not show it though, or they might have one but not really try to reach it. im sure everyone thinks in having a better life or more money or a better job, or just win the lottery. i think these could count as a goal in life, i know someone who constantly buys lottery tickets and never wins, this is like his goal in life, win the lottery. some have to pay a mortgage, this could also be a goal in life. u see i believe everyone has a goal in life, and some might even have a daily goal, i mean something to do the next day. even if they dont show u they have a goal, they are at least working, which means they have things to pay, this might be their goal whats really ur goal in life?

i am workin hard to achieve my goal. i want to be a animator and want to do that course from Canada. but due to financial problem i am not able to do that, so that i join a company and now working as a web designer and collecting money for that course. well im 18 yrs old and i think sure i will collect enough money in 3-4 yrs.

This is a great discussion! I'm now inspired to put my goals down on paper - even the really long term goals. I think we tend to get so caught up with our day to day lives that we do not take the time off to think really long term. That must be the reason why so many of us retire with less money and income than we would like, why so many of us retire on unemployment benefits and pensions where we get much less than we would like to have. Most people are like that, even upto perhaps 70 % or more. But the really long term thinkers do have their goals in place and they do their day to day activities in such a way that they do achieve their goals. And they are the ones that are truly blessed! I hope all of us join their ranks too, especially you western_valleygirl! All the very best to you!

I admit I have a lot of goals but am afraid to attain them because I admit I don't believe in myself and fear failure. Silly I know, but I have a lot of work to do. Maybe before I get to my other goals the first one I should get to is finding a way to increase my self esteem.

I'm one of the people you talk about, I tend to drift with life without working too hard to achieve goals, my goals for me are just obscure things but I reach them sometimes without stressing myself much, I don't think there's anything wrong with that, people are different and this is how I am and many people are like me too. Some how I find people with too much determination and goals set for everything; I find them annoying and they don't enjoy their life much, I know that myy way is not the best but something in the middle may be better although I'm happy the way i am :)

That is dreadful I believe that everyone should have goals in their lives that they want to accomplish something, I agree with what you are saying that fear of failing put them off but if they do not try then they will never know and I have my goals and I will put your utmost into achieving what I want out of my life.

Yuo are right, infact this classical good habit is vanishing out, unfortunatley I am too of the same school of thought :(

Obviously, you haven't read enough through the forums. There are plenty of people with goals, dreams and ambitions. I work at mine everyday and they do as well.

my goal in life was to graduate highschool and go to college to become an accountant. I graduate highschool but because of monety problems im not able to go to college yet

In the present scenario, people set their temporary goals, inspired by others. These goals often changes and most of the time it has become mandatory that a person persue education just to get a high paid job. Majority of people concentrate on science groups, leaving behind the other. Their ultimate goal is to lead a comfortable and luxurious life, but in acheiving them they are loosing much of their moral values. Certainly education provides a good position, but that should be persuied interestingly, in systamatic manner, finally acheiving aimed goals. Very few have strict committment to their goals and majority are aimless, going through the wind and water.

Maybe the people you refer to are just tired of being dissapointed when things don't go their way. And i don't think there is anything wrong with living in the moment.